Can I trust him?

[Fey_fey]

My ex boyfriend of seven years called me the last week of last year. We have been seperated for 11 months. 

He told me he was sorry for leaving. He said he left because I kept making things difficult for him and made him feel like he was not doing enough. His parents and siblings interfered during the break up and tried to bring us back together. Although he told me he came back because he had time to think about things objectively without influence from anyone. My mind is not still settled.

He broke up with me for 5 days, a couple of months to the 11 months break up ( two breakups). He came back then because i begged him. He treated me very badly then, just woke up one morning and shut me out.

Anyways, now that he is back, i don't feel physically attracted to him anymore like i used to. Also, i don't still trust him. Although he told me he would never leave, i don't still trust him.

I took him back because i don't have anything serious with anyone for now. Also we had some some pending issues before the break up, verbal abuse when he is angry, which he told me he is working on and hasn't been confirmed yet by me because he is on his best behaviour for now.

Do you think i am making a mistake?

[S2B]

No, there is NO evidence you will EVER be able to trust him.

he’s done nothing to earn your trust and everything to not earn it.

hes wasting your time - For as long as you allow it.

[basil67]

So basically, you're using a guy you're not attracted to, who's abusive and who's already dumped you because you've got nothing better?   Surely singledom would be better than this.

[JTSW]

Hi fey-fey,

I'm sorry lovely but i really do think you are making a big mistake.

You don't trust him at all and you are not attracted to him anymore.

What's the point of pursuing this?

You know it's just going end the same way as before.