MsJayne Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 It's my partners birthday on Feb 14th. Selfish git. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 I'm in a newish relationship (started dating late December) and I have no clue what to do for V-day. It's not a holiday I care about in the first place, but being in a newer r/s, I don't know what he's expecting and I'm worried I'll over- or (more likely) under-do it. UGH! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ruby Slippers Posted January 30, 2020 Author Share Posted January 30, 2020 ^ I don't think men care that much. Something small should suffice. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 12 hours ago, Ruby Slippers said: It never stays on that long, tho LOL, that's actually a gripe of mine! Like, I went to all that trouble shopping for and buying it, and it's on the floor 10 minutes in?!? 😂 (It's all good though. Can always wear it again...;)) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ruby Slippers Posted January 30, 2020 Author Share Posted January 30, 2020 Yes, i hear ya. When he leaves it on the whole time, I feel like we got more bang for the buck 😏 Link to post Share on other sites
Gold Pile Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 I'd like for her to arrange to have her hot girlfriend join us Link to post Share on other sites
Silver_star Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 If you want something specific in return or have expectations you should really tell him. Sometimes guys, even the most well intended ones don't have the same thoughtfulness we do when it comes to holidays. Maybe he thinks Valentines day is too commercial. Whatever it is, make sure you don't set yourself up for disappointment. When I was with my last partner I was so excited to be with him for valentines day (since I had not had a "couple" type valentines day in a while) that I think I over thought it. I went all out. No cookies for the office, but I bought some expensive red lingerie, and bought a red mini dress for our date, I bought him a present and gave him a heart felt card. On Valentines day I ended up being slightly disappointed because I had put so much thought into it and expected the same effort and energy. He did not make any dinner reservations and every place was booked up and we ended up at a slightly higher end pub...but we still went out and spent time together. He got me a practical gift (some leather gloves and a sweater, which were NOT wrapped) and no card. The no card part hurt the most because I really put myself out and was vulnerable in some of the things I wrote. "Words of affirmation" are my love language along with quality time. We definitely had amazing sex that night that he is not going to forget, but yeah I think I put way too much expectation and pressure on the day without communicating what would mean the most to me and why. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 Oh Enigma, do people really post pics of Valentines gifts? 😂 Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 On 1/29/2020 at 1:13 PM, thefooloftheyear said: Other guys may differ and I don't want to be picking on you, RS, I know you put a lot of effort in, but if I am honest, as a man here, this sounds a bit too much like the Kathy Bates Misery character..….Not that you are going to trap him in a cabin and incapacitate him...but just seems over the top...and may weird him out... Hopefully you don't take it the wrong way... TFY Yeah she is definitely treating him like a prize! Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 (edited) @EnigmaOh, that's horrible. And so terribly insecure of them all. I think none of them have figured out that how we are treated on a day to day basis is far more important than an invented holiday. Edited January 30, 2020 by basil67 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 I don't understand why Valentine is special. Should 't not people love each other each day? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ruby Slippers Posted January 30, 2020 Author Share Posted January 30, 2020 I see the argument that it's an externally imposed holiday - but so are all the others. Most of the world has agreed that on Valentine's Day we'll celebrate romantic love. Being a sappy romantic myself, and being with a man who has a romantic streak, I enjoy the excuse to celebrate it. I suggested to my boyfriend that we skip dinner out that night, but he didn't like that idea. We discussed it and agree that we'd feel a little sad if we didn't do something special. I reminded him that shops jack up the price of flowers around the holiday, so I suggested we go together the weekend before and find the best deal. That way we can save money, I can pick the ones I like, take some to the office and leave some at home, and enjoy them all week. For me, anything beyond a nice dinner, flowers, and great sex will be icing on the cake. Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 53 minutes ago, enigma32 said: Yup. When my ex and I were still together and getting along, she would post pictures of whatever I got her, which would lead to her and her friends having a competition. I have other friends that do the same thing. February 14th arrives and my FB feed is flooded with pictures of flowers and (usually cheap) jewelry. So, if she posted pics of the gifts you bought her would she be OK with you posting photo's of the BJ? Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 11 hours ago, Elswyth said: LOL, that's actually a gripe of mine! Like, I went to all that trouble shopping for and buying it, and it's on the floor 10 minutes in?!? 😂 (It's all good though. Can always wear it again...;)) Oh.... It stays on. My husband really has a thing for lingerie staying on. But he (and I) are into hosiery etc - thigh highs, garter belts. For fun at home I purposely buy cheaper stockings knowing that they are going to get ripped and battered on their first use. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted January 30, 2020 Share Posted January 30, 2020 1 hour ago, enigma32 said: Speaking from the perspective of a guy that has almost always had someone to take care of on Valentine's Day, I would like the expectations to go away. No more expecting gifts, flowers, whatever. Don't post pictures of the gifts I get you, don't give me not so subtle hints about what you want either. Let's just try to do something a little special without making a big deal about it. Just enjoy each other's company. Oh, and a nice BJ won't hurt! 