Eugeleh Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 36 minutes ago, alphamale said: taken men are "pre-screened" A man in the company of attractive women is assumed by other women to be attractive. The effect seems to be for men when women are in the company of attractive men as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 13 minutes ago, Eugeleh said: A man in the company of attractive women is assumed by other women to be attractive. The effect seems to be for men when women are in the company of attractive men as well. That's funny since I was never into taken women. I have heard some men say that taking a man's wife is an alpha move but my view is very different. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ljwentworth32 Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 On 1/20/2020 at 10:47 PM, Kballer said: Agreed. It's the "I don't [care]" attitude that women are drawn to. The less interested you are, the higher their interest. Women are STRANGE creatures. Blow them off, ignore them, don't return their calls... They want you! Be respectful, compliment them, return their texts/phone calls... They treat you like a door mat. is this true of most women? i mean obviously some of you have dated much much more than I but aren't there any good women out there that just adore the love and affection/attention that comes there way from their man in a relationship. Or do we really gotta do this push pull dance thing? I'm such a horrible flirt and I just wear my emotions on my sleeve. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 8 minutes ago, ljwentworth32 said: is this true of most women? i mean obviously some of you have dated much much more than I but aren't there any good women out there that just adore the love and affection/attention that comes there way from their man in a relationship. Or do we really gotta do this push pull dance thing? I'm such a horrible flirt and I just wear my emotions on my sleeve. I am married to a woman that desires a healthy relationship full of love and affection and I know she is not the only one. Wearing a ring does attract women but there are also the many women who are not attracted to a man wearing a ring and are disgusted by the thought. Always be yourself and look for those women. Link to post Share on other sites
ljwentworth32 Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 5 minutes ago, Woggle said: I am married to a woman that desires a healthy relationship full of love and affection and I know she is not the only one. Wearing a ring does attract women but there are also the many women who are not attracted to a man wearing a ring and are disgusted by the thought. Always be yourself and look for those women. I need to find a woman like that. i want the same in return ... to have a woman i know i can trust, who respects me, loves me, and doesnt play games. i hate the whole dating dance where you gotta wait x number of days b4 txting her back and indirectly imply that you got other options etc etc... cant you just be genuine? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 5 minutes ago, ljwentworth32 said: I need to find a woman like that. i want the same in return ... to have a woman i know i can trust, who respects me, loves me, and doesnt play games. i hate the whole dating dance where you gotta wait x number of days b4 txting her back and indirectly imply that you got other options etc etc... cant you just be genuine? Just live and build your own life and get out there and by chance you might meet her. That is how it happened for me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eugeleh Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 3 hours ago, Woggle said: That's funny since I was never into taken women. I have heard some men say that taking a man's wife is an alpha move but my view is very different. My interpretation of the available evidence is that what's most important is being seen with attractive members of the opposite sex. For women, the effect seems to persist even if the women surrounding man aren't as attractive. Taken status isn't clearly relevant; it's the matter of being seen to be desirable by others. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 6 hours ago, Eugeleh said: My interpretation of the available evidence is that what's most important is being seen with attractive members of the opposite sex. For women, the effect seems to persist even if the women surrounding man aren't as attractive. Taken status isn't clearly relevant; it's the matter of being seen to be desirable by others. What a shallow world we live in these days. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 27 minutes ago, Woggle said: What a shallow world we live in these days. I think it's always been this way but take heart. Your statement is heavily influenced by the quality of the people you associate with. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 i think if a woman has missed the boat for whatever reason as regards finding a good man, then her options may be a bit limited. The divorced/separated guy - baggage and bitterness usually... The single never been married guy - suspicious as to why? Player? Commitment-phobe? Misogynist? Mommy's boy? Gay? Workaholic? Alcoholic? He is obviously "undesirable" somehow.... Issues with relationships/damaged perhaps? Mentally unhealthy maybe? The married, nice, decent, respectable guy. - perfect. House, career, money... A great life she can see herself slotting into nicely. She just needs to prise him away from the wife and kids... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 I know some women are very predatory, but I also think flirting with married men is for some women, just fun. It is "safe" flirting as if he takes the bait she retreats to it all being just a joke. She would never flirt with a good looking single guy as overtly. They have no intention of taking it further, in fact some choose the most unlikely subjects to flirt the most with. It can be a bit of a cruel joke actually... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 There is a certain "bro code" among men where they generally don't go after women who are taken by other men...Plus there is always the possibility that the guy will beat the other guys brains in...so you have that aspect as well.. Women don't honor any code when it comes to taken men and often see it as their duty to steal him from the horrible wife/gf and show him how great she is...often using overt sexuality as the hook... Even walking on the street....Guys see another guy with a hot woman they'll nod in a respectful way....Woman sees another woman with a desirable or good looking guy, its more like..."ugh, what does HE see in that ugly b!tch"?... Its crazy... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 1 minute ago, thefooloftheyear said: Woman sees another woman with a desirable or good looking guy, its more like..."ugh, what does HE see in that ugly b!tch"?... What kind of women do you hang about with? I am also not sure if the bro code actually exists. Seems to me many guys are perfectly content to sleep with other guy's wives and gfs... If the bro code existed Ashley Madison would shut down tomorrow... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 14 minutes ago, elaine567 said: What kind of women do you hang about with? I am also not sure if the bro code actually exists. Seems to me many guys are perfectly content to sleep with other guy's wives and gfs... If the bro code existed Ashley Madison would shut down tomorrow... Forgive me for saying, but maybe you were never around a guy desirable enough to experience that type of attitude from another woman.. I have no idea what the stats are, but id bet anything that those sites like A/M are flooded with married men and single/divorced women...Don't be misled...The reality of getting your ass kicked(or worse) is a big deterrent...And there is such a thing as bro code on this.....for sure.. And you can say whatever you want about what kind of women are around...Even such a benign thing like the workplace you see women stabbing each other in the back for attention from guys that they don't even have a chance to be with it....Its crazy... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 So you are saying married women do not cheat... as the "bro code" keeps them off limits... Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 Just now, elaine567 said: So you are saying married women do not cheat... as the "bro code" keeps them off limits... Of course not....but they do so at a rate of less than half the rate of men...and I do think that some of that disparity is in fact, due to bro code ethics... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
