June2017 Posted February 14, 2020 Share Posted February 14, 2020 In June 2018, my best friend was wronged by her ex. He was playing the chase games with him which made her feel like he didnt want her. What he wanted was her to accompany him and start talking to him when he would say hello, how are you and walk away. She was genuinely confused and felt he didnt want her anymore and was simply being nice. He lashed out in a passive aggressive and rude manner, claiming she was the one who ignored him and theres nothing left to hear from her side. She tried to explain how she was confused and felt like he didnt want to talk to her but he had already made up his mind to walk away from her life. She had asked for free time as she still had something to say to him , she told him this and he said he will hear her out. But he never did. He changed the topic and said he has to meet someone and he never spoke to her again. He left, without a word. No explanation, no goodbye nothing. She was left heartbroken but she was never angry. She always loved him and she still does, which is heartbreaking to watch. After a gap of 1 year, she saw him again. This time around, they ve both seen each other face to face. She tries to avoid him as much as possible but I guess it just happens when he comes face to face in front of her. The first time, he was chatting with a friend and he suddenly turned back and saw my bff and he kept looking at her until she walked away. His body language and facial expression were no longer of his previous spiteful self who would act cocky and ignore. The second time, she was talking to me and he was walking along with his friend and the moment he came a bit close to her, they had eye contact and it looked like he wanted to say something. At that time, I said something to me and she broke off eye contact with him and looked at me. Out of the corner of my eye, I saw him look at me as well and then he walked on. The third time, it was really dark and they ended up crossing paths. She kept my head down and so did he but I was there and I saw him stop the moment he crossed her and look back at her. He was the one who acted rude and petty and decided to not talk to her anymore. He denied their relationship. Then all of a sudden, why has his demeanor changed? I'm saying this because his usual self would have acted cocky and pretended like she didnt exist. Which he does not seem to be doing. What could have changed? Is there still love left in his heart? Or is it a mix of regrets, guilt and love? Link to post Share on other sites
zeyta Posted February 14, 2020 Share Posted February 14, 2020 Feeling guilty, probably. And for the sake of your friend, don't encourage her to go back with someone who has already broken her heart once. Some things are better left in the past, where they belong. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 14, 2020 Share Posted February 14, 2020 It doesn't sound to me like either one of you ever loved each other. it just sounds to me like you are a bad match and couldn't communicate with each other and or just confused about the whole thing. People don't change that much. And anyway he knows where to find you if he ever wanted to get back together. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author June2017 Posted February 14, 2020 Author Share Posted February 14, 2020 38 minutes ago, preraph said: It doesn't sound to me like either one of you ever loved each other. it just sounds to me like you are a bad match and couldn't communicate with each other and or just confused about the whole thing. People don't change that much. And anyway he knows where to find you if he ever wanted to get back together. I dont think so. Because there were problems with this guys attitude. The guy seemed to only hear/expect what he wanted to or should I say how he expected her which became the biggest obstacle in their relationship. If it wasnt they would have been perfect. But you are right. He knows where to find her so that's right. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 14, 2020 Share Posted February 14, 2020 When pove Is right, there isn't all this confusion and struggle. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author June2017 Posted February 14, 2020 Author Share Posted February 14, 2020 22 minutes ago, preraph said: When pove Is right, there isn't all this confusion and struggle. That's not true though. Sometimes it's just bad timing. The guy also has had issues with other women as well so it's not just this case. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 14, 2020 Share Posted February 14, 2020 But that should tell you that the guy isn't plugged in right. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 14, 2020 Share Posted February 14, 2020 Who knows he may have just been messing with her/you because you were there. I agree if he was still interested he knows how to ask to talk. Who broke up with who? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 15, 2020 Share Posted February 15, 2020 Are you talking about yourself and your own ex, OP? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author June2017 Posted February 15, 2020 Author Share Posted February 15, 2020 36 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: Are you talking about yourself and your own ex, OP? No. This is not my story. My ex is a girl not a guy Link to post Share on other sites
Author June2017 Posted February 15, 2020 Author Share Posted February 15, 2020 8 hours ago, stillafool said: Who knows he may have just been messing with her/you because you were there. I agree if he was still interested he knows how to ask to talk. Who broke up with who? He did it with her. Claiming she is at fault. But I agree with the other poster. He knows where to find her so that's relevant. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted February 15, 2020 Share Posted February 15, 2020 On 2/14/2020 at 5:00 PM, June2017 said: The guy also has had issues with other women as well so it's not just this case. That's more than enough reason to leave him alone and let him fumble through life and figure it out on his own. He's an immature clod. You (or your friend) have dodged a bullet with him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 16, 2020 Share Posted February 16, 2020 (edited) On 2/15/2020 at 7:58 AM, June2017 said: No. This is not my story. My ex is a girl not a guy Yes, I know. It simply sounded similar to your own story on your other threads and made me wonder if you had changed up some of the details to post about it from a different angle. Anyway, assuming these people are indeed third parties - not much you can or should do. It's her life to figure out. Edited February 16, 2020 by ExpatInItaly Link to post Share on other sites
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