Flossybeth Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 First time post but really struggling with this. I have been married for 19 years. We moved from the UK to Australia 8 years ago. Last June my husband went on holiday to visit his mum back in the UK as she won't travel to us. While he was there he met up with a female friend he's known since school (so well before me). I knew he would and was fine with it. The problem is that they have been messaging each other almost daily via WhatsApp (text and/or video) since he got back and he hasn't mentioned it once. I found the messages last week by accidentally picking up his phone thinking it was mine. I didn't bring it up with my husband but it's been bothering me but I don't know if I'm over-reacting. His friend has been single as long as I've known her. Given the distance between them there's no chance of anything physical happening but should I confront him, after all it has been 8 months of secrecy and if he can keep that secret what else might he be hiding? Link to post Share on other sites
Buffer Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 Hi Flossybeth, Sorry you find yourself here seeking assistance or advice on your marriage. Do or have you seen any of the messages between the two of them? If so is the tone emotional or about the local football? Sounds like hubby may be having a EA with this lady from the UK. If your husband cannot tell you about the messages, ‘you know there private’, then you have the right to believe there is something going on. If he can’t tell you what he is saying to this person, then it needs to be addressed. Do or can you access his phone and do a data recovery? Take care, exercise, eat healthy, seek assistance from a IC. But it does need to be addressed. cyber hugs Buffer Link to post Share on other sites
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