Kristine Posted February 9, 2020 Share Posted February 9, 2020 People suspect my boyfriend is married, he says divorced, doesn't wear a ring. But he never takes me out at night or hasn't taken me to his place or even told me his addresss. He talked about taking me on a business trip but only if he's going alone. Hasn't introduced me to friends, wants our relationship to be just us. It has me wondering. How did you find out he was married, or did you know? Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted February 9, 2020 Share Posted February 9, 2020 (edited) It wouldn’t matter if he is married or not - any man who wants to isolate me and hide me away is not a man I want to date. Ever. But yeah, I agree with “people” that he is probably married. One more reason to slow this train down Kristine. Edited February 9, 2020 by BaileyB 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted February 9, 2020 Share Posted February 9, 2020 Hard to say if he's married, but certainly one possibility. IF he isn't, don't accept being "stashed" either. (Google that if you're not familiar with the term.) Link to post Share on other sites
Fletch Lives Posted February 9, 2020 Share Posted February 9, 2020 How long have you been dating him? Married guys won't bring the other woman home - the wife is there!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 9, 2020 Share Posted February 9, 2020 Enough red flags for me to walk away. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Fletch Lives Posted February 9, 2020 Share Posted February 9, 2020 (edited) Oh, and if he only sees you during work hours, not at night when he's supposed to be home with his SO, that's another red flag. Edited February 9, 2020 by Fletch Lives Link to post Share on other sites
Daisydooks Posted February 9, 2020 Share Posted February 9, 2020 Everything you listed screams to me he has someone at home. Link to post Share on other sites
IfWishesWereHorses Posted February 10, 2020 Share Posted February 10, 2020 Surely if you have his name it can’t be that difficult to find his address. You could do a search for his name and/or address on your tax assessors website. You could do a search for his name on his local county probate site as well. These things might give you some information. I think if you really want to know you can easily find out. Have you asked him why he’s “stashing” you? Any plans for Valentine’s Day? I had a girlfriend who all of our friends tried to convince her he was married because of the way he acted. It took me less than an hour to get the real picture for her. She could have easily done it but I don’t think she wanted to “know”. Link to post Share on other sites
2BGoodAgain Posted February 10, 2020 Share Posted February 10, 2020 have to agree with the above... red flags! usually, when someone meets someone they're excited about... they want to share that person with EVERYONE, EVERYTHING, etc... even if they're private, they want to share that person with SOMEONE... the fact that you're essentially being stashed... i'd spokeo him. you might find out alot. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 10, 2020 Share Posted February 10, 2020 Why haven't you been to his house yet? Did you ask him if he's married? Link to post Share on other sites
pepperbird Posted February 10, 2020 Share Posted February 10, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, IfWishesWereHorses said: Surely if you have his name it can’t be that difficult to find his address. You could do a search for his name and/or address on your tax assessors website. You could do a search for his name on his local county probate site as well. These things might give you some information. I think if you really want to know you can easily find out. Have you asked him why he’s “stashing” you? Any plans for Valentine’s Day? I had a girlfriend who all of our friends tried to convince her he was married because of the way he acted. It took me less than an hour to get the real picture for her. She could have easily done it but I don’t think she wanted to “know”. the op could even try looking up his address on google maps street view. Edited February 10, 2020 by pepperbird Link to post Share on other sites
2BGoodAgain Posted February 10, 2020 Share Posted February 10, 2020 40 minutes ago, pepperbird said: the op could even try looking up his address on google maps street view. some folk aren't that savvy. my ex-AP didn't realize with just her name, number and/or email addy, guys she chatted online could find out her home addy, etc... not very hard. it's all public info. Link to post Share on other sites
Poppy47 Posted February 10, 2020 Share Posted February 10, 2020 On 2/9/2020 at 11:00 AM, Kristine said: People suspect my boyfriend is married, he says divorced, doesn't wear a ring. But he never takes me out at night or hasn't taken me to his place or even told me his addresss. He talked about taking me on a business trip but only if he's going alone. Hasn't introduced me to friends, wants our relationship to be just us. It has me wondering. How did you find out he was married, or did you know? why don't you ask him???? Link to post Share on other sites
GeorgiaPeach1 Posted February 11, 2020 Share Posted February 11, 2020 Why on Earth would you be sleeping with a man that has never taken you to his home or around any people that he knows? Link to post Share on other sites
ABernie Posted February 11, 2020 Share Posted February 11, 2020 I'll throw a wrench in. I knew he was married, but I believed that he was separating and in the process of a divorce. He introduced me to siblings and brought me to work events. We were photographed together. I think he thought he wanted to get divorced until the gravity of kids, finances, whatever hit him. He is back with his wife with a new baby - who knows if they are happy or not. I don't really care. What a lawyer friend taught me is how to look up public records online if they are in the divorce process. Now I know. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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