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Men, what do you want for Valentine's Day?

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1 hour ago, mark clemson said:

We tend to do cards, chocolate, and sex. All mutual. I can wish for whatever I want I suppose, but that's what I'm likely to get. I'm not complaining though, as it works pretty well for us. 🤗

That's more my speed.  I need the chocolates.  I mostly have to buy them for myself though.  

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1 minute ago, preraph said:

That's more my speed.  I need the chocolates.  I mostly have to buy them for myself though.  

I've decided to bring a small bunch of roses (or at least A rose, maybe hot pink) to every lady in my department on the Monday morning before Valentine's Day, along with a few ladies outside my department who are single, so they can enjoy them for the whole week. Along with adorable homemade cookies. I don't want anybody to feel left out. You can get 20 roses at Costco for $20, so it won't break the bank and I'm sure the ladies will like it 🥰

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33 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said:

So ladies, do you like to tear and rip the wrapping paper to get to the prize or do you just want to be presented with your gift??

I'm not big on wrapping paper, but I won't turn it down.  Wrapping paper is better for things that are small and shiny.  For bigger stuff...hide it and leave me clues to go find it?  I mean, if you're giving me an intake manifold, unwrapping the thing becomes a chore.  😎

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3 minutes ago, Ruby Slippers said:

I've decided to bring a small bunch of roses (or at least A rose, maybe hot pink) to every lady in my department on the Monday morning before Valentine's Day, along with a few ladies outside my department who are single, so they can enjoy them for the whole week. Along with adorable homemade cookies. I don't want anybody to feel left out. You can get 20 roses at Costco for $20, so it won't break the bank and I'm sure the ladies will like it 🥰

I used to get a bunch of kiddie valentines and give all my friends one.  Then one day some psycho girlfriend set a guys' bed on fire using the corner of the valentine to start it and then hung it back on the wall.  

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38 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said:

So ladies, do you like to tear and rip the wrapping paper to get to the prize or do you just want to be presented with your gift??

I'm ambivalent but I know some ladies love it. For me, it's the thought that counts, period. If you really have been wrapping gifts for most of your life then you should wrap it; if nothing else she'll admire how neat and pretty it looks. Wrapping nicely is a gift (no pun intended)! I couldn't do it if my life depended on it.

Knowing and understanding your partner is the most important part. The second-most romantic man I know---he proposed to his wife in the Sahara at sunrise, for god's sake---hates Valentine's Day because he thinks it trivializes real romance. As an introvert who was bullied a lot growing up, I felt like I wasn't pretty or good enough to enjoy Valentine's Day, so even now it's something I feel weird about. Meanwhile my husband is one of those grand gestures-types of guys so that took some getting used to. Our first Valentine's Day together I wore lingerie and got him a card, while he made a four-course meal with veal and lobster and fresh oysters.

This year we're headed to Belize to spend a week at an isolated adults-only luxury resort with no phones or internet. Just snorkeling, hiking around Mayan ruins, and sleeping in hammocks on the beach. Valentine's Day dinner will be a private event on our villa's beachfront patio. 🥰

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I hate that wrapping paper is going away and it's mostly gift bags.  I realized this when I happened to be sitting next to a big company party at a restaurant and they put all the gifts on a long table.  It was all bags.  

 

I like wrapping paper.  I only have two friends who will still do it.  One of them only does it because they know I like it.  One of my friends takes forever to open a package and saves all the wrap and then she reminds me of, Remember that year you bought the black Christmas paper with silver stars?  I love that.  I'm encouraging her to use the same wrap I used on her to wrap one for me and give it back sometime.  

 

On V-Day a lot of stuff comes in a special box anyway so it's not as necessary.  But I feel a big red bow is pretty much mandatory.  

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1 hour ago, Happy Lemming said:

I have a question for the ladies, here.

Let's say your guy gives you a present for Valentine's day (not flowers or candy) but an actual present (item). Do you want it gift-wrapped??

I always take the time to carefully wrap (in festive wrapping paper) all the presents that I give.  I try to add a bow or ribbon.  Oddly my mother taught me this as a very young man. (I guess it has stuck with me all these years) She told me a woman loves to tear the wrapping paper to get to the gift.

So ladies, do you like to tear and rip the wrapping paper to get to the prize or do you just want to be presented with your gift??

Loooove wrapped gifts, personally. Lovelovelove. There's an element of suspense in trying to figure out what it is, lol.

(Of course, within reason - please don't wrap the nice dinner! ;))

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10 minutes ago, preraph said:

I hate that wrapping paper is going away and it's mostly gift bags. 

