Author Eternal Sunshine Posted February 7, 2020 Author Share Posted February 7, 2020 I ended up working my notice to the end. Everyone told me not to but I had a sense of responsibility to make detailed handover documents for the next person. I ignored my boss and VP completely. They haven't organized any going away events. Today was my last day. Someone from another team organized a surprise party for me. Quite a few people had speeches prepared to tell me how much I helped them, how important my work was to their projects and that me leaving is a big loss. I was also really happy with the gift I got - one lady noticed what brands and colors I like to wear so she bought me a watch that I already had an eye on for a few months (she didn't know that). It was nice to feel appreciated so I am glad I stayed to say proper good-bye to everyone. My boss just made a snarky comment in passing "I haven't even noticed you resigned" 🙄 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted February 7, 2020 Share Posted February 7, 2020 You did well. It’s good when you know you did the right thing. life is short 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ChatroomHero Posted February 8, 2020 Share Posted February 8, 2020 6 hours ago, Eternal Sunshine said: It was nice to feel appreciated so I am glad I stayed to say proper good-bye to everyone. My boss just made a snarky comment in passing "I haven't even noticed you resigned" 🙄 So I am generally vindictive by nature but I usually let most things like this go. Every once in a while the universe gives you a chance for satisfaction and all the right to actually take it. Now the smart play is to let it go, move on, don't burn bridges that may come back to haunt you in the future, bla, bla, bla. But in this case I would jump at the chance and future be damned. 10 years from now if it costs you a VP position with a 7 figure salary, you'll still be satisfied. If it were me, I would wait a couple of weeks on your new job. Then send an email from your personal email or maybe a burner email but from you (plausible deniability if you use a burner email), to all of your co-workers and include that boss. Tell your co-workers how much you appreciated them giving you a party and showing their appreciation and how much you appreciated them. Then go on about how much your new job treats you incredibly and you had no idea such a god environment could exist and that you are so lucky to have landed in a company where there are such top notch and respectful people above you with an incredible management style you've never seen before in your career. Tell them you almost forgot how good life could be being exposed to such amazing management styles, not to mention you had no idea the pay scale really went WAY up on the market since you last looked for a job. Thank each of them by name and leave the boss off that list of thanks. End it with something like, "I know you all have a lot of opportunities in works so good luck with them and based on my experience I'd recommend when you get a life changing opportunity, take it. Take it like the next day and trust me... absolutely do not delay by say, 2 weeks, based on my experience". Then sign off with something like, "Keep sending the jokes! They'll never get old even though I might not have time to read them all at the pace they are coming in". If you write it craftily enough whatever you purposely leave out will say more than you ever could actually say and frankly will stick with your boss probably until the day he dies. There are not many times you are justified in leaving a huge fart while getting off a crowded elevator. To me, this is one where I might toss my underwear in there too. If it was as bad as you say, your co-workers will take it a ray of hope too. win-win. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 8, 2020 Share Posted February 8, 2020 now that you have all those gym clothes and time to do it you can actually start going to the gym and that will get you out of the house. You should definitely start some hobby so you get out regularly. I've been home most of the time this week because it's been crappy weather, but I got out today and stayed out a good part of the day just going out to eat across town and stuff. I still get out and go to the office a little bit in the morning some mornings. At least having this on call office job gets me up in the morning if only start to read my email and see if I'm needed. Link to post Share on other sites
dangerous Posted April 20, 2020 Share Posted April 20, 2020 Any updates OP, as time has now passed, and indeed Corona has arrived? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted April 20, 2020 Share Posted April 20, 2020 Congrats on the new position! My next big goal with regard to work is to work from home 100%. I'm doing that in the current situation and want it to be permanent. Your previous employer's behavior makes it clear this was a very smart move. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
greymatter Posted April 21, 2020 Share Posted April 21, 2020 Same here, RS, I'd like to permanently work from home at this point in my life. Eternal Sunshine, I hope you update soon. I'm being worked to death in my current job and it is totally the culture. Love it or leave (is the un-stated tone) and the expectations have consistently been to do more with less (fewer staff and less FTE, less of a budget, etc.). Really hoping it works out for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted April 21, 2020 Share Posted April 21, 2020 I'm in a new position and my new boss is kind of pushing me to... well, lose myself in work. I'm not going to do it. I do excellent work and give a lot, but I'm going to have a life, too. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted April 23, 2020 Author Share Posted April 23, 2020 On 4/20/2020 at 11:33 PM, dangerous said: Any updates OP, as time has now passed, and indeed Corona has arrived? I have been in my new role close to 3 months. I am much more at peace and my workload is about 10-20% of what it was even before the coronavirus (this is also a full time position!). In fact, once I have stepped out of every-day stresses of my previous role, it seems crazy that I was putting up with it for so long. I have also learned from my mistakes and have put up strong boundaries from day 1. I keep my hours 10-6pm and do not check or respond to emails outside of these hours. I also keep my work phone as a separate device that stays in a drawer during non-working hours. My boss is laid back and doesn't seem to mind. In general, culture is more relaxed and not many people work outside of regular hours. The down sides have nothing to do with my role. Working from home 100% of time takes a bit of getting used to. Occasionally, I enjoyed dressing up and putting on make-up for work and office banter. But I also enjoy sleeping in and no commute. The biggest difference is how fresh I feel every day and deciding what to do with all this extra time and energy. Life just feels easy and I am more tolerant with friends and family. I even feel like dating again (and I will after the coronavirus isolation is over). Meanwhile, my old job still hasn't found a replacement for my role. 2 more people from our team have resigned after me for similar reasons. They are trying to advertise for all these roles at the same time and pitch it as "our team is growing and expanding". lol I have realized that being relaxed and having a peaceful life is more important to me than career progression. No regrets. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted April 27, 2020 Share Posted April 27, 2020 Good stuff and I agree. I've figured out where my boundaries between work and free time are, and I defend them firmly. Link to post Share on other sites
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