texasgreeneyes Posted April 23, 2020 Share Posted April 23, 2020 32 minutes ago, lifeoflies said: Have you guys ever wondered if these men aren't sniffing around this site? i have seen one instance that this might be happening It'd definitely be interesting if they were! What made you think it's already happened? Link to post Share on other sites
lifeoflies Posted April 23, 2020 Share Posted April 23, 2020 I should not have used the word "any". Good that you have good one. Link to post Share on other sites
lifeoflies Posted April 23, 2020 Share Posted April 23, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, texasgreeneyes said: It'd definitely be interesting if they were! What made you think it's already happened? the guy who moved the stuff in the bathroom. i may have mis-read her post, in but that's the first time it occurred to me it would be a stupid move so maybe i'm off base. . ....and it would be a stupid move Edited April 23, 2020 by lifeoflies Link to post Share on other sites
pepperbird Posted April 24, 2020 Share Posted April 24, 2020 16 hours ago, lifeoflies said: Have you guys ever wondered if these men aren't sniffing around this site? i have seen one instance that this might be happening Maybe that's for the greater good? Most guys who are stepping out, as far as I have seen, aren't really bad guys at heart. A few are, but most don' t seem to really give all that much consideration to the consequences of their choices. Call that wilful blindness or whatever, I don't know. I don't think they set out to hurt anyone, and maybe if they see just how much pain they may be causing, it at least might make them pause for thought. Of course, I'm likely wrong. Could be they just don't care. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Beca L Posted April 24, 2020 Share Posted April 24, 2020 56 minutes ago, pepperbird said: A few are, but most don' t seem to really give all that much consideration to the consequences of their choices. Call that wilful blindness or whatever, I don't know. I don't think they set out to hurt anyone I agree with this but unfortunately it boils down to very immature behaviour on their part. It’s like they’ve never grown up properly. My xmm always said he didn’t mean to hurt me and cause me all this pain but he did. They are like men children and unable to see that actions have consequences. 59 minutes ago, pepperbird said: maybe if they see just how much pain they may be causing, it at least might make them pause for thought. Yes, you’d hope that would happen but I think they are so wrapped in their own thoughts and feelings. They seem oblivious to all the heartache they are causing all around them. ‘Poor old me’ ....they want all the sympathy and attention for themselves. Usually they end up with two women running after them, BS and OW. They can’t believe their luck. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted April 25, 2020 Share Posted April 25, 2020 (edited) On 4/23/2020 at 12:39 PM, pepperbird said: Have you two tried counselling together? On 4/23/2020 at 12:40 PM, Husbandssecret said: Not yet but it’s definitely been part of the discussion I’d bet money he won’t go. Or IF he ever goes with you he won’t be offering his truth about the way he’s manipulated his marriage AND the affair. Discussing something is completely different than someone doing the action that requires them being accountable for their actions and the way they have participated with relationships. not to mention becoming a completely different and better person by becoming honest and faithful. Edited April 25, 2020 by S2B 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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