chocolatekisses Posted October 5, 2005 Share Posted October 5, 2005 Well it's a long story. I am engaged. And let me start off by saying that I have been with this man for 7 years and we broke up 2 years ago and I was with someone else during that break up time and my fiance has no idea. The guy was my ex-stepbrother. We have been attracted to eachother since we were little. Well to make a long story short I am in love with my finace and have feelings for my ex-step brother. The Ex stepbrother recently moved to Tennessee and he basically told me that he wanted to me to go with him and that he felt like we were soulmates so forth and so on. Now he is not answering my calls and won't call me back. He is basically ignoring me. He does not like my fiance because of the way he treats me. Now the last time we talked he started playing this phone tag game with me and he said the reason was he wanted to see how much I cared about him, now he wont even call me. He is either mad at me or just trying to see how long I will keep trying. But now I give up. I honestly love my finace so much, but there are a lot of times where I feel like we are not going any where. He has been out of work for almost a year and Im struggling. He is also an alcoholic and I dont know if I want this life. Like I said, I love him to death just dont know what I am doing. As for the step brother we have a lot in common an want the same things, but he has a child and the game he is playing makes me think he was just kidding the whole time. Or he is scared. Someone give me an opinion on this. I dont know if Im coming or going! Link to post Share on other sites
Shana Posted October 5, 2005 Share Posted October 5, 2005 Dump em' both. Here are your choices... Marry a straphanger (no employment) + an alcoholic OR Get with the step BROTHER.. (no less) and inherit a child and a mother to that child and the games that he is playing now... Do you really want any of this for yourself?? Link to post Share on other sites
Firebird Posted October 5, 2005 Share Posted October 5, 2005 WOW!! Your fiance has not worked for a year and has a drinking problem that is really serious. Has he always had a drinking problem or yes that new since he's been without a job? It's kind of weird to end up with you ex step brother but it sounds like you need to move on. I don't think you should be with either one of them. Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted October 5, 2005 Share Posted October 5, 2005 I honestly love my finace so much, but there are a lot of times where I feel like we are not going any where. He has been out of work for almost a year and Im struggling. He is also an alcoholic and I dont know if I want this life. Like I said, I love him to death just dont know what I am doing. Don't marry him until he gets help. Alcoholism is very serious, and could ruin your life just as easily as it will ruin his. As for the step brother we have a lot in common an want the same things, but he has a child and the game he is playing makes me think he was just kidding the whole time. Or he is scared. Someone give me an opinion on this. I dont know if Im coming or going! How 'bout some time as a single woman? It doesn't sound like a good situation overall. It sounds like he is acting childish, and for a father....not a good sign. I agree with everyone else, neither of these guys sound like real winners. You don't have to choose between them, you can always choose neither. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chocolatekisses Posted October 5, 2005 Author Share Posted October 5, 2005 Well thank you all for the advice....Im sure you are all right. But that doesn't change my feelings. I am extremely pissed my ex-stepbrother, we have remained in contact for a very long time and have been seperated several times and always have managed to meet up again. We have been attracted to eachother since we were 6 so its very hard to never think about him again. I care about him. yes he has a child and he is great father and a single father I might add. As for my finace he is also a great man but doesn't seem responsible to be married. It took me 7 years to get a ring and now since he gave it to me nothing is going right. I cannot stop thining about the stepbrother. He has yet to call me back and I can only imagine he is upset with me because he wanted me to move with him and I never answered him then he moved and never said goodbye! what do I think here? I still want him in my life, but he has obviously made a decision so now do I just forget about him? I mean I still see his dad all the time he is like a father to me. wierd situation? My Fiance has no idea and he dont need to know what happened when we were broken up especially since he left me for another woman> I have a great connection with the ex-stepbrother so much that its scary. WTF????????????????? Link to post Share on other sites
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