Making new friends as a 33 y/o guy in NYC?

[thr1986]

Hi, I’m coming off a recent breakup. Well actually two. Both lengthy relationships, back to back, both relationships I basically committed my entire self and life to the relationship. 
 

i need to make a new group of friends and I’m 33. I have one quite good friend who I hang out with more than anyone. He is engaged though and lives with his fiancé. It’s tough hanging out with him these days. 
 

any advice on building a friend circle at 33 in New York City?

[preraph]

I've heard it's the hardest place to talk to people and that people think you're weird if you talk to them.  So I guess you have to be around them repeatedly before people trust you.  So maybe hang out at the same place at the same time regularly and see if you start getting to know any regulars.  Whether that's a Starbucks or a bar or cafe or a hobby.  

[d0nnivain]

Join something.  

Become a regular somewhere. 

Take an adult education class or attend some kind of free lecture.  Go to the stuff put forth by that group a lot until you become a regular.  

If you went to school in or around the City, check out what your alumni association is doing.  

Volunteer somewhere doing something you care about. Every charity is always looking for board members.  Fight a disease; raise money for the arts.  

Go to a MeetUp that does something you are interested in.  

[Ellener]

One of my closest friends is in NY, she says it's tough even for us English to cope there! Hell, she got into a cult she was so lonely, but you know that's how we got so close. We could have parted ways forever but I spoke my mind and argued with her and told her she would always have a friend in me even if she stayed in the cult, which she eventually left....not saying you should do anything so extreme, just that in extremis we do get closer.

Be with other people who are kind. It's the recipe for success.

UU Church? Most of my friends seem to have gravitated there in recent years.

[alphamale]

meetup dot com