Bf issues

[Amber101]

Hi. I'm struggling a lot and was wondering if you could tell me if my bf sounds like a classic narcissist. He is exactly like everything I read. I'm not claiming to be perfect. We all have flaws. The problem is he can't own up to ANYTHING and claims every fight is because of me. He takes 0 responsibility for any of his actions. Whenever we have any type of argument, he starts really bad name calling. If we are having a debate, he will turn it around on me and start attacking MY qualities and the debate isn't even about me. "I expect you to agree because you're this and that" out of nowhere and then when I finally lash back out at him after hours of being called names when I did nothing to him to begin with, he plays the victim and tells me I started the fight and I can't be forgiven. If it's a text message conversation, I go back and show him how I didn't start the fight, how I did nothing wrong, how I called him 0 names and how all of a sudden he started name calling for no reason and his response will be "that was my opinion of you so I did nothing wrong." I feel like I put up with it as much as I can but I'm only human and when finally I hit my breaking point and get mad back, he's always the victim and says  "I'll never speak to you for saying that to me. You attacked me." Actually no, he attacked me first and is playing victim when I finally handed it back to him. He disappears for nights and then if I accuse him of something, he turns the entire fight back on me as if I did something and acts like how dare I accuse him and I can't be forgiven. The original fight was him disappearing for nights but somehow it's what I did. He lies about everything and when I catch him in one, he plays the victim, acts like he didn't lie even though evidence is right in front of him, and he says how dare I act like this to him and breaks up with me even though he was the one who lied and it should be the other way around. He calls me names all day and if I finally can't take it anymore and lose my temper and call him one back then I can't be forgiven for it. He won't ever say he is sorry for anything. He says everything is because of me. I made him call me names. I made him do everything to me. The 2 apologies I've ever gotten from him were "I'm sorry you are offended by that but that is my opinion of you" after he calls me every name in the book and 20 more. Writing this out loud made me feel a little better. What do you guys think?

[Amber101]

He also says be nice be nice all day to me and that I fail at being nice. Not sure why he doesn't see that after he has attacked me verbally first thing and then blamed me for it, I'm not going to be in a nice mood. He is never nice. It's like he expects to treat you like dirt but I'm supposed to be nice back.

[elaine567]

OK, so he is a difficult man, with serious issues and he makes your life a misery.
BUT why are you putting up with it?
Don't say you love him as there is very little to love there.

Your idea of  love is very skewed if this man is the object of your affections...

[Fletch Lives]

Yup, sounds like a control freak.

[Gaeta]

I only needed to read half of this. You need to get a grip on your life and get rid of this jerk. You are in a highly toxic relationship, so much that now you cannot even see how bad this man is with you. 

[clia]

I would never stay in a relationship with a man who yelled at me and called me names.  Why are you putting up with this?

[preraph]

Have some standards for what men you take up with and stay with!  Good grief . Why would you CHOOSE this?  He's not going to change.  He's a jerk.