Dumper apologizing when the dumpee thinks about getting closure?

[Whatever2345]

Ik some dumpers never apologize and I got my own closure And I told myself that he doesn’t want to be with me and that’s enough closure. I have no hope of reconciliation and I accepted the fact. It’s been 4 months and he comes in my dreams. Blah. Yea it might be my subconscious telling me something or I could be going crazy. He broke up with me in a brutal way if I’m honest he went to basic ghosted me never sent another letter just left while I was sending him letters gifts etc. I felt so stupid after he broke up with that I didn’t get the hint. I thought he was just really busy. But his mom( when her son dating me) asked He  talked to me yet I said no not since he left. It would’ve been 2 months by now He Couldve not wanted me to be strung along or have false hope( he’s in a different state). No contact helps me realize both sides.  But I wish it wasn’t how it happened. It was just really mean But on top of all that. He’s telling everyone I broke up with him when he told me don’t take this as me breaking up with with you. Then he told my friend it’s not my fault how she took it she broke up with me when all I said on my story was let me know if u want me in your life I’m done trying then after 2 days he got out he broke up with me  so I literally have absolute no feelings for him anymore why is he coming in my dreams 

Edited February 11, 2020 by Whatever2345

[assertives]

32 minutes ago, Whatever2345 said:

I literally have absolute no feelings for him anymore why is he coming in my dreams 

There is a chinese saying that basically loosely translates to "what you think about in the day, you'd dream about at night." You could be dreaming of him at night because your thoughts are occupied by him all day.

I suggest keeping yourself busy to distract yourself from thinking of him. Some things you can try such as picking up a new hobby or two, go hiking, solo trip, learning a new language, volunteering at hospital/homeless shelter/animal shelter, journal, cafe hop, people watch, exercise, etc. All these helps enrich your life and open your mind, and you may find yourself a different person or have a different perspective in life.

Spend time focusing on yourself, indulge in abit of self-love/care like getting a facial, a nice bubble bath, etc would help to lift your spirits too. At the end of the day, not every why has a wherefore, and knowing wouldn't change the outcome. So try to let go of the why and accept it as is. You may find it easier to heal and move on. 

Edited February 11, 2020 by assertives