Allupinnit Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 2 hours ago, thefooloftheyear said: There is a certain "bro code" among men where they generally don't go after women who are taken by other men...Plus there is always the possibility that the guy will beat the other guys brains in...so you have that aspect as well.. Women don't honor any code when it comes to taken men and often see it as their duty to steal him from the horrible wife/gf and show him how great she is...often using overt sexuality as the hook... Even walking on the street....Guys see another guy with a hot woman they'll nod in a respectful way....Woman sees another woman with a desirable or good looking guy, its more like..."ugh, what does HE see in that ugly b!tch"?... Its crazy... TFY That's quite a blanket statement about women and one I don't find to be true at all in real life. The women in my life wouldn't be so insecure as to have to prove their worth by prying a man away from his wife and children. I'm sure a lot of women do, but I don't associate with those types. You often refer to people in your life as examples that confirm your bias that "women get fat and make men miserable." Maybe you should rethink who you associate with. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, Allupinnit said: That's quite a blanket statement about women and one I don't find to be true at all in real life. The women in my life wouldn't be so insecure as to have to prove their worth by prying a man away from his wife and children. I'm sure a lot of women do, but I don't associate with those types. You often refer to people in your life as examples that confirm your bias that "women get fat and make men miserable." Maybe you should rethink who you associate with. Or perhaps I should lie so you and the women you associate feel better?? I'll freely admit that most of the guys I associate with would be considered more desirable than the average dopey/dull Dilbert's many women are stuck with....Those low tier guys generally have less standards themselves and no desirable women angling or fighting for them...So what you are saying makes complete sense to me in perhaps your world and the people you associate with....But I dunno.. It may be painful to hear that, but there is a big world outside of your circle.. TFY Edited January 27, 2020 by thefooloftheyear Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 1 hour ago, Allupinnit said: That's quite a blanket statement about women and one I don't find to be true at all in real life. The women in my life wouldn't be so insecure as to have to prove their worth by prying a man away from his wife and children. I'm sure a lot of women do, but I don't associate with those types. That is my experience too and they don't go about harassing other women for having desirable bfs either... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Allupinnit Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 Painful? Hardly. I honestly feel badly for people who have to feel that way about the opposite sex, due to bad experiences with them. How lonely to feel that you're "stuck" with someone you hate. Reading these threads makes me so thankful for my amazing H. Link to post Share on other sites
Allupinnit Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 9 minutes ago, elaine567 said: That is my experience too and they don't go about harassing other women for having desirable bfs either... Right. It's a CHARACTER issue - not a gender one. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 (edited) 13 minutes ago, Allupinnit said: Painful? Hardly. I honestly feel badly for people who have to feel that way about the opposite sex, due to bad experiences with them. How lonely to feel that you're "stuck" with someone you hate. Reading these threads makes me so thankful for my amazing H. 😂 You have the wrong perception... I get along great with pretty much most women...Many of them are my most valued clients that id do just about anything for...It doesn't mean I cant point out certain aspects that some people don't think exists or perhaps they are delusional....So don't be so sure about what you think you know.. But back to the point ...I didn't start the thread, so there must be something to this theory...Additionally you don't need to go far for confirmation...There are TONS of sob stories on here of women and their MM,...Not to mention the ones that talk about this huge crush they have on their married bosses, etc,,God I can only imagine the amount IRL..Not to mention the ones that talk about this huge crush they have on their married bosses, married doctors, etc,, But suuuure,,,,,,It never happens....😂 TFY Edited January 27, 2020 by thefooloftheyear Link to post Share on other sites
Allupinnit Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 5 minutes ago, thefooloftheyear said: 😂 You have the wrong perception... I get along great with pretty much most women...Many of them are my most valued clients that id do just about anything for...It doesn't mean I cant point out certain aspects that some people don't think exists or perhaps they are delusional....So don't be so sure about what you think you know.. But back to the point ...I didn't start the thread, so there must be something to this theory...Additionally you don't need to go far for confirmation...There are TONS of sob stories on here of women and their MM,...Not to mention the ones that talk about this huge crush they have on their married bosses, etc,,God I can only imagine the amount IRL..Not to mention the ones that talk about this huge crush they have on their married bosses, married doctors, etc,, But suuuure,,,,,,It never happens....😂 TFY Those aren't women that I take audience with in my life. And yeah, I obviously know it happens. Men are JUST AS GUILTY, man. Men who were respected in their churches and communities are found to have long-term affairs - I don't know what this bro-code is you're talking about. Who do you think the women are cheating with? And - thank goodness that LS is NOT a good representation of what MOSTLY happens in the real world. It's an anonymous relationship message board, for crying out loud. Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted January 28, 2020 Share Posted January 28, 2020 Perhaps there is fun is potentially taking away someone spouse. Usually, when I see a man I find attractive, I soon see his spouse as well. I think the more attractive guys get taken early. I'm not the kind of girl who can mate poach so that's not an option. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 28, 2020 Share Posted January 28, 2020 There is no bro code anymore than there is a sister code. Many people of either gender only care about themselves and their own satisfaction. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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