Logo Posted February 16, 2020 Share Posted February 16, 2020 Don't make a habit out of choosing what feels good over what's actually good for you. -Eric Thomas Have you been in relationships where the quote was applicable? If not can you think of some examples? Link to post Share on other sites
K.K. Posted February 16, 2020 Share Posted February 16, 2020 Almost exclusively ... Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted February 16, 2020 Share Posted February 16, 2020 (edited) Dated this guy over the winter that was really hot and could cook good food, but was sooooo dumb. Like could not form an intelligible sentence beyond “oh okay” and “that’s cool”. >.< I’m not trying to be mean, just explaining the reality. But he was really hot. Himbos are all fun and games until they do something stupid on a bike Edited February 16, 2020 by Cookiesandough 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted February 17, 2020 Share Posted February 17, 2020 (edited) Actually, after some thought, it really didn’t even feel good to date that person. It actually was awful, so my example doesn’t fit here sorry. I don’t think I’ve experienced this Edited February 17, 2020 by Cookiesandough Link to post Share on other sites
Kitty Tantrum Posted February 17, 2020 Share Posted February 17, 2020 My ex-boyfriend. We "clicked" really well and the "feels" were amazing. But he wanted an open relationship, specifically a "hotwife" sort of situation - which, as it turns out, is not good for me at all and turns me into some kinda hot mess (anxious, needy, clingy, afraid to leave the house - somehow managed to magnify all of my social ineptitudes). He also came from a completely different world in terms of culture and socioeconomic class, and his aspirations and the crowd he mingled with had a way of making me feel like a lowly third-world peasant with some kinda fear of material success. In retrospect... DUH. Of course that wasn't good for me. I AM a lowly peasant with a fear of material success. 😎 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted February 17, 2020 Share Posted February 17, 2020 ldealy it should be both , My woman feels soooo fine , but she's also very good for me Ex on the other hand was a wild mix of both but also very very bad for me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
snowboy91 Posted February 17, 2020 Share Posted February 17, 2020 My last relationship was very much like that. The bits that feel good still stick out in my mind, but whenever I see a social media post or bump into her, I realise she was not good for me. Not really because she was a horrible person, but because we were incompatible. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted February 18, 2020 Share Posted February 18, 2020 When l was single mid 40s, having a bunch of super hot younger men chasing me, the thrill, excitement, it felt good but it was not good for me or good to me. Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyM Posted February 20, 2020 Share Posted February 20, 2020 We all do. That's life and it is hard to know the difference. And millions of people do not care what is bad for them. And there is much controversy exactly what is bad or good in the long run. No universal answer to this. Link to post Share on other sites
2BGoodAgain Posted February 20, 2020 Share Posted February 20, 2020 my AP and i used to say the best sex we ever had, was each other...and it wasn't just the sex, it was the mental turn on, it was the conversations, the amount of time we'd spend... it was so good, it was killing us.. i mean, literally... we were dying physically and we were killing the relationships we were in, b/c we'd devote so much time to each other... we neglected everything and everyone, outside of us... so we could only really do it for a few months or weeks at a time... then break up or end it... then do it again ... repeat n rinse... in the end, as awesome and all-consuming as it was... it wasn't really good for either of us... it was like a drug addiction we had for each other... like really... we were both ecstatic, but everyone around us noticed how dead we seem... like a drug addict. Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted February 20, 2020 Share Posted February 20, 2020 The trick to life is having them be one and the same thing, as they are not mutually exclusive. Link to post Share on other sites
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