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Me and my ,now, ex girlfriend have been broken up for a little while. We had been dating for about 4 months. I know not a long time. I had fallen for her and her for me, or so I thought. Basically she got ill and was bed ridden for a few days where she said she realised that she wasn’t ready for this as her ex had left only 3 months before, they had been broken up for ages but lived together for their kids, she said it wasn’t anything I’d done and we met up and said we should keep in touch and see what happens as we may end up friends or may get back together but whatever happens happens. 
 

now a few weeks later we have talked a bit and it’s been mostly positive I know I should have stopped talking to her but I like talking to her. Any way today she has removed me off of Facebook, can still message her, and also removed me off of snapchat. I have asked her why and she’s said it’s mainly because she can’t deal with talking to me. She hasn’t given any reason for it. Just wondered if anyone could read into why she felt the need to remove me rather than just stop talking to me. 

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She removed you because she wants you out of her life.  She's sending a clear message & she doesn't want to be tempted. 

It really is her not you but it's a lesson for you about ending things once & for all.  This lingering & still talking business is rarely a good idea.  Clean breaks are better, less messy & less confusing. 

Where you go now is forward, without her. 

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hate to say this, but you may have been her rebound from her ex....

she's realized it and now she's moving on... 

she needed you while she was getting over the lonliness/ex... so now perhaps she has or she's rebounded back to him, either way, you are out of the picture, my friend.

many times, people don't give honest answers why the relationship ends... usually b/c it's uncomfortable for them to tell you the truth, b/c it puts them in a bad light or they don't want to deal with the fall out of using someone ...knowingly but usually unknowingly...

at any rate, be glad she's letting you go now instead of much later down the road, though. i know.... it would have been better if she didn't do this at all... string you along.

it's time to move on... sorry.

good luck!

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She gave you the bad news and then allowed contact so you could avoid severe withdraw. She's given you enough time but you won't take the hint so now she has to move to the next level of the breakup by blocking you. You have put yourself in a bad situation and your only recourse is to flush her out of your life.

Sorry. I know you have feelings for her but they are not returned. She didn't do you a favor by talking with you after she made the break.

Return her sentiment by getting rid of all the memorabilia and going dark. 

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On 1/16/2020 at 12:02 PM, Jake1234 said:

Just wondered if anyone could read into why she felt the need to remove me rather than just stop talking to me.

someone who knows her ex said something to her about it.

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