basil67 Posted February 1, 2020 Share Posted February 1, 2020 9 hours ago, Daisydooks said: Even if you're not 18 yet, statutory rape has to be on your radar here. She is a minor. You will be an adult and in the eyes of the law, and that is rape. You will always be older and in time, you will be an adult while she is a child, if it is not illegal now. Consent doesnt change rape in the eyes of the law. If it did, 13 year olds would be able to have sex with 27 year olds. That means jail time and it also means your name is going on the sex offender registry for the rest of your life. She isn't worth that. No man I know is with the girl he was with at 15-17. None of them. So why risk this? I know, you care for her now, but this isnt a lasting relationship when we look at stats. How do you know where the OP lives and what their laws are with such a degree of certainty? Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 1, 2020 Share Posted February 1, 2020 9 minutes ago, basil67 said: How do you know where the OP lives and what their laws are with such a degree of certainty? that's just it - it barely matters where they live, in this case. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted February 9, 2020 Share Posted February 9, 2020 (edited) Google "Parents Turn to Police When Daughters Have Sex" Some parents are so vindictive that they will pursue this to the point where you end up having to register as a sex offender for the rest of your life for a teenage indiscretion. Quote Thinking about time I spent around her parents, ways I’d help around the house and other things makes me wonder what their reasoning really is OP--they see it as a betrayal of their trust. If they didn't, you'd still be seeing her and she'd have her phone and they wouldn't be apoplectic. Edited February 9, 2020 by kendahke Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 10, 2020 Share Posted February 10, 2020 10 hours ago, kendahke said: Google "Parents Turn to Police When Daughters Have Sex" Some parents are so vindictive that they will pursue this to the point where you end up having to register as a sex offender for the rest of your life for a teenage indiscretion. OP--they see it as a betrayal of their trust. If they didn't, you'd still be seeing her and she'd have her phone and they wouldn't be apoplectic. Except all of that is wholly irrelevant to this discussion. Does not apply. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 10, 2020 Share Posted February 10, 2020 On 2/1/2020 at 12:01 AM, Thatguy67 said: Thinking about time I spent around her parents, ways I’d help around the house and other things makes me wonder what their reasoning really is. As a 17 year old, I can’t grasp it, but it’s reassuring for someone entirely outside of the situation to think through it the way I have, my mom, my friends, her friends, just a lot of people. I only wish now that I could crush my insecurities that her feelings may change, or that it could’ve been her decisions after all. Their reasoning is that their young, teen daughter suddenly got a lot more serious with her boyfriend. They have the age and experience to understand the gravity of their daughter having her first sexual relationship, especially at such a young age, and they do not feel she is ready for it. So while you may be a good guy, they don't want her making such adult choices so soon. They know the emotional and possible physical ramifications (pregnancy, STIs) of sex between young teens who don't yet have the experience to see around corners or always use the best judgement. Unfortunately, her feelings on this don't really matter in terms of the outcome. She might be over-the-moon for you, but if her parents are shutting it down and give that she's a minor and she's not a total rebel, it's out of her hands. Are you worried that she isn't being honest about why she ended it? I am getting the sense you are concerned she broke up with you for other reasons but perhaps fabricated the story about her parents? Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted February 10, 2020 Share Posted February 10, 2020 (edited) 11 hours ago, SincereOnlineGuy said: Except all of that is wholly irrelevant to this discussion. Does not apply. since you don't know what her parents think and are afraid to go talk to her father face to face to find out for sure that it doesn't apply, it does apply and it is quite germane to the conversation, even if it's something you dont' want to hear. after all, you did say: Quote As a 17 year old, I can’t grasp it, Edited February 10, 2020 by kendahke Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted February 10, 2020 Share Posted February 10, 2020 The problem here is that we have no idea what the girl felt about the "consensual" sex, nor what she feels about the OP. He may be projecting his feelings onto her. She may have felt pressurised into having sex, many young girls do unfortunately. She may be happy her parents got involved. She is conspicuous by her absence here... She has not contacted the OP since she effectively "dumped" him 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 11, 2020 Share Posted February 11, 2020 (edited) 8 hours ago, kendahke said: since you don't know what her parents think and are afraid to go talk to her father face to face to find out for sure that it doesn't apply, it does apply and it is quite germane to the conversation, even if it's something you dont' want to hear. after all, you did say: What "her parents think" is completely irrelevant to the laws in place in the jurisdiction where she lives. A 16yo and a 15yo have zero chance of acquiring the label of "sex offender" for things shared consensually between them. Edited February 11, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Rude Link to post Share on other sites
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