Author siren8272 Posted January 17, 2020 Author Share Posted January 17, 2020 14 hours ago, Elswyth said: Possible. These cultures have a lot of similarities IMO. Yes im from the south and have a family background in the baptist church. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted January 17, 2020 Share Posted January 17, 2020 11 hours ago, siren8272 said: The reason Ive even taken sides is because my mother and uncles have called to talk about it. They basically painted the picture my cousin was being a brat and I being a loyal cousin defended her. Sorry for standing up for my cousin like she has done for me many a time. Standing up for her would involve talking to her and offering her your support as she deals with the issue. Any discussion with others simply perpetuates the drama... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Author siren8272 Posted January 19, 2020 Author Share Posted January 19, 2020 On 1/17/2020 at 1:42 PM, Mr. Lucky said: Standing up for her would involve talking to her and offering her your support as she deals with the issue. Any discussion with others simply perpetuates the drama... Mr. Lucky i assure you I have offered support ...she doesnt mind me standing up for her . Link to post Share on other sites
Banana Bender Posted January 19, 2020 Share Posted January 19, 2020 Sadly, I can relate to similar awful behaviour. At a guess, and based on experience with my ex MIL, its what happens when a fundamentally evil & psychotic woman, adopts the outer shell of Fundamentalist Christianity. Not to sermonise or Theologise, but put simply Salvation involves recognition of one's own shortcomings, and surrounding to Christ. Those who refuse to surrender simply adopt the outward posturing of Christianity, and seem to become adept at "Weaponising" the Gospel. For the record, I loved my in-laws, and remain friends with some. My FIL was indeed a Saint. His biggest shortcoming however, was his blind devotion to his wife. It actually took my own children to point out to me just how evil their grandmother was. I'd always known that she inflicted horrible emotional & psychological abuse on her children, but it took decades for me to realise she was still doing it even into adulthood. The REASON I mention all this, is to say that sadly the best thing you can do for your cousin, is to suggest she has nothing further to do with her mother, or any part of the family that supports the aunt. Sadly the abuse won't stop until she is dead, and even then the effects linger. In her last days, my ex was caring for her Mother on a daily basis, hoping till the last for some form of recognition and reconciliation. Yet the mistreatment and ingratitude continued till her last breath, and in the end my ex was left devastated. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 19, 2020 Share Posted January 19, 2020 On 1/17/2020 at 5:44 PM, siren8272 said: Sorry for standing up for my cousin like she has done for me many a time. Why did you write this? Nobody here has suggested that you did the wrong thing by standing up for her. Link to post Share on other sites
Vanity1 Posted January 21, 2020 Share Posted January 21, 2020 Some mothers are laughable. They think just because they have the title mom over you, that means they can get away with anything and everything 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted January 22, 2020 Share Posted January 22, 2020 Regardless of culture, your aunt's behavior is extremely inappropriate. It is also abusive to just touch her private areas like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author siren8272 Posted January 30, 2020 Author Share Posted January 30, 2020 On 1/19/2020 at 5:14 PM, basil67 said: Why did you write this? Nobody here has suggested that you did the wrong thing by standing up for her. Because someone was chastising me for speaking up for my cousin when I was asked about it.... Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 On 1/22/2020 at 2:45 AM, JTSW said: Regardless of culture, your aunt's behavior is extremely inappropriate. It is also abusive to just touch her private areas like that. Maybe she learned it from Sixteen Candles ?? Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted February 8, 2020 Share Posted February 8, 2020 That's why I hate traditions! She was in the wrong! But her mind will never change! I am glad the girl is living on her own now! Link to post Share on other sites
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