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 Hi,  @Dimjo9  - Here are responses to your points about "karmic justice".

 

13 hours ago, Dimjo9 said:

1.) Karmic Justice is also for the OPPRESSED.. they will have a life of happiness & peace provided they walk the path of righteousness..The BS did nothing except they married the wrong person, their fate to have a loving home, caring & honest wife is still to come & will be..

Sure, it might play out like that sometimes with a happy ending for BS. But what about when it doesn't?

Think about a situation where a WS cheats, then divorces, and marries the AP.  In those cases, happily ever after was for the WS. Depending on divorce laws, WS might have take half the marriage assets AND BS is paying spousal support - so helping fund her new life. BS might or might not build a new marriage of their own. They might be stuck with a lot less money and serious trust issues in any new relationship.

So, no, no "karmic justice" in a case like that. Absolutely no guarantee of a great future.

 

13 hours ago, Dimjo9 said:

2.) WS gotten scot free ? I haven’t heard one that doesn’t regret & haunted for life.

I have and I'm sure there are plenty more. Every so often one posts on these boards.

But let's pretend you're right. So, we have some WS who's lives are completely blown up by DDays, losing spouse, finances halved or worse, maybe lose their job in some cases, maybe kids hate them, etc.

And then we have others - some mixed feelings. Some regret and guilt over betraying their spouse. Maybe some longing for their AP. Marriage seems a bit stale and boring at times.

So - from a "karmic justice" perspective, what can we say? One WS has their life ruined while one gets some transitory emotional distress??  It's not even a comparison in severity. How is that karmic justice?  Oh yeah, it's NOT.

 

13 hours ago, Dimjo9 said:

3.) Certainly its true many are born, abuse & perished in poverty. We can’t change or alter creation the way it happened.

My point exactly. No "karmic justice" for them either.

 

13 hours ago, Dimjo9 said:

“dura lex, sed lex”

Nope. It's sometimes harsh, but it's not "law" at all. For WSs, you get a spectrum of results: from very severe to mildly severe to minimal to sometimes actually pretty positive. It all depends on the particulars of their situation and how it played out.

Calling that "karmic justice" is hooey. It's just the usual normal curve of human situations, with a skew towards negative results because of the nature of affairs.

Welcome to reality.

 

 

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I agree.  No such thing as karma.  When I do the right thing...it ends badly.  When I follow my usual nature, things go right.  Moral of the story?  Limit your vices, but feel free to be a nasty little viper when the situation calls for it.

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One could say no longer having that person in your life is karmic justice. 

However,  it's all too unfair.  Everyone loses no matter how it turns out. 

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l dunno , thought a lottttttt about this myself though last few yrs.

l'd say l've seen both and going through divorce myself 7yrs ago , you start taking notice of this stuff in others ad their sitch too.  A few examples, a friends w screwed around, they split , she's tried 5 times to get back with him over 10yrs or so and she's just an over weight lonely woman now , hasn't found anyone else. He couldn't be happier, says it was the best thing ever happened and has a great gf , life, even loves her kids.

Another , again she screwed around, he's still on his own not sure why, bought another house the son mostly lives with him7 yrs, because since the split she's basically gone mad.

Mine , well l'd checked out long ago tbh and l really don't know how we could've saved it, but she did do the splitting up. She's remarried now but l'm pretty sure there's something weird, she def' sold herself way way short to he ain't no prince . She's working harder than ever and in debt to her neck . Me l only work pt now and pretty well do and live what l want. And when my gf's here , l really couldn't ask for much more , we have a very very cool life , get along really special and she's gorgeous , but she does have problems and we're only together pt. which sort of suited me anyway because l did have a bit of trouble living with someone again to start , it's been awhile.

A friend, she left after 30yrs, no warning, he's over in the states few hours from NY , so whatever their laws are. She's been with the affair guy right through. He's 10yrs younger but he's over weight to hell and an ugly bastard , slob, two divorces, no money . My poor mate is virtually funding him and her and paying off their 20ac place for them too, nice. He's been alone since but he's had plenty of offers , he's just not interested. She sounds miserable, doubled in weight  big health problems and now drinks like a fish.

Ther's others , but just in say any of that , is there any karma , hell l dunno. Mixed bag really., same with my own sitch.

Interesting to read up there though that most regret it , wonder how right that is.

 

 

 

 

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On 1/29/2020 at 5:19 PM, DKT3 said:

However,  it's all too unfair.  Everyone loses no matter how it turns out. 

I think in our case, everyone won. H and I got together full time, and have been blissfully M now for years. XBW eventually found someone, and they seem quite settled. All offspring did well out of it, the extended family were pleased initially and we’ve all just grown much much closer. And, of course, the divorce lawyers did well out of the protracted performance she put them through, so they’re no doubt comfortably retired 🤣. Can’t think of anyone who lost. 

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To my observation , it's very 50 50 , some have seemed to cop it , but others somehow slip on through get away with it all landing on their feet and into even more luck, lookin like a saint.

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