HopelessNick Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 There's this new girl at work for 2 weeks so far. We're both 24. I'm really quiet and haven't talked much to her so far. On the first day, I added her on Facebook and she accepted immediately. On the second day, I invited her to like a facebook page of mine and she accepted me immediately again. I know she loves cats, so on another day, I tagged her in a cat video. She replied to it immediately and a few seconds later, came to me to ask me a question. She also said "Thanks for the cat video! I loved it." but she said it in a way the whole office would hear it. In the morning we have a meeting where we connect to people through the TV. Yesterday it was just us two in the meeting. It started at 9.15am but she waited until people started talking before entering the room. At the end of the meeting, I said 'well looks like it's just the two of us.' She didn't respond. Maybe because she didn't hear me as I'm softly spoken. I then changed the subject to cats. I told her there's always a couple of kittens outside the back of the office, but they run away from me cause I'm a cat repellent. Also told her I have a cat which belongs in a museum cause i can look at it but can't touch. I thought I was funny, but she just smiled. She talked about her 2 cats for a bit. During the whole conversation though, she started packing her things up to leave the room while she talked and listened. Later on in the day, she asked me a question. I emailed her and she replied "awesome" with a cat emoji. We then didn't talk until the final hour of work where we were the only 2 people left in the whole office. She told me she was looking for places to rent. I asked her if she found anything good yet, and she said nothing that suited her. I told her about the time I lived with the boss when I was looking for a place. Told her the colleague she replaced lives opposite the boss. and told her about the time the wind blew the boss's bin over and the other colleague picked it up, but I took a photo of it, sent it to the boss making the boss think it was the colleague's fault. She said that's funny, but didn't laugh. I also told her about this place I looked at and how the previous renters smoked meth in the garage and accidentally blew it up. She said "Oh. I know all about that! I watch heaps of Breaking Bad!" I said, "Well I watch a lot of Masterchef, but I'm still a bad cook. While later, she said she was brain dead, said goodbye and left. That evening when I left work, I saw the kittens I mentioned earlier. I took a video of me calling them over and them running away. Sent it to her on facebook messenger. She's seen it, but didn't reply. So where does that leave me? Do you think she knows I'm into her or has a feeling I am? I won't see her till Wednesday now. Is it going to be awkward? Cheers guys. Sorry for the long read. Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett.O'hara Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 She is new so she will probably feel obligated respond, even i she doesn't want to. Just give her some time and space to settle in before sending more messages. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HopelessNick Posted February 22, 2020 Author Share Posted February 22, 2020 11 minutes ago, Scarlett.O'hara said: She is new so she will probably feel obligated respond, even i she doesn't want to. Just give her some time and space to settle in before sending more messages. Thanks. Do you think she knows or might have a feeling I'm into her? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 I'm sorry, but you're left nowhere. Your conversation is mostly about cats. I realise that she likes cats and you're using that to get to know her, but cats should only be about 5% of your conversation. Your story about the boss and the colleague is a red flag that you get people into trouble for no reason other than mischief. Your Masterchef joke in response to her saying that she liked Breaking Bad missed the mark because she was opening a conversation about Breaking Bad. Sorry to be so negative. I really didn't want to respond because I didn't want to make you feel bad, but after three identical posts, I figured you really wanted a response, so I give you the truth. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Erik30 Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 Why would it be awkward? It's just a video, it doesn't matter if she doesn't reply ... but she might be getting tired of talking about cats all the time. Ask her out if you want to know if she likes you. (though I'm not sure if that's a good idea with you working together) Link to post Share on other sites
Blues Drive Monster Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 8 hours ago, HopelessNick said: Thanks. Do you think she knows or might have a feeling I'm into her? She might. Women are very good at catching these things quickly. As Scarlett mentioned, she's new so the fact she responded to you in the beginning doesn't mean anything. The best thing to do in these cases is to give it some time. Let her settle in, be a supportive colleague, and if she's into you then she will make it clear to you eventually. Whether she knows you're into her or not doesn't really matter right now. Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted February 23, 2020 Share Posted February 23, 2020 See if you can get her to talk about her background and just listen. No smart ass comments too show how clever you are. Just listen with one hundred percent attention. Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted February 24, 2020 Share Posted February 24, 2020 I think she knows you are into her. You won't leave her alone for a start. In fact you have come on a bit too eager from day 1. But she's not interested I'm afraid so it's best if you back off. Link to post Share on other sites
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