He broke up with me because of sex. but I still like him **Update**

[pc31]

Ok, I'm back. Apprently still not done with this guy. After the trip that I posted here, we hanged out (alone) again as friends in March to celebrate his new job. His new job is apparently in our city, so I guess he's no longer moving abroad! Soon after that hang-out, the whole social distancing thing started, so we havent met at all for 2 months now. He had a minor surgery and started his new job. I also started my new job and I moved into a new apartment. Things have been moving fast, with lots of changes for both of us, but we did keep in touch the whole time. I dont think we have ever gone more than 2-3 days of not texting or talking on the phone. 

Anyway, about 2 weeks ago, we actually scheduled a virtual "date" where we said we would be dressing up n drinking wine together. It was the first time we had a more "formal" date since this whole covid started. The other calls/video calls were more spontaneous. I was excited. I wore a nice dress.

but, he never showed up!!! I waited for 2 hours. Then I texted him how i felt so disrespected and disappointed for being stood up, and how i thought he was better than that! 

Sometimes in the early AMs the next day (like 2-3 am), he texted saying that he overslept and added a simple word "sorry". He didnt seek to arrange another date. He didnt show more effort to apologize than the 1 word "sorry". It was 'sorry' without any exclamation mark, and definitely didnt feel all that sincere. Hm.

I read the msg and didnt reply. Then, no communication for exactly 1 week. But everyday, he was always among the  first 5 people that watched my instagram stories and he literally still liked everything i posted.

Last weekend, he sent me a cute meme without attaching any message. I read it, but continued ignoring him.

Then last night, he sent me a short video of him playing guitar and singing. I dont know if i'm reading too much into it, but the video showed he sang the chorus of "you are somebody else" with the following lyrics: 

"You were the better part
Of every bit of beating heart that I had
Whatever I had
I finally sat alone
Pitch black flesh and bone
Couldn't believe that you were gone"

I blushed so hard. I felt/am still feeling kind of touched,,, 

Do you think I should reply? What should I say? Do you think he still likes me romantically? 😳 Could it be that he sent this video to 10 other girls, because who knows who else he is talking to?! I dont know. I dont want to have false hope. 

Edited May 7, 2020 by pc31

[ExpatInItaly]

You really need to stop wasting your time on this guy. 

You're taking this all a lot more seriously than he is, and my suspicion is that if you weren't under quarantine, you wouldn't be hearing from him so often. 

[assertives]

Frankly, it doesn't sound like much of an update in terms of progressing the situationship to a relationship from where you last left off in your posts. You are still stuck in the same limbo. You are reading way too much into his video of him playing the guitar and not reading enough into his bailing on your "date" on zoom.

His bailing and subsequent flippant apology should be enough to tell you what he actually feels towards you. He doesn't care. In a time like these where meeting in person is hard, someone who is actually into you romantically would have grabbed the opportunity for any kind of connection/way to meet. But he overslept and didn't even bother to apologize until a whole day later nor offer to reschedule. That is your answer there. 

Also, think long term, if he isn't able to meet your sexual needs at all, are you able to accept a life with little or no sex in a relationship? Realistically, how would this relationship work out in the long run? Don't bother to reply to him anymore. Time to let go, block him and move on.

[stillafool]

This guy doesn't sound all that interested and seems to have put you in the friend zone.  Frankly the way you complained about his sex I'm surprised you're still dealing with him.  I thought you would have moved on by now.

[kendahke]

7 hours ago, pc31 said:

Do you think he still likes me romantically?

It could be that that's the song he plays best and doesn't mind people seeing him perform, not that he's feeling any sort of way for you.

Edited May 7, 2020 by kendahke

[pc31]

He's doubling down and just now sent another video of him playing guitar and singing. He said he knew I was upset and he was sorry for missing the call (ok, a decent apology with proper sentences and acknowledgement).  

Sigh, i have re-read the previous posts that I wrote. I also don't think there's any future with this guy. He's just bored. 

Edited May 8, 2020 by pc31

[assertives]

LMAO. He even sounded disinterested with the "proper" apology.

You should just block him and move on. Blocking isn't a petty or immature move, it is to protect you and help you to heal and move on especially since you are not able to see him with indifference. You are not able to be friends with him now because you are still holding on to hope. You need to do what you need to do to help you heal from this.

That apology means nothing. What you really want to look out for when someone is actually interested is the same kind of behaviour you yourself exhibited when prepping for that zoom "date". Your actions show you are clearly vested, his on the other hand, shows disinterest. The apology was one of yeah I know you are upset, sorry ok? He's not actually sorry he wasted your time. He's just saying sorry because you are not responding to him now that he's bored and no one will entertain him.

Edited May 8, 2020 by assertives

[ExpatInItaly]

2 hours ago, pc31 said:

He's doubling down and just now sent another video of him playing guitar and singing. He said he knew I was upset and he was sorry for missing the call (ok, a decent apology with proper sentences and acknowledgement).  

Sigh, i have re-read the previous posts that I wrote. I also don't think there's any future with this guy. He's just bored. 

I agree, on both counts. 

I would stop wasting your time with him.