Am I too old for videogames?

[sothereiwas]

15 minutes ago, Elswyth said:

I think the in game art is fantastic nowadays though.

One reason I switched to Rift is that it is just so much prettier than WoW. Took a lot better GPU though, in those days you could almost run WoW on a pocket calculator. 

[Els]

2 minutes ago, sothereiwas said:

One reason I switched to Rift is that it is just so much prettier than WoW. Took a lot better GPU though, in those days you could almost run WoW on a pocket calculator. 

 Yeah, I read the "WoW memoir" (a book written by one of the developers of vanilla WoW), and apparently they put a LOT of emphasis on being playable on lower end machines. The polygon counts that they restricted themselves to were ridiculous, alongside other things they needed to do (e.g. old flight paths were terrible because they had to limit them to certain areas of the map to prevent fps spikes).

Definitely came with a trade-off though.

[SummerDreams]

1 hour ago, Elswyth said:

What do you do for the gold farming?

 

I could tell you but then I'd have to kill you! 😁

 

[max3732]

3 hours ago, Ruby Slippers said:

There are women out there who are also into playing hours of video games, and these are probably the women you're most naturally compatible with, so no harm in being open about it. I probably wouldn't put it front and center as a hobby unless it's really that important to you, as it can have negative connotations as an unproductive, time-wasting activity if done in excess. 

That makes sense.  A lot of OLD sites have a place for hobbies and people usually put a huge list. So you think there's no harm then in listing it among other activities like swimming, biking, photography, travel, etc? Honestly the thing that I do that wastes a lot more time than videogames are watching youtube videos. Sometimes I wonder where the time went and know I need to cut back on that. I really only spend a couple hours at most on the weekends with videogames these days. 

I'd just hate to alienate a potential match, but if I could find someone who enjoyed games it would be something else to have in common with her

[Pleasant-Sage]

45 minutes ago, max3732 said:

but if I could find someone who enjoyed games it would be something else to have in common with her

I'd say you have hope with the number of women admitting to gaming on this thread 😁

[max3732]

48 minutes ago, Pleasant-Sage said:

I'd say you have hope with the number of women admitting to gaming on this thread 😁

Haha. Where are these women in real life? I always think of gaming as predominately male.

[Woggle]

Never hide who you are in order to get a woman because if you do get her you will be miserable trying to be what she wants. Be who you are and enjoy what you want and woman can take it or leave it. The same people who say video games are immature are the ones who watch Bachelor and Real Housewives.

[Els]

10 hours ago, max3732 said:

Haha. Where are these women in real life? I always think of gaming as predominately male.

There are quite a lot of us (especially in MMOs), but it's not always evident. You'd be amazed how many people I know IRL don't know that I game (because they just assume I don't and the subject never came up), and how many people I know ingame assume I'm male (because it's usually not worth my while to tell them).

[Quinn123]

I think the main thing is to do what you like, do not be shy. Different people have different hobbies, no one has the right to criticize you or make you feel insecure because of your love for video games. Good luck!

[sothereiwas]

On 2/20/2020 at 2:51 AM, Elswyth said:

There are quite a lot of us (especially in MMOs), but it's not always evident. You'd be amazed how many people I know IRL don't know that I game (because they just assume I don't and the subject never came up), and how many people I know ingame assume I'm male (because it's usually not worth my while to tell them).

Raiding tells the tale  We used to raid in rift with guildies who would turn out to be unexpectedly female when <voice client> was needed. If a guild has an open chat channel or several on the server a lot of the ladies tended to hang out there as well.

[2BGoodAgain]

so long as it isn't too criminal... enjoy what you enjoy... be yourself.

so long as you don't neglect real life responsibilities... you can be an adult and have fun, too.

the kid in us never dies... it's just layered with adult responsibilities.. part of growing up, but that kid is still in you.

like my girl... she's super adult.. doesn't really do anything crazy.. yet... she agendas... like stickers, glitter, glue, like HOURS when she has time. to artisify her day. lol. cracks me up.

as for myself, when she asks me if i want to play overwatch more or watch anime or such... i tell her this one thing... if i was only doing this, it'd be sad... but b/c all this supplements my life with you/adulting... it's fun.

of course, not to judge those who are obsessed with anime or video gaming(pros make some serious cash)... if it's what you do, and it doesn't harm others.. like your own kids... then enjoy it... you be you.. and if you want to change, then change it... but don't do it b/c others might look at you weird.. unless you care about that.

i don't play as many games as i used to... but i do play overwatch on console.. though i was thinking about getting the new switch coming out b/c my 5yr old niece might like mario kart, etc..

and i have a couple of smart phone strat games i play.... recent one is this world war 2 real time sim strat game. pretty fun and doesn't require me to be on it 24/7... gawd, i hate myself for getting into those things.. leading clans/alliances into battle with hundreds of people i've yet to meet. lol.

anyway, you be you... enjoy yourself... unless you want to change it b/c of a girl or new social companion... do what makes you feel you... just don't hide in it either.

LIVE LIFE!

