Letschill Posted January 21, 2020 Posted January 21, 2020 I started talking to a lady. Out of nowhere here comes all these women. I'm confused. They openly hit on me.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted January 21, 2020 Posted January 21, 2020 Do they know you are 'taken?' Are YOU the flirtatious type? It could be you are sending out 'I am single' vibes.
Ruby Slippers Posted January 21, 2020 Posted January 21, 2020 The same thing happens to me when I get a boyfriend. Seems like every guy out there is checking me out. I think it's the "I'm desirable" vibes we give off when somebody special shows us desire. 6 1
Interstellar Posted January 21, 2020 Posted January 21, 2020 Guys only get that when they’re in a relationship or married. It’s because they have a fall back plan and aren’t hungry and women sense this. It’s also why married guys get hit on. The ring shows he’s not afraid of commitment and knows how to treat a lady. At least, as far as first impressions go. 2
Kballer Posted January 21, 2020 Posted January 21, 2020 (edited) Agreed. It's the "I don't [care]" attitude that women are drawn to. The less interested you are, the higher their interest. Women are STRANGE creatures. Blow them off, ignore them, don't return their calls... They want you! Be respectful, compliment them, return their texts/phone calls... They treat you like a door mat. Edited January 21, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Topical content, language and mention/promotion of commercial entity 3
Miss Spider Posted January 21, 2020 Posted January 21, 2020 (edited) It’s probably a combination of sexual preselection, mimetic desire, and just the fact that people in relationships usually aren’t looking, so they’re usually not trying too hard Edited January 21, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 2
smackie9 Posted January 21, 2020 Posted January 21, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, Letschill said: I started talking to a lady. Out of nowhere here comes all these women. I'm confused. They openly hit on me. It’s called bringing up your value. When you have a woman or women paying attention to you the other women think you must have something these women want and they want a piece of that. It’s a common psychological reaction to have what everyone one else has. Advertisers know this and use it to sell more product. Start a frenzy by saying limited amount available, etc. Edited January 21, 2020 by smackie9 1
chillii Posted January 21, 2020 Posted January 21, 2020 (edited) Women are just sooooo ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,- , l have zero respect for women that fall for it and can't even control themselves, or even show some decency to his w or gf,. Can't say it all or l'll politely get the boot but yep , it's true , got it all the time married. ps . so if your a single guy and you wanna take advantage of silly women like this whom deserve no better anyway , just go buy a 5 dollar fake wedding band and ur in business. All my mates use to do it way back when. Edited January 21, 2020 by chillii 1
fromheart Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 On 1/21/2020 at 2:51 AM, Letschill said: I started talking to a lady. Out of nowhere here comes all these women. I'm confused. They openly hit on me. Various factors. Women have intense rivalry and hatred amongst one another and seek to dominate. They are as prone to hate as they are to love. Often when another woman is checking you out, its to get one up on your GF. Your relaxed and not needy, this is very attractive. If a woman sees you with another attractive woman, she may feel there could be something interesting about you. 1
schlumpy Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 Sometimes it's a competition. The charms of one women against another. My opinion is that a person will get to the see the opposite sex within the confines of a relationship without all the bumps, misdirection and breakups that it takes to get there. It would be like observing something within its natural habitat as opposed to a space at the zoo or the admiration for a couple in a good marriage. They may like what they see.
sothereiwas Posted January 23, 2020 Posted January 23, 2020 On 1/20/2020 at 6:51 PM, Letschill said: I started talking to a lady. Out of nowhere here comes all these women. I'm confused. They openly hit on me. "Monkey hides fruit" syndrome. They all wonder what it is she's getting from you, and whether they can get it instead.
CAPSLOCK CROOK Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 Your in Mojo, what do you expect? Be receptive to their initial advance, but establish boundaries and build social value.
alphamale Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 I've said this many times here on LS but i''ll say it again - when it comes to women, less is more 1
Els Posted January 24, 2020 Posted January 24, 2020 Some people of both genders just don't respect what marriage means. I've been hit on by sleazy f***ers with my ring very visibly on.
mortensorchid Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 When it rains, it pours they say. And the grass being greener syndrome.
mark clemson Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 On 1/24/2020 at 7:38 AM, Elswyth said: Some people of both genders just don't respect what marriage means. I've been hit on by sleazy f***ers with my ring very visibly on. Ditto. Not that I mind so much, I just turn 'em down. But I'm a guy so the attention doesn't creep me out/make me nervous etc.
preraph Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 That has happened to me when I was young, but both when I had a man and when I lost him. I think when things were going well with him, I (a naturally dark nature with a resting b face) was smiling to myself happily and sexually charged and men do pick up on that. Even when I got older, like 50, and was all in love with an old flame again, men noticed me more. It's like the Mona Lisa smile or something! But also, never had so many men around me as when I was totally crushed by a bad breakup everyone knew about in my circle. Guys I knew came in closer. I think it was because I was showing so much vulnerability.
Woggle Posted January 26, 2020 Posted January 26, 2020 I don't know why but when I have my wedding ring on women seem to take it as an invitation and they even worse when it is clear I am showing no interest whatsoever in them.
OpenBook Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 On 1/20/2020 at 10:47 PM, Kballer said: Agreed. It's the "I don't [care]" attitude that women are drawn to. The less interested you are, the higher their interest. Women are STRANGE creatures. Blow them off, ignore them, don't return their calls... They want you! Be respectful, compliment them, return their texts/phone calls... They treat you like a door mat. This works in reverse as well, in my experience. What works even better than this, is when you're inconsistent. Blowing hot & cold. Drives the opposite sex nuts. PEOPLE are strange creatures.
Eugeleh Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 On 1/20/2020 at 9:51 PM, Letschill said: I started talking to a lady. Out of nowhere here comes all these women. I'm confused. They openly hit on me. Mate copying https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40750-018-0099-y Women were more likely to rate male targets as more desirable when presented alongside a female while no obvious effects were detected with male choice. These sex differences disappeared in studies that ‘augment’ cues, as both sexes rated targets as more attractive when in the presence of more desirable others.
Woggle Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 1 minute ago, alphamale said: taken men are "pre-screened" How is it that cheating doesn't cause them to fail that test? If they will betray their wife or gf for a woman how is it that they still pass this screening?
alphamale Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 2 minutes ago, Woggle said: How is it that cheating doesn't cause them to fail that test? If they will betray their wife or gf for a woman how is it that they still pass this screening? I don't know woggle
K.K. Posted January 27, 2020 Posted January 27, 2020 Women don’t necessarily want to TAKE the taken man. They just want to know that they may have a chance if they wanted it. Competition totally. Sucks. When you have female friends though, who are truly your friend, this should never come into play. In fact, a woman should go wayyyyy out of her way to never give googly eyes, real or just perceived by him, to her friend’s man. Never. The second reason a man might get more looks or interest with a woman on his arm, is that his woman acts as a medal or certification even that sits upon his chest that says, “I’m not The Green River Killer” Cause believe me, sometimes we just don’t know. 3
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