fooled Posted January 16, 2020 Share Posted January 16, 2020 God bless this place. The support I received here 15 years ago when my world shattered was invaluable. I made friends that I still have. It's been...11 years since I last stopped in. For some reason this forum popped into my head today. I remembered my old screenname and password! For those of you hurting - it will pass. Keep up NC. Work on yourself. Don't wallow. Move forward. I got married 3.5 years ago and we bought our first house last year after both living in apartments our entire adult lives. Your life isn't over. It's just beginning. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 16, 2020 Share Posted January 16, 2020 indeed 1 Link to post Share on other sites
scooby-philly Posted January 17, 2020 Share Posted January 17, 2020 Wow - I can't even begin to say how awesome it is to hear this! While it's great giving support to one another, and I've gotten a lot of it myself - it's so rare to hear success stories! I'm 38. I didn't date in HS and College out of awkwardness, being a nerd, and not knowing what to do or say. I spent 22-28 in the seminary and left when my inner child finally forced me to confront the fact that I always wanted a wife and (if possible) a family. I had an engagement break off years ago - but I am thankful it happened for we were not right for each other and not compatible for the long term. Date a psycho (and yes, I use that term purposefully because even other women who knew here said it) for a year - silly of me to stay but I was hoping things would change. Then, met someone over two years ago, a lot younger. I thought she was nice, hard working, smart, kind, and beautiful. She came from a strict family and her parents didn't want her dating till her education was complete (she was working on a Nurse Practitioner degree) so while my family and friends knew, hers didn't. I was okay with it. I thought it was a "test". Then out of nowhere, she dumped me just shy of 2 years. And over IM/Text - no courage to do it to my face and couldn't even tell me the honest truth as to why. It broke my heart. While I know, from past experience, that things will get better, I was a wreck for the first 6 weeks, got somewhat better, but have been a wreck on and off (not as bad as the first 6 weeks though) the past month (holiday and winter blues?). I'm moving forward and I think not all of the sadness has to do with her - but is mixed in with frustrations about my life overall, my family, and my heart dreaming for something bigger/better career wise. Trying to get my mojo and happiness back, but it's not been easy. Anyway - thank you OP for sharing and for reminding us that the sun will eventually come out (even if not tomorrow!) 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fooled Posted January 18, 2020 Author Share Posted January 18, 2020 Sorry about your troubles, Scoob - it'll happen when it happens. Ambition is great. Being a slave to your desires isn't. Take care of you - create and own your happiness. I don't even remember how badly I hurt 15 years ago. I know I did - but I don't feel it and have no recollection of it. Every decade seems to be a new lifetime. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
scooby-philly Posted January 18, 2020 Share Posted January 18, 2020 @fooled - Appreciate the kind words! Agreed - happiness comes from within. And happiness creates worth, which creates attraction. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted January 18, 2020 Share Posted January 18, 2020 Hey Fooled, congrats on your life goals, marriage and home... Life is good It's nice to hear from the oldie crowd 😀 1 Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted January 18, 2020 Share Posted January 18, 2020 Welcome back. Link to post Share on other sites
scooby-philly Posted January 19, 2020 Share Posted January 19, 2020 @fooled - And I just realized I really s***ted all over your happy post. Congratulations to you on the success and the happiness! Link to post Share on other sites
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