Supernova11 Posted March 25, 2020 Share Posted March 25, 2020 (edited) 22 hours ago, jess060191 said: I know this post is old... But I have finally blocked/deleted him out of my life. I feel like an addict going through withdrawals... Its ok. You can come back to this post and talk at any time. Thats why this community is here. May I congratulate you on what is strength. I totally relate to the withdrawal analogy, in fact I have posted that exact analogy on another post only today. Infact, this is my quote which I hope will help you. I dont mean to be impersonal but there is no point rewording it just for the sake of it. “A break up is painful because your body is awash with chemicals like adrenaline, dopamine and norepinephrine flooding your system. They cause you to obsess about your partner. Your reptilian brain isn’t rational and will keep crying out to be with your ex. This is why you have to go no contact. You can’t rationalise these strong feelings away. You have to take away the cause and the chemical imbalance will calm down. You have to stop adding fuel to the fire and it will eventually burn out. You have to take the heroin away from the junkie and eventually their cravings will stop Your recovery will not be linear. There will be times when you think you are doing well and then your grief will over take you like a massive tsunami wave. At this point, don’t fight it, just let the enormous wave crash right over you but know that unlike a real tsunami, at the end of it you will still be standing. Something practical that might help you as well is posting on other peoples issues on this site. I started doing it because by helping others, you actually end up helping yourself and processing the breakup.“ Feel free to keep posting on this site, even if its the same emotions, it doesnt matter. But you really do need to start thinking about self focus now. Watch some mouth of the ape videos on youtube about self focus. Do you currently have hobbies and interests that you are passionate about? Have you come across journalling techniques like having a grateful journal? Keep a journal by your bed and before you go to sleep each night, write three things youare grateful for and when you wake up in the morning, write three things you are grateful for. This, along with many other tools, will help to recondition the mind ✊😀✌️ I adopted the practice of grateful journalling to help me get over an ex four years ago. I am completely over him now - and now have a new ex to get over - but I have incorporated this practice into my daily routine. Edited March 25, 2020 by Supernova11 Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted March 25, 2020 Share Posted March 25, 2020 9 hours ago, simpycurious said: Sorry, just the explanation of why the OP referenced being an "addict." My bad, lately I have been over reacting due to a previous experience. I have been taken everything (online particularly) personally. I'm very sorry about that. I really do feel improvement daily! Link to post Share on other sites
simpycurious Posted March 25, 2020 Share Posted March 25, 2020 No problem ma'am. I am sorry if my question was vague in the first place. I am glad you are doing better today please keep it up. Link to post Share on other sites
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