Shady_Canada Posted February 12, 2020 Share Posted February 12, 2020 Back in Jan 2018 my most recent ex got together. Then around Aug 2018 we broke up. Got back together Apr 2019 and then broke up Jan 2020. We’ve been on and off. I feel like he doesn’t respect me and blames me for everything. That’s why recently I went no contact just to think about everything. About 5 months ago he went into a drug induced psychosis and i spent the whole day trying to calm him down. Then finally had to take him to the ER. He blamed his breakdown on me because of the way I handled it. I just couldn’t handle that. Also when i asked him to start respecting me more he said he’d have to write it down. I feel like I’ve let him get away with disrespecting and blaming me and just rolling with the punches that’s the way he knows to treat me. I was wondering if I set clear boundaries and stop rolling over would anything change. Has anyone went into a relationship for a third time? Half of the reason I’d like to try again is because recently I found out I’m pregnant. I am not sure if i want to keep this baby and I am not sure if this relationship child or not would survive. I’m confused about everything rn. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 12, 2020 Share Posted February 12, 2020 Does he have an ongoing drug problem, OP? On-off relationships usually don't work out well, no. There are a lot of serious issues between you two and clearly stating your boundaries is likely to do nothing to change his behaviour. It will, however, hopefully prevent you from getting pulled down with him. The boundaries you need are to protect your own well-being rather than incite change in him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shady_Canada Posted February 12, 2020 Author Share Posted February 12, 2020 19 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: Does he have an ongoing drug problem, OP? On-off relationships usually don't work out well, no. There are a lot of serious issues between you two and clearly stating your boundaries is likely to do nothing to change his behaviour. It will, however, hopefully prevent you from getting pulled down with him. The boundaries you need are to protect your own well-being rather than incite change in him. Not at the moment. He’s been better since the incident but yeah i don’t have much faith. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 13, 2020 Share Posted February 13, 2020 You have to focus on the baby & yourself. Assume he isn't around. Do you want the child? If yes, do what you need to do for a healthy pregnancy. If no, think about your options & I mean all your options -- adoption, giving the child to the father or terminating the pregnancy but evaluate all of this from you as an individual; can you do it all alone & do you want to? Once you figure out that you can decide if you want to make the same mistake a 3rd time. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 13, 2020 Share Posted February 13, 2020 9 hours ago, Shady_Canada said: Not at the moment. He’s been better since the incident but yeah i don’t have much faith. That doesn't sound promising. I would chart your future without him. Link to post Share on other sites
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