SailorD Posted January 20, 2020 Share Posted January 20, 2020 Just looking for a few thoughts really, I broke up out of of a long distance relationship almost 4 months ago, due to circumstances more than anything(distance) we both still loved each but the break up was abit sour I suppose as I didn’t take it well. Im no longer seeing my therapist and feel great, it’s really helped me learn a lot about my self. I reached out on new year, after 2 months of no contact daft I know and messaged her drunk all I said was I miss you and was blocked the next day now just previously I posted a general pic on sc not aimed at anyone but she deleted me. I suppose after all this time I’m wondering what Stage the dumper must be going through as too me it shows that the feelings must still be strong and it’s too painful for them. She was a great girl I guess it’s just stung a bit but at the same time I feel free and never felt more my self. I am back out dating but I guess it’s hard when you still love that person. If that makes sense? Link to post Share on other sites
2BGoodAgain Posted January 20, 2020 Share Posted January 20, 2020 there will be UPs and DOWNs... days you feel like you're finally free, and days where you can't get them out of your mind. and this is AFTER you get over emotionally, the void they left behind. she obviously has moved on and don't even consider giving you a proper response. and honestly, this is good. It might be out of her own selfishness she does this, but indirectly, this is good. Contact with her = prolong what you're going thru. so you may be "emotionally" on the surface over her, but obviously there's some mental/personality reasons why you are still attached to her. This isn't love, or anything like it, if you feel this might be. That's just a rationalization to act crazy or stupid. you're doing good. everyone slips up and does something like drunk dialing/texting... it happens. move on. go hit the gym. don't rebound-date to get over your lonliness. you'll just be doing yourself and the girl you're dating, a disservice and it's kinda mean. and someday, it won't matter what/where/who your ex is etc. good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SailorD Posted January 20, 2020 Author Share Posted January 20, 2020 Thanks for the response, she was quite selfish towards the end and she said so her self. The reason I’m still attached to her is in all honesty, I’m still in love with her and this feeling will never fade, I guess it was a unique relationship. It’s just something I know I’m going to have to live with and will get easier over time. I have gone numb to everything which I know is a normal stage of the process I suppose they do say once you let go is when they will reach out and by that point it’s up to you where you from there. Link to post Share on other sites
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