emotionsmessmeup Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 So..I have been havign great *** with my fwb. only thing...his behaviour is so good right before when he is horny... but once we have spent the night together..he is cold..until he is horny again.. I am looking for suggestions to play him...tease him...mess with his head..like he messes with mine.. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 I am looking for suggestions to play him...tease him...mess with his head..like he messes with mine.. Do you mean in a playful way, or a hurtful way? What is your best case scenario in terms of what effect you want this to have? To 'get' at someone you have to withdraw something that they want. In his case, he only wants sex on his terms and at his convenience. The only bargaining chip you have to play with is the sex. If you want to 'get' at him you'll have to take that away at a time where he is most expecting it. All this will do really, is frustrate him (or not - and he'll simply find someone else) and scare you into thinking he won't be back. You can only 'get' at someone to the extent you are willing to lose. If you aren't willing to lose anything in this situation, then there is really nothing effective you can do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted October 4, 2005 Author Share Posted October 4, 2005 playful way...meaning..tease him...make him feel oh he lost me.. i feel like its become too easy for him to have me when he wants. and he is a player! Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 I am looking for suggestions to play him...tease him...mess with his head..like he messes with mine.. Actually, I'd say you were messing with your own head EMMU. FWB when you really hold a torch for him... you're a little crazy Link to post Share on other sites
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted October 4, 2005 Author Share Posted October 4, 2005 I wanna say he likes me too.. its like high school..u know u like the person and the person likes u..but u know there is no future... so u have fun..and the sex is good..so u enjoy it while it lasts... Link to post Share on other sites
elijahBailey Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 awww girl, yer evil !!! he's cold until he wants the booty? Well, uhm, that's what FWB's are all about, no? If it were otherwise, it'd have been a relationship. how about this... Text him naughty msgs and get him worked up and fix a date for the night, then cancel at the last minute. Do it a few more times. Who knows.... maybe then he might come knockin' at your door in the middle of the night beggin' for some btw, why DO you care? It's an FWB right? Or are you havin' feelings for him already? Maybe you feel used? I'm not gettin' it. Link to post Share on other sites
elijahBailey Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 You can only 'get' at someone to the extent you are willing to lose. If you aren't willing to lose anything in this situation, then there is really nothing effective you can do. Oh yeah, this is so true too. If he's a player, once you start the games going and he decides he wants to get back at you, you might wish you never started it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted October 4, 2005 Author Share Posted October 4, 2005 I love the sex..i mean love it...and its been going on since the beginning of this year...obviously he is loving it too... and yea..somewhere we have started carign for each other...but i know for a fact anything else...and the things wudnt work out... but I dont feel used...I feel..its becomming too easy for him...that I should play a little harder to get..u know..whats the fun otherwise...its all about the chase after all... Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 I love the sex..i mean love it...and its been going on since the beginning of this year...obviously he is loving it too... and yea..somewhere we have started carign for each other...but i know for a fact anything else...and the things wudnt work out... but I dont feel used...I feel..its becomming too easy for him...that I should play a little harder to get..u know..whats the fun otherwise...its all about the chase after all... I think you could work on increasing the level of time and emotion he invests in this FWB situation without necessarily creating a relationship. It needn't be about playing games either. In fact, when it gets to the stage where you're having to think about playing games, that means that you're investing far more time and thought into this situation than you should be. You're perceiving his behaviour as "playing games" but that isn't necessarily the case. It may simply be that he's leading a busy life and has put you in a box marked Friend With Benefit. That he dips into that box (if you'll pardon the expression) when it's convenient for him to do so. Forgetting about playing games and simply getting on with your life and keeping busy will mean that there are times you can't see him. Can't be available at the drop of a hat. That might result in him becoming more interested, respectful and affectionate towards you...or it may simply result in him shopping around for someone who's more available. The bottom line is that you must get yourself into a mindset where you are able to deal with either outcome. Once you're in that situation, then I think there will be more emotional equality between you. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 and yea..somewhere we have started carign for each other... I don't think he cares for you at all. Link to post Share on other sites
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