Is She taking Advantage of me or should I stay with her

[S2B]

I always think - don’t go for that great sex - mainly because it made me make stupid decisions about my life/future.

so she’s pretty and honest and good sex. She thinks that’s enough. You don’t.

so ask her to contribute more - and if she says no then don’t see her anymore.

but that’s just me... I hate cheap people. 
I enjoy contributing and planning outings so that we can enjoy more fun times. 
she could be contributing by:

planning a dinner out and buying. Book a vacation she’s paid for. Buy concert tickets. Plan a whale watching trip.

i mean really - if she’s not ever paying then that means she never surprises you with any special outings/surprises! How boring!  What does she get you for Valentine’s Day or Christmas?

her presence isn’t enough - no one is that great. And if she thinks it’s enough then that is way too much ego for me to find anyone like that attractive.

sit her down and let her know what you expect - that she pay at least 1/3 of the time so you can have even more fun together. And she should plan some of those things so it surprises you.

its part of being INVESTED in a relationship ship! She hasn’t had to invest in being with you - it hasn’t cost her anything... and I don’t see that asa good indicator of how interested she is.

she could be with you because it’s easy and you’re easy...with very low expectations from her. 

the fact that she benefits from your friends is odd - how did that come to be? I find that odd.

i wouldn’t marry her. She doesn’t prioritize you - she will always prioritize her son.

as a side note - what nationality is she? Does that figure into this equation?

 

[schlumpy]

If you are not headed towards building a life together, which you indicated your were not, then why all the drama going on in your head? The relationship you have is just something to amuse yourself with. Why all the heavy analysis. Just ride it out to the end. 

[S2B]

I agree, she isn’t investing in the relationship. It’s just there. Nothing more - nothing less.

[c1 110220]

 

Schlumpy, you probably missed out the part where i said "and I want to be with a honest person for the second half of my life" I guess i made other statements as well, and if i was not confused, i would not be here

Ok S2B , You did get onto a point here. Shes Russian, and recently left Russia. I can tell from her talk that shes never had a big salary before so Money means a lot to her. Shes told me that she can buy a lot of things in Russia if shes cash rich. And then here sons an issue as well. Other people have other faults, shes got this one fault 

But thanks Gaius and S2b and others, all the advice helped  

 

Edited February 16, 2020 by c1 110220
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[preraph]

It sounds to me like she is making more than enough money to put her kid through school and contribute a little.  I understand keeping the kids in school is the Number 1 thing, or should be, as opposed to buying fancy cars, etc.  But I'm just guessing she drives a fancy car, too.  So she's living for free, sounds like.  I guess that's what you get for dating a financial analyst.  She analyzed the situation and decided it was her best deal so far.  Are you both sharing housework and cooking or eating out and hiring it done?

[c1 110220]

tO Preraph The fact that shes a Communist and a Financial Analyst 😄 was never in my mind till you and S2B bought it up 

But shes stingy with herself as well, forget car, she wont even put up curtains in her room.  She lives with her son, and shes never asked me to pay for anything in her house, for her rent or daily expenses. Its only when we go out together, which is twice a week for 3 years. 

Edited February 17, 2020 by c1 110220