elaine567 Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 1 hour ago, GuitarGuy7 said: When people say date within your own league, it’s like they’re telling me “you’re so unattractive, the only women you’ll ever be good for are unattractive women” or “you’re so short, only fat chicks will give you a chance” which I take as a big insult because I actually care about fitness and watch what I eat, a fat person does not they’re just lazy. Are in fact the "fat chicks" attracted to you? All very well you go to the gym and you watch your weight but if you are in fact skinny and short then that is not a good combination. Forget the diet, put on some bulk. Women tend not to like men that are smaller size wise than they are. 1 hour ago, CautiouslyOptimistic said: You are short, skinny, have bad teeth, and a weird voice Improve the teeth, go to speech therapy, and get professional help to sort out your social skills. Cold and distant are not attractive traits. Unfortunately we have been here before.. time for some action. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 (edited) 31 minutes ago, preraph said: He's looking for a woman to make him feel desirable and attractive and give him self worth. If the only reason a woman wants you is because of wealth, you still don't have that because they're still not attracted to you, just your money. You're not wrong, but I suppose to people in OP's shoes, this is the next best thing. A woman desiring him in the traditional sense hasn't happened yet and might not ever. But if someone has reservations about certain things about you, they can perhaps at least respect your work ethic and your ability to provide -- or if they are just attracted to your money, they can at least say they're attracted to your work ethic. Ideal? No. Better than nothing? Possibly. Edited January 23, 2020 by normal person 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 Although the process of achieving something like wealth through your own hard work is a path to improve your self-esteem. Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 1 hour ago, Cookiesandough said: Become rich or famous Kind of like Steve Buscemi... His trademark was skinny with jacked up teeth and that got him all kinds of roles and money!! 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 (edited) ^ Had to look up Steve. He is 5'9" so pretty average height, and the woman he married was average looking, though probably a little better looking than him, and she was ultra talented, like him, so together they made a nice looking, suitable and talented couple. Edited January 23, 2020 by preraph Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted January 24, 2020 Share Posted January 24, 2020 3 hours ago, preraph said: ^ Had to look up Steve. Yes... I really couldn't think of any actors with "jacked up" teeth that did well. I do remember he said in an interview that he had the money to get his teeth fixed, but his "messed up" teeth were his trademark and got him work. I do think he is a pretty good actor, though. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 5 hours ago, SumGuy said: Face-to-face people will only tolerate so much whining. ^That right there, and I strongly suspect this is at least 50 percent of your problem with the ladies. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GuitarGuy7 Posted January 28, 2020 Author Share Posted January 28, 2020 Well if my only options are big and fat chicks (like people are implying in this thread), I think i'm just going to skip out on dating entirely. I don't want to date a woman I don't find unattractive at all for a couple of reasons. For one thing, I woudn't be attracted to her, and secondly if we ever did become a couple, it would be a pretty crappy relationship. I simply woudn't care about making it work because I wasn't even attracted to her in the first place, she would probably think i'm asexual because I don't want to have sex with someone who I find repulsive. Secondly, don't even compare me to someone who is fat and out of shape, iv'e been working out 3 times a day for the past 5 years, I take care of my body, and am fairly fit and like being active. Someone who is very overweight does not take care of themselves, they are fat because of poor lifestyle choices, so we wouldn't even be compatible anyways. So when people say the people in your league are big and fat chicks, I take that as an insult. People are saying what do you have to offer? What can you bring to the table? This is why I believe I would make a good boyfriend to someone. - I may be short but i'm fit and fairly active, I watch what I eat. - I have many different hobbies and interests (that doesn't include video games) I play piano, guitar, variety of sports, videography. - I have an active social life and am very involved with various clubs in my college. - I'm poor now but i'm in college trying to better myself and get an education so that in the future, I can be financially well off. - I don't smoke, I don't do drugs, never been to jail, have my own car and my own apartment. - Due to inheritance, i'm going to have a lot of money someday. - I'm kind, loyal, and don't really ask for much, just for someone who wants me. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 28, 2020 Share Posted January 28, 2020 (edited) 18 minutes ago, GuitarGuy7 said: Well if my only options are big and fat chicks (like people are implying in this thread), I think i'm just going to skip out on dating entirely OK, so what if an 85 pound short girl with a great personality, big nose, stringy thin hair, pale skin, and bad teeth was interested in you? Nobody is saying you have to date a woman who will physically crush you in bed. Edited January 28, 2020 by CautiouslyOptimistic 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 28, 2020 Share Posted January 28, 2020 18 minutes ago, GuitarGuy7 said: This is why I believe I would make a good boyfriend to someone. - I may be short but i'm fit and fairly active, I watch what I eat. - I have many different hobbies and interests (that doesn't include video games) I play piano, guitar, variety of sports, videography. - I have an active social life and am very involved with various clubs in my college. - I'm poor now but i'm in college trying to better myself and get an education so that in the future, I can be financially well off. - I don't smoke, I don't do drugs, never been to jail, have my own car and my own apartment. - Due to inheritance, i'm going to have a lot of money someday. - I'm kind, loyal, and don't really ask for much, just for someone who wants me. You do have a lot to offer, GG. You just need to get off your "supermodel" obsession. