KilaK Posted February 27, 2020 Share Posted February 27, 2020 My boyfriend has a child on the way from his previous relationship l. His ex got pregnant before they broke up He told me he didn’t wanna tell me because he knows i don’t date men with children and he didn’t wanna lose me All he keeps saying is “i lied because i thought you would want me anymore. I don’t wanna push you away, i just didn’t want you to leave me alone behind something i couldn’t stop” I’m so hurt her lie about something this big Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 27, 2020 Share Posted February 27, 2020 Well now you know you can't trust him to be truthful where to put your feelings and your welfare ahead of his own at all. It's all about him. Seems like a great time to let him go. Sorry that happened to you. You are entitled to have standards and requirements. 3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted February 27, 2020 Share Posted February 27, 2020 (edited) That’s so messed up. My first ex did similar to me; Lied about so much and huge things, like mental disorders he had. It does make you feel super hurt. It gave me major trust issues for awhile. If they lie about this, they’ll probably lie about more stuff Edited February 27, 2020 by Cookiesandough 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 27, 2020 Share Posted February 27, 2020 It's understandable. People lie all the time when they know the truth will bring unwanted consequences. People are pain avoidant. That said you now know two things about this guy that you know you don't want to deal with: 1). he's a liar and 2). he has a baby. Just dump him & move on. What's the problem? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted February 27, 2020 Share Posted February 27, 2020 What is the length of your involvement with the baby maker? Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted February 27, 2020 Share Posted February 27, 2020 He's disgusting. He knew his GF was pregnant, but all he was concerned about was jumping into bed with someone else, and not tell them about it. So selfish. Kick this clown to the curb. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 27, 2020 Share Posted February 27, 2020 It is appalling that he concealed the existence of his own child and pretended that he wasn't a father-to-be. Think about where this guy's values are at. His own fun and good times are more important than him taking the responsibility (and hopefully somewhere, the pride) of being a dad. He treated his baby like a shameful secret, an inconvenience. Is that what you want in a partner? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 27, 2020 Share Posted February 27, 2020 19 hours ago, KilaK said: My boyfriend has a child on the way...i don’t date men with children... Why is this so challenging? Date him until the day before due date, and then DTMFA !!! Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 2 hours ago, SincereOnlineGuy said: Date him until the day before due date, and then DTMFA !!! it doesn't work like that. The child's mother is going to want him to go with her to prenatal classes, help in getting the baby's room together, help with various other things--he's going to be busy for the next 20 years. Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 (edited) 3 hours ago, kendahke said: it doesn't work like that. The child's mother is going to want him to go with her to prenatal classes, help in getting the baby's room together, help with various other things--he's going to be busy for the next 20 years. That would matter ONLY if the OP were the guy. This is the woman... the 3rd party, in fact (who, by her own admission, "doesn't date men with children") When you are in a prenatal class, with your first child on the way... you still do not have children. Ergo, the point at which she must get out rather than go against her own standard, is the day before birth. Who cares what the child's mother wants ??? Edited February 28, 2020 by SincereOnlineGuy Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted February 28, 2020 Share Posted February 28, 2020 (edited) 13 hours ago, SincereOnlineGuy said: That would matter ONLY if the OP were the guy. you presume that his ex is a tramp who is sleeping with other men when nothing in OP's initial post said anything like that about her character. Seems the one who is sleeping around is OP's sketchy boyfriend. Quote Who cares what the child's mother wants ??? Again, you're projecting here with no basis for the slur on the guy's ex. OP's ex, clearly, since he's been afraid to even own up to what he's been up to with OP. Edited February 28, 2020 by kendahke Link to post Share on other sites
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