I'm done; but she wants to be friends again.

[crazycanuck86]

Long story short, my Ex and I broke up over a year ago. We tried the just being friends thing 5 months afterwords but old mutual feelings kicked and we started getting closer again. Anyways after the whole shebang of texting everyday, some physical intimacy, us talking about getting back together, and her telling strangers how she considered me to be her love etc. She just starts ignoring me, and worst shunning me in front of my friends..the only explanation I got from her for this was someone else showed interested in her and it was "Spontaneous and Unexpexted" and they had a "Mutual connection". Anyways needless to say I didn't exactly have the best reaction to this and pretty much asked her to never see or speak to me again. That was 4 months ago..I recently I ran into her in our old hang out and we finally talked about it. I tried to explain how much that hurt me...but she was defensive, evasive and seemed indifferent on the entire issue and told me that she's happier with her new boyfriend after 4 months then she's been in the longest time and that just led us no where.

the main point during this is discussion/argument she brought up repeatedly that she she doesn't want and any awkwardness, or animosity between us and that she wants to be friends again but after all that I've decided that I'm just done with everything and I'm better off with getting on with my life.

Thanks for listening I just needed to get it out....and for those who've been on the other side of this in the past can you please explain why she would treat me like that and still want to be my friend because that is still just beyond me. 

 

[zeyta]

7 hours ago, crazycanuck86 said:

the main point during this is discussion/argument she brought up repeatedly that she she doesn't want and any awkwardness, or animosity between us and that she wants to be friends again but after all that I've decided that I'm just done with everything and I'm better off with getting on with my life.

Thanks for listening I just needed to get it out....and for those who've been on the other side of this in the past can you please explain why she would treat me like that and still want to be my friend because that is still just beyond me. 

I would say to drop this friendship...It seems to me she told you she wanted to remain friends to easy her own guilty of hurting you, since you already pointed that out to her in your previous talk. If you are not confortable with this friendship, just let it go and whenever you run into her again, be polite, excuse yourself  and go on your way. 

[Marc878]

Hard no contact and block everything unless you want to stayin this mess.

why do that?

[Soak]

I think you are making the right and sensible decision not to be friends with her anymore. Just cease all contact, and most importantly, DO NOT respond to any messages or breadcrumbs from her. At all, no matter how good intentioned you are. She will be right, she'll be fine. Just let go and move forward.

The reasons she wants to remain 'friends' is so she's got a back up or security, or maybe she's just saying it to be nice, but i'd say it's as a stop-gap incase she becomes single again, she'll use you to fill the space and then discard you again once she gets somebody else. She told you outright that she's happier now, how hurtful, so move on my friend.