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I changed my previous post it had many mistakes, please read.

I met her, 52 years old, in the middle of August 2019, she works and lives in my city and she lives with her son in her home town at the weekend 110 km away-
Until October 1, we went out only to go dancing as friends on Sundays when she returned from her home, she knew almost nothing about my city.

She is  i attractive, even she   had low self-esteem since it had gained 12 kilos, especially accumulated in the hips, due to hypothyroidism.
From what I heard from her , she  literally hated the ex-husband and complained about other things, so I assumed she was not for  romantic relationships anyway,
We started to like each other, because of her joy and in October we started going out together as romantic partners.
The truth is that she was moving very fast in the relationship, like hungry for it, and I let myself go into it and tried to make her happy without overwhelming her and giving  freedom. We talked every day on the phone and many love signals and many I love you from her side.
One day,  I went with her to the doctor and discovered that she had thyroid cancer and suffered from hypothyroidism. This carries lots of emotional mental troubles and physical ones, she had all the symptons.
As of one  month passed,  her behavior began to change, his moods changed continuously and she distrusted or invented situations of infidelity for any minimal thing she would see.
But she was  loving  in his good times we had a good time and excellent sex, btw.
At the beginning of December, she apparently entered into a deep anxiety depression due to economic problems, lived  beyond  her possibilities with  overdue debts that wer going  through judicial means.
This made it worse for our relationship, I gave him advice to defer payments and negotiate with her lawyer.
For not letting her check  my wahtaspp one day he blocked me with rage and after a handwritten  letter of mine unblocked  me. From my current point of view I should have  given her  space and not allow control me. 

One weekend she invited me to her town  house and introduces me to her son and  friends, just on Sunday back she feels tired and  left her in my room alone to calm down, she begins to open  drawers and closets, find some old women's shoes  and cut them angrily with scissors. Another super red flag
I assumed that these mood swings would be temporary and that everything would return to normal, I became more generous with her because of her problems without doing nonsense.
She liked look nice and superfemenine , doing nails etc spite spite econocomic problems   but with low self-esteem for all the previous life that had passed.
He asked his daughter to borrow money who  is already married to pay off part of the debt, and from that moment the daughter has not not talked to her and stopped taking her granddaughter.
I realized that she was getting on  with her family, only with her son and she was like a socially withdrawn although proud of her physical and charisma with the ability to manipulate for being a former saleswoman and her current work yo  the public.
From December 27, stoppped answering my whatsapp, on January 10 we had a coffee and told me that ishe  is sunk again by other debts and incidentally speaks to me aggressively of my possible cheating to her .
From there I communicate with her sporadically and only to support her possible depression.
Three weeks ago she calls me on whastapp and tells me with a tone of almost bragging that she has a new boyfriend, compares me to him and only says that we are different but he is pharmaceutical guy and for me she no longer feels anything,
It seemed totally strange to me,  she wants to feel in love and seduced constantly
I felt totally frustrated about treating myself like this after behaving so well with her, I sent her photos of how I had spent the  end of the year with a pretty attractive female friend and she became totally jealous, I told her that she  was just a friend and that I was not interested in relationships romantic, except with her.
I tell her to return my stuff to me, including a borrowed vacuum cleaner  since I was suddenly changed and  I was worth less than a vacuum cleaner.
The next week she brought  them to me and I told l her to keep them thatas i  had t flu and tiredness.
At night she calls me in a totally affectionate and loving  way, asking me about my supposed girlfriend and I told her  that I didn't feel like adventures, just to recover from the relationship, she said goodbye with kisses and see you tomorrow.
I told her luck that her new conquest has as much patience to love her as I did.
The next day, however I send him a message thanking her for speaking to me in such cordial terms, but she tells me that everything is over and that i  picked up my things, then leaves me blocked.

From that I put contact zero  and I still love her. I am  blocked and she is in a rebound. Will it last because her moody behavior?
From another I  check on her wsp ans she is not very active in  whatssap a, when our conversations were very long and more when she works in a city with few acquaintances.
I do not know what goes through her mind,  sure that with many messes and augmented by his anxiety, I want her  despite everything, i hope  that comes back to me, we had a really good time are sex and everything, and now it seems  is if she  was not her.
I am sure this guy will not last, he is an educated person with options,  sheis so  not much and carrying lots of troubles . controlling, narcissits, money etc.
Any way I still love her and miss her, any suggestions. I do not know what to do blocked and her mind changed completely

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