Johnhihix Posted January 24, 2020 Share Posted January 24, 2020 (edited) Can you ever know someone fully (as in, 100%)? Edited January 24, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 24, 2020 Share Posted January 24, 2020 No. Because people are ever-changing and because people rightly keep some things to themselves in the way of boundaries and filters. Would you want to know every negative thought a loved one had about you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnhihix Posted January 24, 2020 Author Share Posted January 24, 2020 Hmm. I guess. So it's impossible to ever know someone fully? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted January 24, 2020 Share Posted January 24, 2020 If they're there holding your hand when you die, you can presume to have known them well enough. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Kitty Tantrum Posted January 24, 2020 Share Posted January 24, 2020 Well, no. That would literally require that you cut them open and familiarize yourself with everything that's on the inside. You can't do that to a living person. Sounds extreme - but the point is that no, you can't ever "access" 100% of a person in any sense without doing enough damage to basically destroy them. Physically, psychologically, emotionally. People are distinct from one another. To actually know someone the same way you know yourself would necessarily require that you tear down that distinct personhood. My ex-husband tried! Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted January 24, 2020 Share Posted January 24, 2020 1 hour ago, Johnhihix said: Can you ever know someone fully (as in, 100%)? Yes, but you'll never know if you really do In most cases no, and I think that can be good as there is always something to learn. I certainly think you can know someone fully in the ways that really matter. Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted January 24, 2020 Share Posted January 24, 2020 1 hour ago, carhill said: If they're there holding your hand when you die, you can presume to have known them well enough. Unless it is like that Rick & Morty episode Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnhihix Posted January 24, 2020 Author Share Posted January 24, 2020 Thanks for the reply Link to post Share on other sites
5x5 Posted January 25, 2020 Share Posted January 25, 2020 (edited) Since human beings are complex organisms with limited senses, the answer is we cannot ever fully know someone. Edited January 25, 2020 by 5x5 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 25, 2020 Share Posted January 25, 2020 three words: John Wayne Gacy Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted January 25, 2020 Share Posted January 25, 2020 the adventurer personality type (mine) says "one can be surprised at the secrets they keep" in real life I tend to be a bit mysterious and to not always show my hand, keep people guessing, that might make me difficult in some way to get to know but I definitely open up more with people I am comfortable with, I would say I am good at reading and understanding other people, but to know anyone 100% I am not that good😊 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnhihix Posted January 25, 2020 Author Share Posted January 25, 2020 Thanks. I judge myself too much =] Link to post Share on other sites
bachdude Posted January 25, 2020 Share Posted January 25, 2020 We don't even know ourselves fully. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnhihix Posted January 25, 2020 Author Share Posted January 25, 2020 True Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted January 26, 2020 Share Posted January 26, 2020 On 1/24/2020 at 3:17 PM, Johnhihix said: Can you ever know someone fully (as in, 100%)? To know someone fully you would have to be present or participate in every single scenario life can throw at the two of you. Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted January 26, 2020 Share Posted January 26, 2020 No, because some people just aren't keen on filling you with everything about themselves. Link to post Share on other sites
snowboy91 Posted January 26, 2020 Share Posted January 26, 2020 I don't think it's possible. For a start, people are always changing, and by the time you try to get to know them fully, they've changed again. Secondly - not many people even know themselves 100%, and the version they show to others (not always consciously) is only a part of who they are. Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted January 26, 2020 Share Posted January 26, 2020 (edited) People change , and they cover up , or just go along with things and pretend until something better comes a long, hence the bomb drop expression , in divorces and such. So in one angle , you can only ever know someone even your own wife or husband , as much as they'll allow and be 110% honest about everything, but unfortunately even after 20 or 30 yrs , they could be stewing and plotting and covering, happens every day. Personally l think it's a beautiful thing knowing someone your partner w of h , better than anyone else on the planet , but it'll always still be nice finding surprises and unknowns to, just not the wrong kind. Edited January 26, 2020 by chillii Link to post Share on other sites
K.K. Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 On 1/24/2020 at 3:17 PM, Johnhihix said: Can you ever know someone fully (as in, 100%)? No, probably not. But have you ever felt like you’ve known someone too well? That’s no fun either. Feels like the mystery is gone. Sometimes, familiarity breeds contempt. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnhihix Posted January 27, 2020 Author Share Posted January 27, 2020 I don't even think I know myself fully hehe 😃 Link to post Share on other sites
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