sweetgirl75 Posted February 14, 2020 Share Posted February 14, 2020 Last night my FWB showed up drunk to my place. I am totally cool with him dating other women but not showing up to my place drunk and wasting my time when I could be with another guy that is sober to satisfy my needs and his as well. I knew he had been with someone because he never dressed to the nines for me and I smelled perfume. We had this night planned for a week . It was so embarrassing. I am thinking about letting this one go and I need the best advice on how to do this. He is very jealous of the guys I date and he says he doesn't want to lose me, but I am not with him for a serious relationship. He should not be putting rules on me of any sort. I just needed to vent. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 14, 2020 Share Posted February 14, 2020 Just don't accept any more of his invitations. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted February 14, 2020 Share Posted February 14, 2020 (edited) Yep... he's a FWB. Just tell him you are done because you won't put up with the drunkenness, and that's it. He's not jealous... he just doesn't want to lose his "Hook-up". Edited February 14, 2020 by Blind-Sided 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 14, 2020 Share Posted February 14, 2020 What happened? He couldn't perform because of the alcohol? Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted February 14, 2020 Share Posted February 14, 2020 Tell him exactly what you said here - or just say you need to move on from this arrangement now. Or anything in between that you are comfortable with. If the relationship was only about sex, you don't really owe him much of an explanation. If you actually were friends, that's when you'd give a little more detail. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 14, 2020 Share Posted February 14, 2020 One of the guys that was my occasional f buddy after us dating didn't take off, he was a big alcoholic and you couldn't really tell by his behavior so much. But after a point he just started choosing alcohol at seems like through his pores and it just didn't smell or feel good. we never had any falling out and we never had any reason to have to confront each other about anything. I simply said no the next time I saw him and he wanted to come over. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sweetgirl75 Posted February 14, 2020 Author Share Posted February 14, 2020 6 hours ago, stillafool said: What happened? He couldn't perform because of the alcohol? That is exactly what happened and he was a jerk about it. I wish he would have stayed away Link to post Share on other sites
Author sweetgirl75 Posted February 14, 2020 Author Share Posted February 14, 2020 8 hours ago, Blind-Sided said: Yep... he's a FWB. Just tell him you are done because you won't put up with the drunkenness, and that's it. He's not jealous... he just doesn't want to lose his "Hook-up". No I’m not putting up with his nonsense. I’ll wish him well and move on 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author sweetgirl75 Posted February 14, 2020 Author Share Posted February 14, 2020 19 hours ago, preraph said: Just don't accept any more of his invitations. Good advice. He’s no longer welcome 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Characterized Posted February 15, 2020 Share Posted February 15, 2020 Let us know that the guy has got the message. It seems a bit odd that he was getting jealous/ possessive of you IF he understood the rules and the boundaries. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 15, 2020 Share Posted February 15, 2020 The operative word being "possessive," because he just lost his convenient no-obligations sex. Link to post Share on other sites
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