JuneGirl Posted January 15, 2020 Share Posted January 15, 2020 This is the same guy I broke up with last year 4 months ago. He has been breadcrumbing like once a month, I've been blocking him on everything, but then I woke up to a long message from him. Hello, new email acccount. I've started meeting people again, its like my ex has a radar that can tell what I'm doing, it was weird seeing the long message from my ex after I've been texting a new guy that I met like TWO days ago. In my ex's long breadcrumb, he basically said he was too weak to not message me, he couldnt keep away for so long. that he takes 100% of the blame for being an all around terrible person and admitted to his flaws, but then was also indirectly trying to find out if I have moved on or not. In his message he said he wishes could apologize and feel good about it, but he instead feels hollow, and he doesn't expect a reply from me either, and he's not trying to get me back. He feels bad for trying to blame everyone including me for his selfish behavior. He said he wishes he could tell me that he's a better person but he still has flaws. He hates that I fell out of love with him, and he hates to say that I deserve better than him. It was a weird but regretful message and I'm not sure what he was actually trying to say, but needless to say he's blocked for the 6000th time. I just feel like it was a really selfish message just trying to figure out my status in life, why I've been able to stay quiet for so long, and the "I dont expect a reply" was like a built in defense mechanism for if I continue to ignore him. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 15, 2020 Share Posted January 15, 2020 this guy Is a loser, don't give him the time of day Link to post Share on other sites
2BGoodAgain Posted January 15, 2020 Share Posted January 15, 2020 do what you've been doing. don't reply. you give a bird a crumb, he'll never leave. same for this guy. you've moved on.. focus on your new life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Beendaredonedat Posted January 15, 2020 Share Posted January 15, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, JuneGirl said: Quote This is the same guy I broke up with last year 4 months ago. He has been breadcrumbing like once a month, I've been blocking him on everything, but then I woke up to a long message from him. Hello, new email acccount. Then why haven't you changed YOUR email account so that he doesn't know your new addy and can't contact you with "breadcrumbs?" If he's "too weak to not message you" then do him the favor of actually getting over you and do what you need to do so he can't contact you. I think that perhaps, deep down you are getting some sort of ego boost from his contact or you would have done what you need to do to put an end to is contact for good. Edited January 15, 2020 by Beendaredonedat trouble with the quoting function Link to post Share on other sites
Author JuneGirl Posted January 15, 2020 Author Share Posted January 15, 2020 Why should I change my entire email address associate with all my accounts, JUST FOR HIM. Get real. Yeah so what if its an ego boost? Its exactly an ego boost. Its awesome. Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted January 15, 2020 Share Posted January 15, 2020 Probably really all he's doing is processing his feelings and sorting himself out a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
Soak Posted February 8, 2020 Share Posted February 8, 2020 Yeah, i think he is processing his feelings too. Link to post Share on other sites
KissingFire Posted March 12, 2020 Share Posted March 12, 2020 I personally don't think there's anything wrong with a little ego boost. He's testing the waters, leave him to dip his toes in alone. He can't stand that you're happy and surviving, hell, even thriving without him. You're moving on with your life, he needs to do the same. Link to post Share on other sites
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