Psul101 Posted January 15, 2020 Share Posted January 15, 2020 (edited) Hi I am 35 and had been dating this girl who is 38 for about a month when she asked if we could just be friends and she didn’t want to lead me on, ok I said I’m fine with that and it ended on a friendly note. We had arranged to go out on nye as a group and this went ahead. The night was great until on the 12th hour we both snogged and again later on. I then walked her home and we snogged again. According to a reliable source she really likes me. A week later I asked her if she would like to give it another go to which she replied the same as before she just wanted to be friends so I agreed. All through our association with each other we have been messaging frequently, one time she had a family fall out and message me about it (shoulder to cry on). It feels to me we’re just running side by side but just not converging. Any help or advice would be welcome. Edited January 15, 2020 by Psul101 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 15, 2020 Share Posted January 15, 2020 I hate to break it to you, but she’s still not interested enough to keep dating you. Sure, she enjoyed having someone to kiss on NYE. And she enjoys having someone to vent to when she wants attention. But that’s where it ends. You would be best to keep your distance from her so you don’t wind up even more disappointed when she starts dating another guy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted January 15, 2020 Share Posted January 15, 2020 You are what's known as an orbiter - someone in her orbit close enough for her to lean on for emotional support, but not give any romantic benefits to. If I were you, I'd cut off contact and only resume if she wants to go out on a real date with you. If you're there at her beck and call, she has no time to wonder about you and possibly want you again. She might not want you, anyway, but it's more likely she will if you move on with your life and get busy doing things you love - that's what makes you magnetic and attractive. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 16, 2020 Share Posted January 16, 2020 watch out with this one bro Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 16, 2020 Share Posted January 16, 2020 She enjoys your company to a point but you don't rev her motor. She will never be rude to you, but she doesn't want to date you. Be pleasant when you are thrown together but stop wasting your time pursuing her. She snogged you on NYE because it was better then being alone, not because she wants to date you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
2BGoodAgain Posted January 16, 2020 Share Posted January 16, 2020 sometimes, even when two people get along or might have more... one or both aren't in the right place to have a relationship. It looks like she's not ready to be in one... she prob enjoys the company that you provide, a shoulder to cry on, but she prob knows either she's not ready for a relationship or she knows you're not the right one to be in a relationship with... in which case, i think she's great that she's sparing you from heart ache. live your life, and be her friend... if you can't maintain that distance or think you'll fall for her over time... end it. oh... holidays... snogging as you put it or even sex(are they the same thing?).... is common... men and women do it, b/c holidays is the lonliest time of the year for most. so don't take it as it being something serious... we all get lonely during the holidays. Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted January 16, 2020 Share Posted January 16, 2020 You'll do, when she doesn't have someone that she is interested in around. Link to post Share on other sites
scooby-philly Posted January 17, 2020 Share Posted January 17, 2020 what the hell is snogging? lmfao. British term? Link to post Share on other sites
Legatus Posted January 17, 2020 Share Posted January 17, 2020 Yes it is.. something like necking on Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 17, 2020 Share Posted January 17, 2020 12 hours ago, scooby-philly said: what the hell is snogging? lmfao. British term? Making out 1 Link to post Share on other sites
scooby-philly Posted January 17, 2020 Share Posted January 17, 2020 That's what I thought. lol. Link to post Share on other sites
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