misskath Posted February 6, 2020 Share Posted February 6, 2020 So I decided to go no contact with my ex for 3 months when things went rocky and we decided to part ways. He reached out to me and was extremely apologetic and wanted to meet me for drinks and talk properly. To me it kind of seemed pretty full on and i was kind of shocked but I kind of went along with it. Its been 3 weeks now since we have been chatting over text things seemed to be going well. Then all of a sudden its gone dead haven't heard from in like 5 days. Im not sure if its me that came across too strong or what hopefully i haven't. I didn't mention once about missing him or lets get back together anything like that. Only thing iv suggested is we go to this fun party with a few friends i said i understand if don't fancy it he said ' yeah im up for it will be fun send me details '. I sent him details then the morning of the party he sent me a text saying ' i don't think ill be coming as it maybe too much and were not together ' I wrote back saying that's fair enough and sorry if i made you feel awkward at all, i thought you was up for it hence why sent you the details ' I left it like that then hours later while i was at the party with friends he text me saying ' wish i was there id love to give you a big kiss ' I was like what the hell he was down the pub so clearly was drinking. I said ' well you could of come but you decided not to ' And he was calling me baby stuff like that. Then he said he was going to call me ( clearly been drinking ) then he didn't and said ' sorry babe its so loud in this pub ' I wrote back saying ' No worries, look after yourself ok and i think theres been abit of a miss communication about tonight which is a shame it could of planned out differently ' THAT was the last thing i sent and last thing he red since that he hasn't text or anything kind of disappeared. Im not sure whats happened and not sure what to do from here. I haven't wanted to pester him as don't want to look needy or desperate for any man haha. And plus his got this new job which puts him really under stress. Any advice would be really appreciated PLEASE be kind as i have the flu stuck in bed haha. Link to post Share on other sites
zeyta Posted February 6, 2020 Share Posted February 6, 2020 I´m sorry but I don´t think this guy is really interested in pursuing a relationship now. If he wanted anything more than maybe be friends or friends with benefits, he would have already told you so after 3 weeks of texting and stuff...Plus, the Disappearing Act after all of this, doesn´t read like a good sign. Link to post Share on other sites
Author misskath Posted February 6, 2020 Author Share Posted February 6, 2020 8 minutes ago, zeyta said: I´m sorry but I don´t think this guy is really interested in pursuing a relationship now. If he wanted anything more than maybe be friends or friends with benefits, he would have already told you so after 3 weeks of texting and stuff...Plus, the Disappearing Act after all of this, doesn´t read like a good sign. we spoke about FWB and he said he doesn't want that and I don't want that either... So really don't think its that. Just don't think this guys heads still correct as some bad things happened to him which made us go patchy. Think its possibly that. Link to post Share on other sites
Malin889 Posted February 7, 2020 Share Posted February 7, 2020 6 hours ago, misskath said: we spoke about FWB and he said he doesn't want that and I don't want that either... So really don't think its that. Just don't think this guys heads still correct as some bad things happened to him which made us go patchy. Think its possibly that. What bad things happen to him? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 7, 2020 Share Posted February 7, 2020 The wishy-washy behaviour is a no. If he were serious about reconnecting, he'd have responded to your last message. He wouldn't risk another guy snapping you up while he's keeping his distance. He was drunk and probably feeling a little randy when contacted you from the pub, but there's no sincere sentiment behind it. My sense is felt guilty for the way things ended and wanted to soothe his conscience when he initially reached out, but when it started to veer into hang-out and flirty territory, he knew (once he sobered up) it wasn't fair to you to keep going. The mature thing to do would be to reply and let you know that hanging out isn't a good idea, but I also get the impression you're both on the younger side and he might not be the most mature dude. How old are you both? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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