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Ruby Slippers

It's bad karma to get involved with an attached person. Don't do it. I believe this kinda thing does come back around to you eventually. Keep your conscience clear.

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10 minutes ago, Ruby Slippers said:

It's bad karma to get involved with an attached person. Don't do it. I believe this kinda thing does come back around to you eventually. Keep your conscience clear.

Exactly. Nothing good comes from lying and cheating.

My friends who own this house their relationship came from cheating, well guess what, the old lady has developed dementia, but the new wife still isn't secure in the relationship! How could she be? You cheated with me, you might cheat on me....

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Well, as I said at the start, I was the other man in a relationship 18 years ago. And nothing bad happened from it. She decided to stay with her husband and that was that. I doubt she ever told him of her affair with me. 

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14 hours ago, K.K. said:

I  don’t -it looks like a dead bunny rabbit. 

 - be careful, you are being psycho-analyzed as we speak!

 

 

 

If it looks like a date, and smells like a date...........it's probably a date.

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I mean, sometimes when you travel for work or someone is in town, it's a polite business gesture to take them to lunch.  I can't tell you how many lunches I've had with both single and married clients and coworkers.  I certainly would not assume this is a sex invitation.  I mean, business lunches are common and they are sometimes politically expeditious, sucking up, as it were.  She may be a climber, or it may be within her scope to do some entertaining with employees.  I would call this a business lunch, so I wouldn't turn it down, but if it should take a personal turn, you'll have to be polite but firm.

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1 hour ago, preraph said:

I mean, sometimes when you travel for work or someone is in town, it's a polite business gesture to take them to lunch.  I can't tell you how many lunches I've had with both single and married clients and coworkers.  I certainly would not assume this is a sex invitation.  I mean, business lunches are common and they are sometimes politically expeditious, sucking up, as it were.  She may be a climber, or it may be within her scope to do some entertaining with employees.  I would call this a business lunch, so I wouldn't turn it down, but if it should take a personal turn, you'll have to be polite but firm.

We both work in retail. She just happens to live out of town from where we work. I go from time to time to a particular restaurant in the town where she lives. 

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16 hours ago, Syd8 said:

Like I said, I've done this before. And yes I would be down. I'm lonely and am craving intimacy. 

Oh for goodness sakes!  There are tons of single women out there so go find you one.

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6 hours ago, stillafool said:

Oh for goodness sakes!  There are tons of single women out there so go find you one.

Really? Well none of them want to go out with me. So....

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13 hours ago, Syd8 said:

So is she out of line for wanting to get together with me in the first place? 

Yes! Absorb the boost to your ego, but let your integrity make this decision. She is OFF LIMITS.

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12 hours ago, Ruby Slippers said:

It's bad karma to get involved with an attached person. Don't do it. I believe this kinda thing does come back around to you eventually. Keep your conscience clear.

Agree.  You never know what's on the other end.  People literally get murdered for this.

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22 minutes ago, CautiouslyOptimistic said:

Yes! Absorb the boost to your ego, but let your integrity make this decision. She is OFF LIMITS.

It hasn't boosted my ego. I don't even have one. If anything it's all just confusing to me. 

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16 hours ago, stillafool said:

What does this mean?

It means women are a lot more complicated to work out than men are and they often do/say the opposite of what they really mean.

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23 hours ago, stillafool said:

That should put her back in her place.

BUT he doesn't want to put her back in her place. 
He is  going to be mightily disappointed if she is just taking him to lunch because she is just being friendly or she feels sorry for him...

 

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44 minutes ago, elaine567 said:

BUT he doesn't want to put her back in her place. 
He is  going to be mightily disappointed if she is just taking him to lunch because she is just being friendly or she feels sorry for him...

 

Nah, I won't be disappointed. I'm use to just being the friend. 

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Update. Yesterday was the first day I had seen her at work since she suggested we get together. She asked me if I went to her town on Friday like I said I might do. I told her I didn't go. I told her I may go Wednesday and she said she works that day. I asked what day she is off and she said Saturday. Told her I was off that day too and then she gave me her number. So we are most likely going to meet that day for lunch. Basically I think this is a feeling out stage. I don't know. 

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Aww you got rid of the mesmerizing ‘dead bunny’. 😧

J/K - I like the new one too. 

I’m gonna have to follow this thread because Saturday’s a long way off and I don’t want to miss anything ! I’m so curious which way this is going to go.

Anyway maybe it’s gonna be all platonic and friendly like. But just in case, don’t wear any draws with holes in um. ;)) 

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2 minutes ago, K.K. said:

Aww you got rid of the mesmerizing ‘dead bunny’. 😧

J/K - I like the new one too. 

I’m gonna have to follow this thread because Saturday’s a long way off and I don’t want to miss anything ! I’m so curious which way this is going to go.

Anyway maybe it’s gonna be all platonic and friendly like. But just in case, don’t wear any draws with holes in um. ;)) 

Haha, ok. 

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But why are you meeting her if she's married . and didn't you say something to her about that like ahhh, aren't you married what's hub gonna think about you having lunch with me ?

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1 hour ago, chillii said:

But why are you meeting her if she's married . and didn't you say something to her about that like ahhh, aren't you married what's hub gonna think about you having lunch with me ?

I'm meeting with her because I am lonely and don't have any friends. So it's a nice change of pace for someone to actually want to spend time with me. I haven't asked her why she's wanting to go out for lunch with me since she's married. I plan to do that at lunch. But just from talking to her this week I can tell that this is nothing more than a friendly lunch. But I still want to know why a married woman wants to spend time with me. 

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you know exactly what is going on.

beside getting with people who are not single clearly means you are being use till they go back to their partner and solve their issues.the world is so big, with bunch of singles,you can find a single girl if you really wants ro.dont entertain this girl, also its a coworker, you are making it harder for yourself.🥺🙄

 

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Whatever happened with this? Saturday has been and gone. Did she cancel? Was it friendly and platonic or something more? Did I get the date wrong? Gimme an update, buddy. 🙂 (?) 

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On 2/13/2020 at 12:15 AM, CautiouslyOptimistic said:

Agree.  You never know what's on the other end.  People literally get murdered for this.

Yes....especially dangerous for a guy with a MW....her husband may not be the type to just throw his wife out ....He may wind up putting  you in the hospital....

TFY

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