pepsimax Posted January 19, 2020 Share Posted January 19, 2020 Hi My coworker is good friends with another female colleague. He phoned a guy today that works with her in her department about some work stuff and asked him 'where is my wife'? He was referring to that female colleague. She got married like a year ago and I heard she is pregnant. Why do you think he referred to her as his wife? I am curious as I really like him ☺ Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted January 19, 2020 Share Posted January 19, 2020 He was joking but likely being serious at the same time but he referred to her as his 'wife' because he digs her. And if you like him, flirt with him like crazy so he'll know. Sometimes we're totally in the dark about it. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 19, 2020 Share Posted January 19, 2020 The term "work wife" has been around for a while. The term means somebody who you are close to at work, who helps you, a bit above & beyond the normal required duties. It's rarely sexual although there is an element of flirting. How does this concern you? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 19, 2020 Share Posted January 19, 2020 Well, I was called my ex's work wife and it wasn't ALWAYS flattering! To me, it really just denoted this level of familiarity, the good, the bad, and the ugly. I think the one constant is it probably means someone they really depend on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted January 22, 2020 Share Posted January 22, 2020 I think it was more a message to you then to her because it shows his comfort level when speaking with you. I think you have a shot if you don't let it pass by. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted January 22, 2020 Share Posted January 22, 2020 It is usually used by two people a man and a woman who work closely together often with the same or a similar job. I personally think there is more to it than friendly workplace banter. What does "a wife" usually do? She tends to the man, tidies up after him and makes sure he is on time and organised. Demoting your work colleague to "wife", can be seen as cute or friendly, but it is often about power. He assumes the superior role, and she often being flattered by the attention complies, even if they are on an equivalent level or she is his superior... It is a trick basically.. Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted January 22, 2020 Share Posted January 22, 2020 Some times, in a business setting... people will have a "Work Wife." A long time ago... when I had a normal 9 to 5 kind of job... there was a girl who I got along with, and we worked very well together... and we always helped, and covered for each other. She was often referred to as my work-wife. My wife got along with her, and her husband knew about me. There was NEVER anything physical Roll the clock forward 15 years... and she has been the shoulder I needed to lean on while my wife got crazy angry, and ripped our family apart. I know most of the time it's not that way, but it was a deep friend bond that has lasted for a long time. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted January 22, 2020 Share Posted January 22, 2020 36 minutes ago, Blind-Sided said: Roll the clock forward 15 years... and she has been the shoulder I needed to lean on while my wife got crazy angry, She has tended to you, smoother your path. have you tended to her? Link to post Share on other sites
2BGoodAgain Posted January 22, 2020 Share Posted January 22, 2020 it's a fun way to say we're close, even though it's obvious she's preggo and married. it's a joke, and fun... NOW... if she wasn't preg or married and looking etc... then i'd be more concerned... but as you described it... it's harmless fun. Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted January 22, 2020 Share Posted January 22, 2020 (edited) 8 hours ago, elaine567 said: She has tended to you, smoother your path. have you tended to her? I have... not physically... but mentally I've been there for her. She is married to a typical "Man Child" and she has come to me looking for help. And if anything good came out of my divorce,, is that it may have saved hers. She does not want to put her kids through what mine have, and are going through. Because of that, she has been working, and talking with her H. (and I got her away from an EA she was having with a co-worker) Edited January 22, 2020 by Blind-Sided 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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