NewfieEd Posted February 2, 2020 Share Posted February 2, 2020 Hi, I recently entered the dating world after 4 years in a relationship. I began talking to a girl online who I saw had a lot of similar interests (not on a dating website) and our conversations were going great. Our conversations got more frequent and longer and the content became more personal. A few days ago she made a comment about dressing up and looking good in public because I had on old work clothes, so anyway the next day when we talked I told her I had on “my nice clothes because I wouldn’t want to upset the fashion police” anyway with this comment the girl instantly stopped writing. I let it go for 3-4 days and said ok I will write and say hi and tell her I’m sorry my comments offended her they were meant in a joking way. She wrote back and said “haha it’s ok don’t worry, I’ve been busy with work” but yet didn’t divulge into much conversation afterwords. I left it alone at that point. Just wondering should I write her again or just leave it where it is. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 2, 2020 Share Posted February 2, 2020 To be clear, did you wear old work clothes on a date with her? Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted February 2, 2020 Share Posted February 2, 2020 When you are trying to impress, especially in writing, snidey. sarky comments rarely go down well. In person you can make it obvious you are "only joking", but I do not think you were "only joking" were you? She attacked your clothes and you retaliated with a dig . You are only apologising as she stopped speaking to you. I think you blew it to tell the truth. She doesn't I guess want to date a guy who is getting all defensive about wearing work clothes on a date. 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author NewfieEd Posted February 2, 2020 Author Share Posted February 2, 2020 (edited) Hi, the work clothes were only worn going around my small community, she wasn’t with me. She just said send me a pic of what you’re doing and I sent a pic of me in some old work clothes just going for some gas. She’s a farm girl and operates equipment so she wears old work clothes etc. But dresses up damn nice after work kind of thing. Edited February 2, 2020 by NewfieEd To add content Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted February 2, 2020 Share Posted February 2, 2020 There has to be more to it than that. the "Fashion Police" comment is as old a I am, and unless you work in that industry... you shouldn't take offence to it. I also know a girl who has an industrial job, and wears old cloths to work. AND... makes a point to get cleaned up, and put on a dress after getting home. If I said it to her... she would laugh, and then punch me. LOL. But then again... she knows me, and the comments I will make. If there's not more to it, that you know of... then it just struck a nerve, and it may be hard to recover from without a face-to-face conversation. I guess I would just leave it alone for now... give it a little time, and then reach out with a simple... "How was you day" kind of comment. If there is a common friend between you two... maybe ask that person to smooth the path. I hope it works out for you. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 2, 2020 Share Posted February 2, 2020 You haven't met this woman. She can't take a lame joke. Stop wasting your time. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted February 2, 2020 Share Posted February 2, 2020 You have no idea about whether that comment is the reason she stopped writing . . . stop blowing this up in your head and move on. Maybe her boyfriend or husband came into the room, 1 Link to post Share on other sites
K.K. Posted February 2, 2020 Share Posted February 2, 2020 3 hours ago, NewfieEd said: A few days ago she made a comment about dressing up and looking good in public because I had on old work clothes, so anyway the next day when we talked I told her I had on “my nice clothes because I wouldn’t want to upset the fashion police” anyway with this comment the girl instantly stopped writing. Yea, you were snarky but she kind of deserved it. 😂 At least she knows you’re gonna stand up for yourself in the face of rudeness or condescending comments. Way to set the precedent! Woo! Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted February 2, 2020 Share Posted February 2, 2020 Leave it where it is. It may have come across as snarky and as a joke, but if she can't take it, you haven't lost anything. Roll without her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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