should i contact my ex a year later

[bhamwarjones]

hi im in a delemma i had an awsome realathionship witha girl for about 3 1/2 years. untill one day she said the typical words i dont love you any more. i tried very hard to win her back but did not succeed. as there were people in her life that were not helping the situation. we remained friends for about a year even though at times she was very distant. and then she moved away to a diffrent town. and we ceased contact from each other for over a year now.

 

i have had sevral other realationships after her but none of them worked out as the girls were not my type.

 

now my ex girlfriend she is originally australian and that last conversation we had was that she whould be moving back to Oz in a years time.

which will probably be in december this year.

i had the feeling on our last conversation that she still felt some thing and was unsure about her decision as she was asking funny questions like will i be mad at her and dont change my number and if i do contact her and let her know.

now its going to be her birthday in a few weeks and ive never missed her birthday should i send her a present and try and contact her

 

and if so what whould be the direction to try this what whould i say how could i test the water if she feels diffrent now.

 

or should i just let the past be the past

[slubberdegullion]

Why, fergawd's sake, would you contact her now after you and she have been broken up for a year?

 

Pining for a rosy past that never really existed won't solve anything. My friend, move on and give her the freedom to do the same.

[bhamwarjones]

what about just sending a present to her and not having any expectations about getting back together.

[pippen_2k]

How about running infront of moving bus and not expecting it to hurt?

 

Man dont kid yourself, if you send her a present and you get absolutly no reply..not even a thanks you will be crushed.

 

Sending her a present you are expecting something.