Confused213 Posted January 21, 2020 Share Posted January 21, 2020 Hey, I’m in a rather young relationship and looking for some wise advice. I’ve always considered myself not the relationship type. I don’t show much affection nor do I favor being or texting my partner everyday all day but I do feel like I sincerely care for them. Basically, I self sabotage the relationship and tend to try and push them away. My dilemma now is that I have my whole life ahead of me and feel like I want to live it to the fullest and I feel like being in a relationship will stop that. I want to get all of my “crazy stage” out before I can truly be in a stable relationship. I don’t know if this is just me getting into my head or if my logic is right. My partner is a genuinely nice person and I love their company, but i feel bad that I feel this way and don’t know whether end things with them or pursue it. Please let me know your genuine thoughts and thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted January 21, 2020 Share Posted January 21, 2020 You have the right idea. A relationship will definitely force you to give up things that you want to do but it would also be true for your partner. Your SO will be giving up something also. That's why you must find someone that shares your interests. It's no good being with a women who likes dancing and parties when you want to sit home and watch movies or when you mention vacation she's thinking two week cruise to the Bahamas but your mind is already focused on camping equipment. So as cold blooded as it sounds, you will need to put together a list and try to find a woman that can check off most of those boxes. Link to post Share on other sites
2BGoodAgain Posted January 21, 2020 Share Posted January 21, 2020 date lightly.... as in, it's okay to meet potential guys/girls... but don't go serious all the time... keep it casual and light... talk to them to see if you want to pursue it further or not... not to be a prude, cuz i'm not.. but i found out that once you include sex/sexual things into the relationship, that's where it really gets complicated and psycho... so be wary of it, unless you're sure.. and the partner is of equal mind... though, that usually always backfires for the dumpee. be wary of folk who make relationships seem like the end all or a HUGE thing... they tend to go weird on you, and get very extreme and drama filled. have FUN! Link to post Share on other sites
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