I agree. I'm not going to look a gift horse in the mouth, but I think gift bags are kinda lame and wrapped presents are 100 times cooler.

I'm a total nerd about wrapping presents, go over the top and make a party out of it.

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Btw, are we the only ones who usually celebrate after the actual day? It just seems nicer to do it on a weekend when we're both free, rather than rushing. Plus less crowds.

Oh, to answer the question, I usually get a new lingerie item and some stuff from the sex store. It's probably the LEAST altruistic gift ever, but he seems to like it... :laugh:

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My boyfriend told me to pick any restaurant. All the best ones are booked Friday and Saturday night, so I suggested maybe we go Sunday evening. I wasn't crazy about the idea, and I was kinda tickled when he said he wasn't, either. Apparently he's a sappy romantic deep down as well. Eventually I found a nice place that has an opening. I'm sure we'll stretch it out the whole week, as I do with every holiday ;)

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3 minutes ago, Ruby Slippers said:

My boyfriend told me to pick any restaurant. All the best ones are booked Friday and Saturday night, so I suggested maybe we go Sunday evening. I wasn't crazy about the idea, and I was kinda tickled when he said he wasn't, either. Apparently he's a sappy romantic deep down as well. Eventually I found a nice place that has an opening. I'm sure we'll stretch it out the whole week, as I do with every holiday ;)

see if White Castle has an opening for fri night

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3 hours ago, Ruby Slippers said:

 I'm sending those to work with him, to share with the guys in his office, and also to communicate to them that this is what you get when you get a good girlfriend. Hopefully it inspires them to aspire to something higher ;) 

Why do you think that you're "higher" than their current wives and girlfriends - and why are you sending cookies actively hoping  that they'll compare their loved ones unfavorably to you?  😕  That is about the oddest  reason for sending a treat to an office that I've ever heard of.    It actually makes me feel a bit sad.  

But the part about your plans with your date - that sounds quite festive.  

As for me and my Valentine's wishes?  I don't have a valentine this year ... and when I did, we pretty much let it slide. I brought candy.  She loves candy.  It has to be very deluxe, though.  No Whitman's Sampler box for her.   But the idea that we are "supposed" to be lovey dovey on a particular day of the year usually made me feel the opposite.  I'm a contrarian.  

It might be fun, though, to return to the roots of the celebration.  In ancient Roman times, Lupercalia was a celebration of the coming of Spring, complete with fertility rites and the pairing of women to men via lottery.  The good old Valentine days.

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7 minutes ago, NuevoYorko said:

Why do you think that you're "higher" than their current wives and girlfriends - and why are you sending cookies actively hoping  that they'll compare their loved ones unfavorably to you?  😕  That is about the oddest  reason for sending a treat to an office that I've ever heard of.    It actually makes me feel a bit sad.  

He tells me stories about how a lot of the men he works with on the trading floor are a**h***s with women (his words). Most of them don't have wives or girlfriends, are into the hookup lifestyle. I don't want to contaminate this thread with the stories, but they're sad. He went to his company Christmas party, told them he has a girlfriend, and this one guy kept saying all night, "Naw, man, you're a pimp!" It's a matter of opinion, but I think real love is a higher state than an endless chain of hookups. Maybe cute little heart cookies will remind them there's something sweeter out there. If not, still, free cookies.

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2 hours ago, major_merrick said:

if you're giving me an intake manifold, unwrapping the thing becomes a chore.  😎

My brain immediately went to the thought of unwrapping an Edelbrock Chevy 350 small block intake manifold and I smiled with delight!

Thanks, Major that made my afternoon!!

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4 hours ago, Happy Lemming said:

After reading your post, I think I'll make some sugar-less (heart-shaped) cookies with splenda for her... add some red food coloring to make them festive!! 

Thanks for the idea!!

Boyfriend of the year!

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Lemming that was exactly the image I was trying to convey 😎  Of course I'm not sure how many women want an Edelbrocck manifold for V-day.  But this blonde does. 

Just a note for some of the men:  IDK why, but that fancy lacy lingerie is not comfortable.  Some of it just feels downright scratchy.  I think there's a reason why women don't want to wear that stuff on a daily basis. 

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2 minutes ago, major_merrick said:

IDK why, but that fancy lacy lingerie is not comfortable.  Some of it just feels downright scratchy.  I think there's a reason why women don't want to wear that stuff on a daily basis. 

It never stays on that long, tho :p

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If the relationship is working V-day takes care of itself.  Nothing worse that trying to get all romantic ... when the relationship ain't working. 

The relationship is working and the person is in a reasonably good mood ... I'm happy. We can do anything. 

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