Gaeta Posted February 3, 2020 Share Posted February 3, 2020 Age is not just a number. I am 54 years old. I don't have the patience, the energy, the go-get-it attitude I had when I was 40. My entire body aches, I cannot stay up till midnight and be energetic at work the next day like I used to. I don't feel like having sex 7 days a week anymore. I may look 10 years younger but in my head and my body I am 54! I use to get that all the time when I was online dating, men 10-15 years younger chasing me wit but you look so much younger... so what I look younger I am still my age! In 10 years I won't be able to make a man 14 years younger happy! while he's at the prime of his life I'll be having my first hip surgery! 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted February 3, 2020 Share Posted February 3, 2020 I think "age is just a number" is somewhat true. My mom is 72 and still very active. She gets out in the scorching heat in her bathing suit and shorts and mows her own big yard, because she's not satisfied with the way anyone else does it. My dad is 83 and is still so active he runs circles around some people 20 years younger or more. My boyfriend is 55, and while it's likely he had even more stamina 10 or 20 years ago, he's very fit, works out for at least an hour intensely almost every day, is a total go-getter, is all over me all the time and never wants to skip a day of sex. His sex drive is stronger than plenty of men 10 or 20 years younger and I freakin love it! Some people have a remarkable life force and vitality, a powerful will to thrive and live. My family is like this and so am I and so is my man. When I encountered my boyfriend on the dating site, it was blindingly obvious from his profile that he's pulsing with this vitality. All the pictures of him on top of huge snowy mountains looking relaxed and glowing were a strong hint. However... it's still never OK to lie and misrepresent your age to a potential partner. This is a weak move of low self-confidence. You give them the accurate information and let them decide. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted February 3, 2020 Share Posted February 3, 2020 ^^ The only problem with this, and this is speaking as a guy around the same age as your guy is and maybe even more active/virile than he is, at this stage in life, it takes just one hit medically and you can tank very quickly....I've seen it. literally dozens of times over the last few years...Someone very close to me late last year, had a small stroke, and at 61 succumbed to the effects...This was a guy that ran and completed the NYC marathon a few months earlier...I'm doing great right now, but I wont kid myself into thinking I am the same I was 20 years ago, because that would be nonsense.... Point is anything is possible, just that the odds start to get stacked against you as time moves on...That's why its understandable that this woman feels this way, even though its possible that she may tank before he does...Its just less likely ... Father time....Undefeated.... TFY 2 Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted February 3, 2020 Share Posted February 3, 2020 Why is anyone entitled to know someone else's age. Not sure about that, unless childbearing / rearing is involved. My mother raised me to believe it is impolite to ask a woman her age. I suppose that is sexist but I seem to have adhered to it over the years. No woman is ever going to lie about her age to me because I am going to ask. Basically her age or how much she weighs is none of my business; I'm there to find out whether I am interested in her or not. This guy, though, sounds straight up like he's trying to mislead you. Outright lying about his age combined with the location thing ... too much. Not quite getting why on this thread a man lying about his age is being conflated with a woman using filters to enhance her appearance in photos. Lying about one's age is not gender specific. Men do it, women do it, for some people it's a deal breaker. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted February 3, 2020 Share Posted February 3, 2020 23 minutes ago, thefooloftheyear said: Father time....Undefeated.... A guy I worked with, looked after himself very well, had a healthy diet, was always going to the gym and running. One day at 45 he ruptured his Achilles tendon, ended up seeing an orthopaedic surgeon. He asked the surgeon why had it happened and the surgeon said "Old age". Ageing of the tendon made it more likely to rupture. In fact he had multiple signs of ageing on his xrays He was devastated, he had put all that work in to his fitness, yet ageing ignored all that and carried on relentlessly anyway.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted February 3, 2020 Share Posted February 3, 2020 2 hours ago, thefooloftheyear said: Father time....Undefeated.... I see what you're saying. I think a lot of people kid themselves about aging. My point is just that not all people of X age slow down in the same ways. My dad is an example of someone who took a tremendous hit at age 56 but persevered in spite of all the odds. He suffered a major life-threatening accident that all the doctors said should have killed him, would have killed a normal person. He was out of the hospital and back to his active lifestyle in 2 months, though all the doctors said he should have been in for at least 6 months. Almost 30 years later in his 80s and he's slowed down some, but still going strong. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 3, 2020 Share Posted February 3, 2020 On 1/30/2020 at 10:23 PM, thefooloftheyear said: Ouch...😬 I dunno….Something tells me if the roles were reversed here all the women would be telling the guy to give her a shot...I dunno... TFY Not if she lied about her age or weight. Lying is a BAD thing. Everyone should just keep moving once they know someone is a liar. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PinkFlamingo Posted February 9, 2020 Share Posted February 9, 2020 (edited) On 1/31/2020 at 3:03 AM, Piddy said: Age is only a number. 14 years is nothing. The having kids issue has sailed, so what's the big deal? So what if he lied about his age. People lie about things like that. That's a white lie in my book. His age shouldn't matter. It's like lying about your weight. What if you told him you weighed 125 lbs and then you tell him after a month you really weighed 135 pounds. Big deal. You look like you weigh 125 lbs.. Who cares? He looks 52. Much about nothing IMO. Don't let that ruin a possible nice compatible relationship. Age should be way down on the list IMO. No, age is not just a number. That's why 25 year old guys can't date 15 year old girls, but 35 year old guy and 25 year old woman is ok. Also, women are already more often than men the caretakers of ailing family members, why should they want to date a man who is much closer to an age where he might need help than they are themselves? I dislike lying and even though I could have reduced my age by 10 years when I was doing online dating, I just didn't. The older I got, the less messages I got online, while offline I still saw cute guys, often much younger than me, being interested. The men on the dating sites used filters and that's how it is. A lot of women like their man to be a bit older and more mature, so seeing a guy lie about his age in order to pass the filters that women put up, is creepy, because it's not enough for him to meet women who are a couple of years younger, no, he wants someone much younger. And 10 pounds difference in weight is really a joke. I would understand it if someone lied about a 40 pounds weight difference, but 10???@fluffyfluff Lying about his age is bad, but lying about where he lives? Unless I was already head over heels with him and blinded by love, I would probably break it off. Edited February 9, 2020 by PinkFlamingo Link to post Share on other sites
Piddy Posted February 10, 2020 Share Posted February 10, 2020 (edited) 36 minutes ago, PinkFlamingo said: No, age is not just a number. That's why 25 year old guys can't date 15 year old girls @fluffyfluff No, 25 year old guys can't date 15 year old girls because it's illegal. 😉 Edited February 10, 2020 by Piddy Link to post Share on other sites
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