stillafool Posted February 12, 2020 Share Posted February 12, 2020 (edited) 6 hours ago, Elena94 said: Yes you are right about the whole facebook stuff and liking what I post etc.. I just don't get (because I don't think this way) why me being a virgin freaked him out so much.. I mean we were just hanging out casually all this time (even if this is a red flag as someone mentioned) and I never asked for something more serious; I was also having fun and I enjoyed his company since we shared a lot in common. Nothing less; nothing more... Neither did I change my behavior after that night; nor did I ask for something or try to get something out of it. And all this time he didn't show me that he wanted just to have sex; I mean if that was the case he would have initiated it much earlier.. Anyway what matters now is that he pulled away and untfortunately I still care so I'm trying to explain things.. Thanks for replying! The reason he freaked out that you were a virgin is because that takes casual sex to another level. Men feel like it puts pressure on them to want a relationship if a woman gives them their virginity. It's different if they are in love with you and then it is their precious gift. Without a relationship they kind of feel sleeazy by taking it. But, since he didn't know before he had sex with you he can't be blamed. My husband's best friend was constantly being pursued by a very attractive woman who was a virgin. He wouldn't even date her because he felt it was unfair to take her virginity (even though she wanted him to) because he knew he would never want a relationship with her. Most women become very attached to the first guy who takes her virginity and that is why it's best to give it to someone who has mutual feelings and in a relationship with you. Edited February 12, 2020 by stillafool Link to post Share on other sites
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