Author Springsummer Posted January 30, 2020 Author Share Posted January 30, 2020 6 hours ago, SumGuy said: Is the gif supposed to symbolically represent what is going on? Who needs such cryptic communication? I can think of many possible explanations for this behavior, but none that would make me want to see such a person. bring it on...maybe it will make me feel better and make it easier for me to forget him. he was such an easy person to get along (via few chats we had) and affectionate Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 Well. My first thought you were supposed to be the crying bear and him the one patting your head. Somehow this was to comfort you but implies you are immature. It’s almost like a negging thing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 Springsummer, I ask this in a respectful and thoughtful manner: have you had a boyfriend before or have a bit of experience in dating? It's just that I'm getting the vibe that this is a whole new world for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Daisydooks Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 7 minutes ago, Springsummer said: bring it on...maybe it will make me feel better and make it easier for me to forget him. he was such an easy person to get along (via few chats we had) and affectionate Outside of sending these GIFs, what words has he used? You havent eluded to him using words much. Lol. Forget what? There was zero substance and you never met. Take him off the silly pedestal you raised him up onto. He doesnt belong there. No sincere and grown ass adult sends mainly GIFs for 2 solid months. No one in their right mind anyway He wants to teach you French? How about he starts with speaking to you in English? What qualities does someone have that you're attracted to when they only send stupid/silly pictures all day and have never met you? Lol. I'm having a hard time understanding where you felt he was affectionate. How was he easy to get along with? He didnt speak! Haha What qualities am I not seeing here? I'm turned off for you, OP. Enjoy your trip. Hopefully when you return safely you find someone who will call and message you like a normal man should while also meeting you within a timely fashion for a drink or at a coffee shop to share juice or cookies. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 4 minutes ago, SumGuy said: Well. My first thought you were supposed to be the crying bear and him the one patting your head. Somehow this was to comfort you but implies you are immature. It’s almost like a negging thing. Well it really depends upon the nature of their communication. If the memes sent were usually of the cartoon cutesy variety then just more of the same, but if they were usually depicting current political, sociological or other serious subjects then you may have have a point. But even "serious" people like the odd cutesy cartoon and may use it to convey emotion... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 10 minutes ago, elaine567 said: Well it really depends upon the nature of their communication. If the memes sent were usually of the cartoon cutesy variety then just more of the same, but if they were usually depicting current political, sociological or other serious subjects then you may have have a point. But even "serious" people like the odd cutesy cartoon and may use it to convey emotion... Oh hey I agree, it's just in this situation some clear communication is required, and if one is going to send gifs the message should be crystal clear, especially if he is trying to be apologetic. Patting someone on the head who is crying to me says "there, there" Not the best response when you ignore a woman's attempt to set up a meet/date with you, I would think. I'm not a woman so have to guess. I certainly don't discount the possibility he is just clueless. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 2 minutes ago, SumGuy said: I certainly don't discount the possibility he is just clueless. Probably. Who spends months sending memes/gifs back and forth anyway? Unless I guess you are a meme/gif collector perhaps? Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 I figure it was a younger generation thing...or too each their own Link to post Share on other sites
Author Springsummer Posted January 31, 2020 Author Share Posted January 31, 2020 He just sent another gif again. again, no word. again, I ignore Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted January 31, 2020 Share Posted January 31, 2020 (edited) 2 hours ago, Springsummer said: less than 10km, how more local can we get? there isn't a profession in this world that should know more how to use words than his. and is bilingual. he said he can teach me French. My mistake, I assumed no meeting in 2 months you had to be long distance. Usually I would say this guy is all talk and no action but here I'll say this guy is all GIF and no actions. Edited January 31, 2020 by Gaeta Link to post Share on other sites
Daisydooks Posted January 31, 2020 Share Posted January 31, 2020 (edited) 4 hours ago, Gaeta said: My mistake, I assumed no meeting in 2 months you had to be long distance. Usually I would say this guy is all talk and no action but here I'll say this guy is all GIF and no actions. Yeah it confused me too! 10km is not far! Haha Edited January 31, 2020 by Daisydooks Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted January 31, 2020 Share Posted January 31, 2020 8 hours ago, Daisydooks said: Yeah it confused me too! 10km is not far! Haha 10 km! Some people jog that every day. For me that is like just the other side of town, now maybe a half hour on the wrong road the wrong time of day, but really. My girlfriend is like 20km away and we see each other all the time, in warm weather we bike to each others house even. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Springsummer Posted February 1, 2020 Author Share Posted February 1, 2020 another gif(kissing on the cheek) this noon. No word and no suggestion to meet. I haven't response to 3 gifs in a row. I am lost and don't know what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted February 1, 2020 Share Posted February 1, 2020 On 1/31/2020 at 8:24 AM, Springsummer said: certain age, and none has kid less than 10km, how more local can we get? there isn't a profession in this world that should know more how to use words than his. and is bilingual. he said he can teach me French. Why not just cut the crap and meet the guy once and for all. Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett.O'hara Posted February 1, 2020 Share Posted February 1, 2020 This doesn't sound like a healthy situation. His behavior is not normal for anyone over the age of 16. He doesn't appear to have the skills or willingness to communicate properly. He might be inexperienced, socially awkward or any number of issues which are holding him back, but he could also just be lazy, entitled, and enjoy playing games with you. Whatever the reason, it is really in your best interest to detach yourself now. This would require blocking his number and having no further communication with him. Allowing him to continue to send you gifs is only enabling him. You don't need this in your life, especially if you are genuinely looking for someone special. This guy is not boyfriend material. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted February 1, 2020 Share Posted February 1, 2020 11 hours ago, Springsummer said: another gif(kissing on the cheek) this noon. No word and no suggestion to meet. I haven't response to 3 gifs in a row. I am lost and don't know what to do. What do you want to do? he sounds clueless at best given he lives so close and couldn’t get it together to meet and can’t communicate with words, why would you want to meet this guy? sure it was fun and flirty to exchange gifs but it’s easy to see what you want in that and not going to see a person’s negatives you’re seeing his negatives now Inability to communicate is a major red flag Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted February 1, 2020 Share Posted February 1, 2020 7 hours ago, chillii said: Why not just cut the crap and meet the guy once and for all. She asked he went radio silent, I’d stop putting up with his crap and forget him Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted February 2, 2020 Share Posted February 2, 2020 But don't forget , he asked to and before that she just danced around it all for mths so who knows what she was putting across to him for all that time but l get the feeling it was like oooo not yet lets just do this for a few mths first. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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