Is there any chance?

[k0ukla1995]

Hi everyone, I've posted about my recent breakup a few times but a lot has happened. I got drunk on Valentine's Day and texted him late at night, he didn't respond to my (ridiculous) drunk texts but ended up responding to a sober text i sent him. We talked a bit over the weekend and ended up, yet again, discussing what went wrong in our relationship. Although he insists he doesn't want to be with me, when he talks to me it is clear he still cares very much. We had a pretty heated discussion and he ended up sending me a few paragraphs about how in love with me he was but how much I hurt him because I didn't appreciate him. 

For some more background, I did cheat on my ex extremely early in the relationship and never did it again, although I did some other f*cked up things and he still holds anger towards me for all of these things. I know what this sounds like and trust me so many people have told me to just let it go and move on, but I genuinely love this man so much and would do anything to repair the relationship and do things right. We are both young and I wasn't sure if I was ready to be with someone, but I've met other people since our breakup and absolutely nothing is the same. I know in my heart that we gave up too soon and I want us so badly to work through our issues together.

He told me at the time of the breakup that he "doesnt know what the future holds" in terms of us getting back together, he has also said "we will see each other again" but insists he can't be with me right now. He even asked me to hang out with him two weeks ago, and has told me we can stay friends but I shouldnt get my hopes up. I don't know what any of this means honestly. Ive never been through a breakup like this. Ive only had guys completely cut me off completely or be the one to cut them off. Ive also never had a love like this before so I know why we cant let each other go.

If there is any chance of us being together, what are the steps I should take in order to make this happen? I haven't texted him back since last night, and I plan on not talking to him for a while but I don't want him to forget me. What should I do?

[Negotaurus]

If you're not sure, you leave and don't cheat on people. You just don't do it. 

You may want it but it sounds like it has been all about you the entire relationship. Think about him now for a change.

[ExpatInItaly]

There really isn't much you can do if the other person doesn't want to reconcile, OP. 

He doesn't feel the same way he once did, which is likely why he's okay being friends. He doesn't have the same romantic sentiments attached to you as you do to him; thus, being friendly doesn't hurt him the way it hurts you. 

Your best bet is to take a gigantic step back and leave him be. Don't hang out. Might he miss you? Perhaps. Will he forget you? No. But you seem to be confusing remembering someone with wanting to date someone. They are not the same thing. But you will at least be on the path to healing should he decide to start dating a different girl altogether. If you try to be friends with him, that is going to hurt you even more. Don't put yourself in that position. It's time to listen to what he's telling you (that he doesn't want to be together) and go into self-preservation mode.