Cman12 Posted February 24, 2020 Share Posted February 24, 2020 So long story short a girl I have been with since November 2019 and dating since the end of 2019 broke up with me last week. Her reasons were that she wanted some freedom and to explore the new town she moved to at the end of January (only 10 minutes from where she was at her parents house). Anyway, I let her go after she dumped me over the phone. I told her I love who she is as a person and thanked her for being honest with me (even tho she most likely didn't tell me everything). I don't have any suspicions, our time together was great and we never argued. Since the end of the break up call Iv gone 100% no contact. I have not looked at any of her stories on social media or liked anything she's posted. And definitely did not text her at ALL. I have not received anything from her either, but she does view my stories on insta and snap within the hour of me posting one. I know the best thing to do is forget about her and I'm trying my best, we were just SO compatible with each other that it's hard to get off the idea of her reaching out eventually. I did go on a date with a new girl I met and it served me well. I have been reading a book from Corey Wayne and I really like his stuff, it's opened my eyes to things I have been doing wrong for years. I think I started getting complacent and even texting her a BIT to much towards the last few weeks we were together. We went to DC together for a trip the week before she dumped me but there were no signs of this coming. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 24, 2020 Share Posted February 24, 2020 24 minutes ago, Cman12 said: I think I started getting complacent and even texting her a BIT to much towards the last few weeks we were together. We went to DC together for a trip the week before she dumped me but there were no signs of this coming. Trust me on this - when we really like a guy, him texting a bit too much is not going to be a problem. Neither is him requesting to sleep over one time, which is what she alleged pushed her to break up with you (according your other thread) I'm sorry as I know it hurts. But I think this girl just realized she didn't feel strong enough about you to keep it going once the initial new-fling thrills wore off. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
zeyta Posted February 27, 2020 Share Posted February 27, 2020 On 2/24/2020 at 5:32 PM, Cman12 said: we were just SO compatible with each other I'm sorry, but If you BOTH were really that compatible, she wouldn't have finished it. Maybe, it wasn't the same feeling for her... On 2/24/2020 at 6:00 PM, ExpatInItaly said: But I think this girl just realized she didn't feel strong enough about you to keep it going once the initial new-fling thrills wore off. Agree. If she had real strong feelings for you, she would have done the courtesy of talking to you personally. Dumping someone over messages or phone calls is not cool. Be strong and move on.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 27, 2020 Share Posted February 27, 2020 You have barely dated for 90 days. This was not some long term thing. Just let her go. Do unfriend / unfollow her on all social media platforms. You don't have to block her but the idea that you are still electronically connected is not NC. It's good that you haven't looked at her stuff by why allow her to have access to your posts? When it is time for you to date somebody else that new person will not be thrilled that you & your EX are "friends." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 27, 2020 Share Posted February 27, 2020 Here's what likely happened. people date to get to know the other person not to make just a commitment with them up front. I 3 months still at dating is just learning who the other person is. It sounds like she just stayed with you long enough to figure out that you were not what she is looking for. that doesn't mean you're a terrible person or that she is up to something. she dated you and decided you were not the one for her. It doesn't mean you were defective, so there's no reason to feel you need to change anything or that if you had it would make a difference. she's finished and you should be finished too and just leave things as they are and move on and not waste anymore time on someone who has already decided she's not interested enough to keep dating you. And find someone who is, and you will. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cman12 Posted February 27, 2020 Author Share Posted February 27, 2020 5 hours ago, zeyta said: I'm sorry, but If you BOTH were really that compatible, she wouldn't have finished it. Maybe, it wasn't the same feeling for her... Agree. If she had real strong feelings for you, she would have done the courtesy of talking to you personally. Dumping someone over messages or phone calls is not cool. Be strong and move on.... She wanted to do it in person but we did not have plans to see each other and wouldn't have been able to for at least a few days. I told her we needed to talk about it the day she said something was on her mind and she said it can wait till we are in person. I called her that same day after work and before she went to work, that's when she dumped me. I didn't want to wait several days thinking about it so I called her to discuss her thoughts Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 Keep doing what you are doing. It's one step at a time and put your shoulder against the door when the winds of grief are pounding on it. Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 You just weren’t compatible. It may have seemed great on your end but it’s obvious she didn’t view it like you did. This happens. NC is the best path. You should cut everything off. never live on hopium Link to post Share on other sites
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