[max3732]

On 2/24/2020 at 9:48 AM, 2BGoodAgain said:

so long as it isn't too criminal... enjoy what you enjoy... be yourself.

so long as you don't neglect real life responsibilities... you can be an adult and have fun, too.

the kid in us never dies... it's just layered with adult responsibilities.. part of growing up, but that kid is still in you.

like my girl... she's super adult.. doesn't really do anything crazy.. yet... she agendas... like stickers, glitter, glue, like HOURS when she has time. to artisify her day. lol. cracks me up.

as for myself, when she asks me if i want to play overwatch more or watch anime or such... i tell her this one thing... if i was only doing this, it'd be sad... but b/c all this supplements my life with you/adulting... it's fun.

of course, not to judge those who are obsessed with anime or video gaming(pros make some serious cash)... if it's what you do, and it doesn't harm others.. like your own kids... then enjoy it... you be you.. and if you want to change, then change it... but don't do it b/c others might look at you weird.. unless you care about that.

i don't play as many games as i used to... but i do play overwatch on console.. though i was thinking about getting the new switch coming out b/c my 5yr old niece might like mario kart, etc..

and i have a couple of smart phone strat games i play.... recent one is this world war 2 real time sim strat game. pretty fun and doesn't require me to be on it 24/7... gawd, i hate myself for getting into those things.. leading clans/alliances into battle with hundreds of people i've yet to meet. lol.

anyway, you be you... enjoy yourself... unless you want to change it b/c of a girl or new social companion... do what makes you feel you... just don't hide in it either.

LIVE LIFE!

I just finished playing the Nintendo and was thinking that what bothers me a bit about video games is that it used to be such a social activity. Everyone in my school was playing certain games and we'd go over to teach other's houses and play and discuss different strategies or games during recess. Now it's just me playing and it's like a secret since as far as I know aside from one guy I met no one else I know plays games. Guess it's no worse than spending time reading a book or watching TV/movies

[Blind-Sided]

Sure... and people like me... who don't like to read... games are fine.

BUT... games still are the "Social" point for kids.  My oldest daughter will play Fortnite, call of Duty, and a few others... and she is in live communication with her friends from school.   Even my 8 year old will play Roblox with her friends, but will have her iPad facetine'ng her friends.

I will say this... when my Teen daughter has a friend over... and they see my retro stuff, and I can talk modern stuff... I've actually been called a cool dad. (makes me feel good)

[SummerDreams]

7 hours ago, max3732 said:

Now it's just me playing and it's like a secret since as far as I know aside from one guy I met no one else I know plays games.

You can meet new people online and also meet them in real life, I have done it (I also met a boyfriend there hehe). Who cares what your friends like? When you read a certain book you feel bad because nobody you know reads this book? Life is too short and happiness is hard to find to make it more complicated with limits we put to ourself for no reason.

[mtnbiker3000]

Is it part of who you are? If so, then doing anything other than enjoying it would be trying to control, manipulate or manicure relationships and the way others see you. This is unhealthy. If it's what you want to do, then do it. What if you stemmed your activity in order to meet a mate because it seemed like the best way to increase your odds, what will you do once you inevitably want to enjoy that hobby again? Hide it? Lie about it? Nope! Lame!!!

I don't know if you have any other issues that you want to address along these lines, but your are the right age to glean a lot from a book called 'No More Mr Nice Guy', by Robert Glover (I say right age because his ideas, experiences and theories are based in our age group - 40's and above). It is a very quick read and packed with insight. It helped me a great deal in my self improvement quest. If you're like me, as you are reading, you will find yourself repeating many times "That is so me..."

Also, there was a man in our support group who was concerned about this very same issue and discussed his concerns and fears a lot in group. I believe he was in his late 30's, so just a tad younger.

Edited March 28, 2020 by mtnbiker3000

[max3732]

On 3/28/2020 at 5:29 AM, mtnbiker3000 said:

Is it part of who you are? If so, then doing anything other than enjoying it would be trying to control, manipulate or manicure relationships and the way others see you. This is unhealthy. If it's what you want to do, then do it. What if you stemmed your activity in order to meet a mate because it seemed like the best way to increase your odds, what will you do once you inevitably want to enjoy that hobby again? Hide it? Lie about it? Nope! Lame!!!

I don't know if you have any other issues that you want to address along these lines, but your are the right age to glean a lot from a book called 'No More Mr Nice Guy', by Robert Glover (I say right age because his ideas, experiences and theories are based in our age group - 40's and above). It is a very quick read and packed with insight. It helped me a great deal in my self improvement quest. If you're like me, as you are reading, you will find yourself repeating many times "That is so me..."

Also, there was a man in our support group who was concerned about this very same issue and discussed his concerns and fears a lot in group. I believe he was in his late 30's, so just a tad younger.

I'll take a look at it. I just feel like I've got so many hobbies and interests that I'm bouncing from one thing to the next. There's a sport that I play several times a week and am pretty good at it, but with these other hobbies people who dedicate a lot of time to them probably know a lot more about it than me. 

It just seems like all my interests don't translate into finding a woman and I don't want to be wasting time exploring something in a videogame when I should be doing something more appropriate for me age. It's almost like these superhero movies have given me an excuse to still care about comic books even though I haven't read them since I was little.

When I was in grad school I went pretty much the whole 2 years without playing any videogames since I was so busy with classes and spending time with friends and my girlfriend at the time. So if I met someone who didn't like games I think I could probably give it up completely if I found something else to replace it. That said right now it is something I enjoy and I find really relaxing on the weekends so I think I'm ok playing.

[K.K.]

I don’t think you’re too old for anything. I don’t think anybody is too old to do anything that brings them happiness. They may not do it so well anymore, but they’re never too old to do it. Unfortunately, there’s always going to be someone in our lives that thinks that they own us and may try to stop us from doing what we love. It’s usually a significant other. They call this “sacrificing for the relationship”. I call it FK’ed UP. 😠