LeojDon Posted January 24, 2020 Share Posted January 24, 2020 Hello everyone So long story short: We are both 23. We met in Thailand whilst both backpacking back in March 19', travelled round together, connected in the most incredible way. More than any woman I ever encountered. When we got back 2 months later, we really wanted to continue it. I live in England, she lives in Italy. We then met in Italy, Holland and Croatia through the summer for a week here and there, most was long distance. She then came to my city to study her Master degree from September up to now, January 2020. Now here's where I'm at. She's just departed for Denmark as her course requires exchange to another European Uni. We're gonna be long distance again and it broke my heart having to leave each other the other day when she departed. Flights are super cheap there so I can visit quite easily, but I just get nervous for after she finishes there in June 2020. It's kind of up in the air as we'd need to get jobs in the same city which is difficult. Right now i'm struggling to deal with the fact we don't live in the same city any more, we got so used to each others company and now that 4 months together just flew by and she's now in Denmark. She's like my best friend, I see my future with her which makes me scared because there's so much at stake now and I miss her terribly. We are deeply connected with each other and both will do whatever it takes, no matter how long, but I guess it's normal to fear something going wrong. How do you cope with this? It's just really difficult for me to comprehend not being 20 minutes down the road from her anymore, it really saddens me and makes me worry about how long it'll be until we're in the same city together for a long period again. It's just the thought of us both living separate lives but still together, whilst she's meeting new people and makes me wonder/worry that we'll become disillusioned or feel distant. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 24, 2020 Share Posted January 24, 2020 Sorry to have to ask, but are you two having sex and everything? I ask because you said "deeply connected," which sometimes can mean one person is really just being friends while the other is thinking it will be romantic. I mean, if you are being intimate and have a full-on romance going on, then it will either run its course or you will find a way to be in the same place sometimes in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LeojDon Posted January 25, 2020 Author Share Posted January 25, 2020 Oh yeah of course hahah, we've been officially together since the summer and met each others families etc, sorry I didn't make that clearer. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 25, 2020 Share Posted January 25, 2020 Well, good. It's never easy to navigate when both people are taking off in their careers or still in school. Please realize this is still a short relationship. It will be a couple of years before you see if you're going to make it for the long haul. It's probable that during that time you will be in different locations, and anytime that happens, young people are usually going to date if they meet someone. So it's all very tenuous. The other thing is that because you two are so young, it's unlikely this will be your permanent match (if there is one). Young people just want to explore and are still evolving and growing and changing and they want to meet new people. I advise you just enjoy this when you have her around but hold yourself back from trying to think long-term for a year or two. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LeojDon Posted January 25, 2020 Author Share Posted January 25, 2020 By "young people are usually going to date if they meet someone" are you insinuating cheating? Because it's it very far from the case, especially between us. I'm curious and ask politely since I've recently seen your responses on other topics with LDR. How come you're so against them? Did you have a bad experience of one or it's just your general opinion, as everyone I ask who has never been in one always thinks negatively around it. Just curious Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted February 26, 2020 Share Posted February 26, 2020 On 1/24/2020 at 9:01 PM, LeojDon said: I just get nervous for after she finishes there in June 2020. It's kind of up in the air as we'd need to get jobs in the same city which is difficult. I say, for now, make sure she's not visiting Italy for Easter. Italy is in a messy situation right now. So she should avoid it. Let's hope that by June the coronavirus emergency is over. You won't have to work in the same city, heck I know married couples living under the same roof and working in different cities. You'll manage, don't worry. Link to post Share on other sites
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