😁 We don't do gifts. Mutually agreed many years ago to not worry about birthday gifts, Christmas gifts, and definitely not Valentine's day gifts. We make plans together - that's the "gift" and any money that would be spent on "things" are instead spent on the experience, our hotel room for instance. I know different people have different priorities. I really do think there is something to "love languages". For us, gift giving is lower on the totem pole. I had a really rough week at work last week - came home to some hand picked flowers one evening, and later found some earrings left for me to find on my vanity. Not expensive at all, but totally my style. While I won't necessarily treasure these "things" I do deeply appreciate the fact that it means he was thinking about me, and wanted to do a little something to brighten my day, as he knows I have been working hard. If I was given these things on Valentines day, it just wouldn't have the same meaning to me (seems more like conforming to an obligation). But when it's on a random Tuesday because he knows I have had a s**** week, it means a lot to me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted January 31, 2020 Share Posted January 31, 2020 3 hours ago, Noproblem said: I don't understand why Valentine is special. Should 't not people love each other each day? It's just a nice excuse to splurge a bit and do something special that you wouldn't necessarily do otherwise. I mean, that's like saying, why is Christmas special, shouldn't we be more giving everyday? Or why is mother's day special, shouldn't we be treating mum well everyday? Well of course we should, but there's zero harm in taking a special day to give people wrapped presents or take your mum to a nice lunch, and people are usually happier for it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Piddy Posted January 31, 2020 Share Posted January 31, 2020 (edited) A Crown Royal Manhattan. A nice Italian dinner delivered. A piece of chocolate cake with coffee ice cream. Then a little sexy time to cap off the evening. No body / massage oil for me please, don't like the greased up feeling. Edited January 31, 2020 by Piddy Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ruby Slippers Posted January 31, 2020 Author Share Posted January 31, 2020 (edited) I asked him what he wants. He said, "Isn't it about what you want?" I said yes, it's generally a holiday for women, but it's a celebration of romantic love, so I see it as for both of us. He loved the idea of lingerie, of course, loved the homemade granola (been meaning to make that for a while), the massage, the heart cookies, said, "All the girlie things you do turn me on." I'm pretty sure the whole weekend will be a lovefest. I bet we'll end up with chocolate covered strawberries in here, maybe a bath in my big tub with rose petals haha We're big nerds about everything, love escaping the everyday. This will likely be no exception. Conveniently, the 3-pack of sexy underwear I got him for Christmas was delayed in shipping and will be arriving soon. So I'll get him in a special package, too. He normally wears utilitarian underwear, but in the tight, cute stuff he's damn fine. Edited January 31, 2020 by Ruby Slippers Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted January 31, 2020 Share Posted January 31, 2020 In a culture close to my home culture, there are two "Valentine's Days", 1 for men and 1 for women (different month). I think it makes sense to combine them both, though. I don't know what H will plan this year. I remember one year I was so busy that I forgot COMPLETELY about the day. When he showed up with flowers I was like, "huh, wow, what's the occasion??" 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ruby Slippers Posted January 31, 2020 Author Share Posted January 31, 2020 I'm so into it this year! Not just for me and my fella, but everybody. I'd been looking for a cute heart top, for V Day and beyond, just got the cutest sheer red chiffon top with hearts all over it 🥰 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 31, 2020 Share Posted January 31, 2020 I'm happily single but if anyone is looking for a unique V Day gift, check out Macaron Queen online for their Valentine's Day gift set they ship. Their macarons are soooooo delicious!!!! I'm not involved with the company at all. I'm going to Steamboat Springs to visit my sis at her condo there for Valentine's Day. I have no horse in this race at all :). 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Kitty Tantrum Posted January 31, 2020 Share Posted January 31, 2020 I mean shoot, I wear hearts all year long. But I hate Valentine's Day. I hope my husband doesn't want anything other than sex on Valentine's Day. I hope he DOES want sex on Valentine's Day. As for what I want, I'll be pretty thrilled if he doesn't ask me if I want anything this year, and doesn't give me anything (aside from sex). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted January 31, 2020 Share Posted January 31, 2020 On 1/29/2020 at 2:33 PM, Happy Lemming said: So ladies, do you like to tear and rip the wrapping paper to get to the prize or do you just want to be presented with your gift?? Love wrapped gifts! 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ruby Slippers Posted January 31, 2020 Author Share Posted January 31, 2020 10 hours ago, CautiouslyOptimistic said: I'm happily single but if anyone is looking for a unique V Day gift, check out Macaron Queen online for their Valentine's Day gift set they ship. Their macarons are soooooo delicious!!!! Old friends sent me a huge box of macaroons for Christmas. I'd like to say I stretched them out, but I ate the whole box within 2 weeks 🤷♀️ Link to post Share on other sites
2BGoodAgain Posted January 31, 2020 Share Posted January 31, 2020 hm... NOTHING up my butt. NOTHING between my butt. ... other than that.... ooh, a dirty story that turns her on a lot... that DOESNT INVOLVE ANYTHING IN MY BUTT!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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