I don't know what is going through my boyfriends head and it's driving me crazy

[Lindaynovak21]

9 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

And we know how honest he is, right?

Girl, come on. Being willfully naive is what got you into this mess in the first place. 

Hey what do you think about that post I just commented about. The one with his dog

[Lindaynovak21]

@ExpatInItaly hey dan you look at what I commented about the post with his dog and tell me what you think? I’d like your opinion very much 

[elaine567]

You are focusing in on trivia on SM about a dog, when your guy has gone off chasing his ex...

[Lindaynovak21]

2 hours ago, elaine567 said:

You are focusing in on trivia on SM about a dog, when your guy has gone off chasing his ex...

I shouldn’t be snooping but I don’t see it as “chasing” idk what they’re doing. I found a message from today where she asked him why did he even message her and now they can barely talk and that their families hate eachother so they have to sneak and be friends so what was the point  and that she’s ok if he thinks they shouldn’t be communicating and he said “I just don’t want to over do it” and she said “over do what?” And he said “this...”

[ExpatInItaly]

5 hours ago, Lindaynovak21 said:

Hey what do you think about that post I just commented about. The one with his dog

I didn't really understand that post, to be honest. 

One picture of his dog is fairly irrelevant to the bigger problems you're trying not to see. 

[Lindaynovak21]

@ExpatInItaly right I see your point. But did you read the dialogue between them I just found in fb messenger. She offered to cut off communication Because they haven’t talked and he said “I just don’t want to over do it” what does that even mean? 

[ExpatInItaly]

10 minutes ago, Lindaynovak21 said:

@ExpatInItaly right I see your point. But did you read the dialogue between them I just found in fb messenger. She offered to cut off communication Because they haven’t talked and he said “I just don’t want to over do it” what does that even mean? 

He doesn't want to get caught with his hand in the cookie jar. Or at least, he's trying to play hard-to-get so she'll message him more. He knows how to play women. 

This guy is lowbrow, OP. Can you really not do any better than him? 

[Timshel]

 Linda, talk to your bf about your concerns.  Relationships go nowhere without communication...if it's not team angst then it's individual and where does that get you for a relationship.

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[Kyra]

On 1/26/2020 at 12:37 AM, Lindaynovak21 said:

This is the girl you left for me. Shouldn’t being her friend be automatically disrespecting me?  

 Why do they WANT to talk to each other? And if he can’t stand her like he said, why did he tell her it was also nice to see her....  why does he even remember her? 

No, being friends with his ex is not disrespecting you.

It's normal to still have some feelings for an ex after you've broken up. It doesn't mean you want to get back together. It's normal to still care about an ex.

Why does he even remember her? - because he doesn't have dementia! You don't forget a person exists after you stop dating. Even if he didn't have contact with her for 50 years he'd still remember her. There's nothing wrong with that

[kendahke]

On 1/27/2020 at 8:26 AM, Lindaynovak21 said:

Hey what do you think about that post I just commented about. The one with his dog

that you need to keep your family out of your business on social media

[kendahke]

On 1/27/2020 at 1:48 PM, Lindaynovak21 said:

She offered to cut off communication

She offered--not your creep of a "boyfriend". Big difference. He's still pursuing her because, as you said:

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he said “I just don’t want to over do it”

HE said that, not her.

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what does that even mean? 

That means he's biding his time and is pacing himself-he intends to get back with her.

Keep lying to yourself about what is going on, but in the end, you're the one who's going to have egg on your face. Just don't take it social media--that's tacky.