Beca L Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 5 minutes ago, Lady Cathryn said: He was thinking of me plus his wife his kids. Max overload. I get it. Sorry hope you didn't think I was being to blunt. I understand what you are saying but you like me are caring and loving and we worry about what they will think etc. I get put in these types of situations all the time. I often have to pass WS in the corridor and I worry what I should do. I ignore him all the time because I'm still so hurt and upset about how he has treated me but I wonder whether he thinks I'm being immature for not smiling and saying hello. How could I possibly do that when I'm so hurt and cross with him. He broke my heart, I just can't pretend. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lady Cathryn Posted February 21, 2020 Author Share Posted February 21, 2020 I think it’s a mind set, Beca. What exactly does he offer you? I’m not talking money, with me it’s never that. Several rich guys wanted to marry me. I want heart and soul and honesty. What, exactly, does he bring to the table? Link to post Share on other sites
Beca L Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 7 minutes ago, Lady Cathryn said: I think it’s a mind set, Beca. What exactly does he offer you? I’m not talking money, with me it’s never that. Several rich guys wanted to marry me. I want heart and soul and honesty. What, exactly, does he bring to the table? Good question. I don't really know. It's not money (he is not rich). He's not great looking either. I guess we just get on really well, we have quite similar personalities and he's really good fun. TBH now that you've asked the question it has made me think. I know there are probably other men out there who could bring a lot more to the table but my worry is how I will ever get to meet these men. I don't really wanna do internet dating and I live in such a rural place most men around here are already taken. Men in the UK don't stay single for long. I guess that is why I kept hanging around for MM for so long. I felt that our connection was so great and we had such a fab 12 months together that I didn't think I would find anyway who I got along with so well so I was prepared to wait. I realise now how silly that was and that he was using me and that's why I've decided to let go. I too want heart and soul and honesty. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 For clarity and context I have merged 3 threads running that were on the same topic. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lady Cathryn Posted February 21, 2020 Author Share Posted February 21, 2020 You meet them by disengaging from something that holds you back I think 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Beca L Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 Hi Lady Cathryn, Hope you are ok and still in NC. I just wanted to apologise for going off thread on your topic. It wasn’t intended it just happened so I’m sorry and I hope that no one took offence by it. Enjoy your weekend. Link to post Share on other sites
HadMeOverABarrel Posted February 25, 2020 Share Posted February 25, 2020 On 2/19/2020 at 4:50 PM, Lady Cathryn said: probably so i like your avi btw ! Thanks. Avi pretty much sums up the ow experience, right? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Poppy's sister Posted February 29, 2020 Share Posted February 29, 2020 @Lady Cathryn @Beca L Hi ladies, i have posted my own thread but not got much response, i am not looking to high jack but wanted to say reading your 2 stories gave me the courage to end things ( well i think i have ) and i am on day 3 of NC and bloody hell its awful isnt it ? and Beca your story really touched me as i have a nasty thought my MM would have done something similar...he has left for short period in last 4 months but didn't tell me and has gone back now..saying he has just gone back to make the ending more amicable but they are in counselling and i think if you leave you leave..you dont go back so thank you for being inspiring and how are you both coping ? Link to post Share on other sites
Anna_T Posted March 7, 2020 Share Posted March 7, 2020 Hello, Im so thankful of your story. A man from the past has appeared in my life. He is married but says he has been in love with me for 25 years. This maybe true or not. However, he will never leave his wife. Never. And if he does he has to do it himself and not for me. I could so easily fall down this rabbit hole. His attention, texting and calling is constant and I do feel myself attracted to him and we have a lot of shared history. But thankyou. I know that it would end like this. Me hurt. Stop it before it starts. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted March 7, 2020 Share Posted March 7, 2020 (edited) 40 minutes ago, Anna_T said: A man from the past has appeared in my life. He is married but says he has been in love with me for 25 years. Unfortunately this is a common story. Man in a bad or boring marriage seeks an "other woman". Older and out of the game for years, he decides to delve into the past to see if there is any lingering interest from exes, old friends and acquaintances... Edited March 7, 2020 by elaine567 Link to post Share on other sites
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