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 28, 2020 Share Posted January 28, 2020 (edited) 2 hours ago, GuitarGuy7 said: - I may be short but i'm fit and fairly active, I watch what I eat. This is about looking after yourself...and good for you. But it doesn't make you a good boyfriend Quote - I have many different hobbies and interests (that doesn't include video games) I play piano, guitar, variety of sports, videography. Again, doesn't mean you'll be a good boyfriend. Quote - I have an active social life and am very involved with various clubs in my college. Having an active social life doesn't mean you'll be a good boyfriend Quote - I'm poor now but i'm in college trying to better myself and get an education so that in the future, I can be financially well off. Come back to me when you're graduated and working in your field of choice. Though I would advise you stay away from women who find money attractive. Quote - I don't smoke, I don't do drugs, never been to jail, have my own car and my own apartment. Ok, basics covered. However it doesn't mean you'll be a good boyfriend Quote - Due to inheritance, i'm going to have a lot of money someday. Don't tell women this early on. Not only is it irrelevant to being a good boyfriend, you may end up with someone who wants your money Quote - I'm kind, loyal, and don't really ask for much, just for someone who wants me. Given what you write about 'fat chicks' etc, it's pretty clear that you're unkind. Back when I was very slim, I would have dumped a guy who used that term in such a negative way because it says so much bad about him. Most of what you've said are assets. But they are assets that a vile man can also have. Being a good boyfriend is not about what you have, but rather it's about how you connect with the girl you're with. How you treat her, how you talk with her, how much fun you have with her, how respectful you are when there's a disagreement. Edited January 28, 2020 by basil67 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted January 28, 2020 Share Posted January 28, 2020 (edited) 16 hours ago, basil67 said: Don't tell women this early on. Not only is it irrelevant to being a good boyfriend, you may end up with someone who wants your money And he wants someone for mainly for their physical attributes. Would this really be such a bad thing ? Edited January 28, 2020 by Cookiesandough 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 28, 2020 Share Posted January 28, 2020 I was trying to look out for him, but you make a fair point. They probably deserve each other. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted January 28, 2020 Share Posted January 28, 2020 35 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: And he wants someone for mainly for their physical attributes. Would this really be such a bad thing ? Probably not, but money or not, he still needs to be able to get a girl interested enough to date him or even by the sounds of things to speak to him... His cold and distant demeanour, his skinny body, his weird voice, his bad teeth, his Asperger's are not going to cure themselves. He needs to stop whining about not wanting to date chubby women, and start looking for some serious professional help for his social skills, his voice, and his teeth... Start investing some of that money into his future, by getting his teeth fixed for a start. People with bad teeth tend not to smile and that to most is offputting. 5 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted January 28, 2020 Share Posted January 28, 2020 Damn Elaine...you don’t pull any punches Link to post Share on other sites
Author GuitarGuy7 Posted January 28, 2020 Author Share Posted January 28, 2020 Even though I’m 25, I’m probably going to still be single at 30, I’m just one of those people who got dealt a crappy hand in the realm of dating so it’s going to take me a lot longer to get my foot in the door. And I’m not looking forward to waiting at all, I’ve had crushes on girls ever since I was 5 so it’s clear I’m not some aromatic asexual otherwise I wouldn’t be posting on these type of forums. It woudnt surprise me if I kill myself sometime in the next 5 years. I can’t possibly imagine being a 30 year old kissless virgin, it would feel like hell on Earth, knowing I’ve gone my whole life without any sort of validation from girls and watching everyone else have sex, get into relationships, get married. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GuitarGuy7 Posted January 28, 2020 Author Share Posted January 28, 2020 I might go get a prostitute so at least I will know what it’s like to have sex. The problem is I live in the USA where it’s illegal in most of the country. Nevada is the only place where it’s legal and that’s over 20 hours away, not to mention it’s an average of $1000 per hour. In some ways, I wish I lived in Europe because if I wanna pay for sex, I don’t have to travel a long ways away not to mention that it’s legal. Link to post Share on other sites
Tristian Posted January 29, 2020 Share Posted January 29, 2020 The attempted thread-jacking has come to a peaceful conclusion. We will now return the thread to GuitarGuy7. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted January 29, 2020 Share Posted January 29, 2020 OP, in another thread of yours I linked you several socialization programs and resources for people with autism. Each time you ignored it. Again, what's stopping you from joining a program like that? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted January 29, 2020 Share Posted January 29, 2020 23 hours ago, GuitarGuy7 said: t woudnt surprise me if I kill myself sometime in the next 5 years. I can’t possibly imagine being a 30 year old kissless virgin, it would feel like hell on Earth, knowing I’ve gone my whole life without any sort of validation from girls and watching everyone else have sex, get into relationships, get married. dont take this so seriously, all you can do is try, I am sure you will get plenty of women in time, all ahead of you, and even if you dont, does it really matter all that much, you can have a good life without one too, have you any other passions, put your energy into your music for now and chill Link to post Share on other sites
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